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The biggest change in your life due to a new relation is.

tranquilForever68 October 8th, 2016

Hi friends,

Everyone must have some good and bad expeiences in a relationship. For some the relationship may last long while for the others it might end as fast as it starts. But every relation teaches you something and brings in some change in your life which latter on becomes a memorable memory. This is the place to share such happy/sad memory. By doing so you make an effort to cherish your good memory and to throw away your bad memory. So speak up friends.

For me the biggest change happened after i had my first (and only) break-up, when i understood that I need to focus on life more than love. It was hard but i learnt the art-of-living. :P

Waiting for ma

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TheFallenOne14s October 8th, 2016

@tranquilForever68

that's nice to hear <3 , for me it was standards changes, priorities

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tranquilForever68 OP October 9th, 2016

@TheFallenOne14s Gud to hear. I hope your doing gud now :)

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goodMoon2683 October 9th, 2016

For me the relationship which changed my life was my Friendship. I was a low performer and had to struggle a lot to even clear my classs tests. My friends guided me everytime and in due course they gave me enough support and mmoral courage so that i started to believe in my own strength and now i clear my exams so easily.They taught me the value of hardwork and perseverance :)

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tranquilForever68 OP October 9th, 2016

@goodMoon2683 Thats inspiring and so lovely. Im happy you have got such great friends in your life. I wish you stay the same throughout :)

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cheerfulDay083 October 9th, 2016

@tranquilForever68

The biggest change that I experienced was after the breakup between my ex boyfriend and I. I realized that I needed to be more independent and focus on myself rather than looking for someone to fulfill my happiness.

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tranquilForever68 OP October 10th, 2016

@cheerfulDay083 Thats needed. Self-love and self-care cant be given up :) I hope you are happy with how ur life is at present :)

shilpa October 10th, 2016

@cheerfulDay083 - relatable indeed. In fact I am experiencing the same while being in a relationship. Some of us really tend to focus on our partner and eventually we loose our ultimate focus which is us. What you said is indeed an eye opener.

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tranquilForever68 OP October 10th, 2016

@shilpa Rightly said shilpa. Self-care should always be ones first priority. I hope you are having a happy living.

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mikhaela October 17th, 2016

past relationship taught us how to deal things within ourselves. it made us realize the dos and donts especially when you are new to it. and will teach you how to love yourself even more.

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tranquilForever68 OP October 21st, 2016

@mikhaela Well said. Thats what life is. Learning from our mistakes

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tealSouth5591 October 20th, 2016

It happened after my breakup, when iunderstood that i need to value myself more than anyone else first. Self-Worth is more important than valuing others.

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tranquilForever68 OP October 21st, 2016

@tealSouth5591 I could see that relationship breakups are teaching more experiance than any life incident. Hope ur life is positive now.

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ASilentObserver May 27th, 2019

Tagging some amazing buddies to share their experiences and stories.

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FunnyDucky May 27th, 2019

@ASilentObserver

The biggest change in my life that ever happened thanks to or at least hand-in-hand with a relationship was when I was dating a girl one year younger than me. We were both in highschool and she had just come out of a pretty bad relationship eith a guy we both hated. I had loved her for years and was ecstatic to be with her. It was all kinds of rushed and rocky, but the glue holding us together was driving on Wednesdays. We'd talk about anything we had to then, in the privacy of her car. Somwtimws I'd get home well beyond when I was supposed to just because we soent so much time talking or ranting or debating or telling old stories. It's still my favorite part about having been hers. Plus If ever got really riled up about something, she always found it kinda funny, and at the time I was mad that she thought my feelings were funny, but I guess I realized I was kind of amusing when I was mad about something.

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AveryLove May 27th, 2019

@ASilentObserver thanks for the tag!

The biggest change in your life due to a new relation is:

that i learned to love my life and myself more.

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ASilentObserver May 29th, 2019

@AveryLove I am glad you embraced it Avery. We are proud of who you are. πŸ’•

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May 27th, 2019

Wonderful question!

The biggest change in my life due to a relationship was that I realised how much important it is to be ready first. My first and only relationship taught me a lot many things! I now know that love isn't exclusive to just romantic relationships. It's everything. My break up left me question so many things in life but now I understand that needing somebody isn't necessary. It's okay to not want to be in a relationship for the sake of being in one. I am focusing more on myself and I know if someday love comes across, I will be ready for it, hopefully. I don't try to rush things now.

