Most common reasons couples argue about
Arguements are an inevitable part of most relationships,What do you think are the 3 most common reasons that couples argue about ?
I was in a relationship and most of the time we argued about-
3. Quality Time
2. Romance
1. Jealousy
I guess being in LDR it was natural to have arguments on that matter.
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@ASilentObserver
In my last relationship we mostly argued about jealousy, time together and pet peeves.
1) Jealousy - This was mostly my girlfriend, but sometimes I was jealous too. I was the school's all-star point guard and JV quarterback, and with that, came a few things, including a lot of girls talking to me. Obviously I let them know I'm taken and we can be friends at most, but sometimes my girlfriend was worried which she had every right to.
2) Time together - This was another big one. I was busy with practice, games and honors classes. My girlfriend was busy with all the extra stuff she has to do for the criminal justice program at school, including volunteering at the police station, doing ride-alongs with officers, and helping with teen court cases. So it was hard to find time when we were both free and didn't have all those other things to worry about. Usually it was either a Saturday morning before I had to go to practice or Sunday after church.
3) Pet peeves - this one is kind of funny but would sometimes drive us both crazy. For one thing, I hate driving slow, and like to go right below the speed limit or a tiny bit above it (just so I don't get pulled over), and my girlfriend didn't like that at all and was either saying "Emirson, you're going to crash" or "If we get pulled over, it's all on you." For the record, neither of those happened. 
Another thing I did that she didn't like very much is that I would sometimes talk too loud on the phone. She called me out of it every time. One thing that used to make me irritated is when when I would be talking to my girlfriend and she wouldn't stop looking at the phone screen! The other thing she used to do is constantly talk during movies and then ask "Wait, what happened? I'm confused." Always made me want to say "Just watch the freaking movie and you'll know!"
@caringLight
I have never been in a serious relationship but I had flings with men and even then there have been arguments. For these flings, we have argued about...
1. The kinds of friends he hung out with
2. That he could only associate with me online because he could not handle being with me face to face
3. He was there for me when I needed him but he expected me to be there for him
4. That he treated me like a joke
5. He snubbed me at a funeral and pretended he did not know me
6. Who was smarter
7. Who understood what logic meant
8. Who got on each other's nerves and what they did
9. He didn't want to admit that he is arrogant and therefore think he's better than everyone else
10. Not to take his other female friends home with him at 4:00 in the morning
11. Why this other woman was a better friend for him
12. I get on his nerves 75% of the time
Money or financial problems
miscommunication or lack of communication
raising children or differences in discipline or child rearing
1. Thinking the issue at hand is more important than the love they have for each other.
2. Jealousy and possessiveness.
3. Feeling like your partner is your belonging and not letting them feel free.
Bordem
Money matters
Lack of Romance
Kids
Timings
So I got into a relationship after few months breaking up from a long term relationship. Well we both were having long term relationships before dating each other. His being fir 10 years and mine for 5 years.
We argue alot over comparing each other with our previous lovers. We both got cheated in our previous relationships so we don't have any trust issues for the moment as we both know how painful it is to get cheated on. But still we both tend to bring up about our old lovers. For instance although my ex lover wasn't the best in the world he always had time for me. But my boyfriend who I am dating now is so busy we rarely get to talk to each other. Either he's busy at work or sleeping cause he's too tired.
Whenever we argue we always bring up about the past lovers. Obviously not on purpose but it makes both of us jealous and angry and sad. I still have no idea how to find a solution for this.
Future
@caringLight
Lack of communication
Lack of understanding
Lack of love
What do you think are the 3 most common reasons that couples argue about ?
That question doesn't make sense. There are reasons couples argue ie. What are the 3 most reason couples argue?
And then there are topics that couples argue about. Ie. What are the 3 most common topics/issues couples argue about?
My answers to these 2 different questions are not the same.
For the first:
- because they disagree about a decision that must be made (and these arguements can be quite civil easily, depending on the underlying stuff)
- because of stress going on that may have nothing to do with the specific arguement (tends to be less civil)
- due to each expressing their differing opinions and having a conversation about it
For the 2nd:
- finances
- responsibilities (ie. chores, childcare, employment)
- quality time with each other (intimacy, how much one spends with their friends & other family vs. partner)
Communication, I think, is the biggest issue. Money comes right after that.
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