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ASilentObserver May 29th, 2019

@Moana22 Good one Moana and I agree with you. I am sure you will meet someone who will love and care for who you are.

Thank you for sharing it with us. πŸ’•

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rationalHemlock4573 May 27th, 2019

@tranquilForever68 my biggest change was seeing my boyfriend of two and half years receive a three year prison sentence. he decided that three years apart would be too much of a strain on our relationship and didn't want to tarnish all the happy memories we had together so we agreed to go our separate ways. it was the most painful break up i've ever experienced though.

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rationalHemlock4573 May 27th, 2019

to add to this, i think it taught me that even the best of relationships can come to a sudden end & that sometimes we can become so wrapped up in someone else that we don't know how to feel when that person is suddenly not there anymore.

ASilentObserver May 29th, 2019

@rationalHemlock4573 I am sorry to hear iy Hemlock. I can understand how hard it was for ya. πŸ’•

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rationalHemlock4573 May 29th, 2019

@ASilentObserver thank you & yes, it was hard. i don't think i would wish that situation on anyone.

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plumBeechwood7549 May 27th, 2019

My last relationship was a bittersweet one but what I loved the most was how I was in that. It helped me realize what I can be and it changed my thinking, hence changed my life. I am determined now to be that person, irrespective of being in a relationship or not.

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ASilentObserver May 29th, 2019

@plumBeechwood7549 I am glad you found it Plum. Our best wishes and support with you.

Thank you for sharing it with us. πŸ’•

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AbbyHarris1976 May 28th, 2019

Probably becoming more guarded now and LESS trusting and likely to take anyones word for it when they give compliments, even when theyre based on character (and not shallow compliments based only on shallow beauty) - especially very EARLY in a friendship because it takes time for them to develop. ⏰

I dont really like to have to close myself off to such an extreme but after so many failed friendships relationships that have burned a void inside me, it seems that to quote Sam Smith (Way too Good At Goodbye), every time I open up, it hurts. 😭

@niceDaisy36 β€”> check out this thread, its a doozy! πŸ˜€

@ASilentObserver β€”> thank you so much for bringing back this thread! πŸ‘πŸ˜Š

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Daisy7cups May 28th, 2019

@AbbyHarris1976

Thanks Abby, for the tag.

I have had many friendships, i mean never a best friend but still so-called friends whom i thought were good as i trusted them.Yet somehow in due course of time those were a history for me as they alienated me. The biggest change in my life due to all these fallen friendship is that, i started to love and embrace myself.I stopped running for friends, yet let time decide who will be my friends so that i'll have stable friendship based on mutual trust.Back then, I used to feel bad when i moved to new schools and the previous friendships just paused.Yet am so glad that those hard times passed and now i have some good people and am grateful to them for the stable friendship.

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ASilentObserver May 29th, 2019

@niceDaisy36 true Daisy and I appreciate how you embraced it.

Thank you for sharing your experience with us. πŸ’• It is always nice to hear from ya.

Thank you

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Daisy7cups May 31st, 2019

@ASilentObserver

Thank you for replying. Actually am using phone now while always i use computer. So am losing some notifications and then unable to get them. So somehow i guess i missed ur forum post reply notification too.

Thanks again. Take care😊

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AbbyHarris1976 May 30th, 2019

@niceDaisy36

That's the thing ... it's too tiring to be chasing after anyone, and that makes me exhausted on all levels. It's like Charlie Brown running to kick the football and Lucy yanking it away at the last second. laugh Sometimes, those who are being fake toss compliments out there so that I'll chase them, but yank any prospect of starting a meaningful friendship away at the last second.

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Daisy7cups May 31st, 2019

@AbbyHarris1976

Yes, chassing after anyone or one sided friendship is really hurting. And specily hurts when those so called friends try to play conspiracies against us. I have faced times when people whom i helped and trusted tried to pull be down. Yet am frateful for having some good friends in my life that is strengthened by mutual affection and mutual trust😊.

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ASilentObserver May 29th, 2019

@AbbyHarris1976 I hear you Abby and can relate to you.

We appreciate you for who you are and glad to have you with us here.

Sending hugs πŸ’•

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AbbyHarris1976 May 30th, 2019

@ASilentObserver

Thank you so much, and I really appreciate this forum and the much-needed support here. smileyheart

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