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Hi, I am 51, losing my wife, strained relationships with kids, estranged from family, and have literally no friends. I have come to the obvious conclusion that I am terrible at relationships. I have no confidence, low self esteem. I feel like I don't know emotions or feelings except for hurt. I see the world as a web of lies full of liars. That is a world I cannot succeed in, I am honest to a fault. I don't like pretenses and raw me is just an undesirable person to be around. I guess the word dujour for me is toxic. Social media is overflowing with the advice "avoid toxic people" & "dump the toxic person". Very little on how to shed this toxicity, if it means becoming a liar and fake person, no thanks, rather die alone.
@ruffneckred hey Ruff, meant to reply to you the other day but couldnt remember where I saw your post 
. Anyway, I think everyone has something toxic about them. Someone once told me that everyone is an apple and you need to take away just the tiny bad part to be left with the wonderful. I witnessed you helping another new member just a few posts below, and that means you were able to be real, not fake, and in that moment there was nothing toxic. I have issues with self esteem too and so far the Path exercises are helping to show me that and offer some new good habits. So, just know I hear ya and you can reach out.
@Zengrl
Thanks for the kind words, I would like to hear more about the "Path" thing you mentioned. One of my fears / realizations is I am a good person online, but seem to not fair as well in real life interactions. I get very anxious, speaking without thinking, not listening, not remembering most of an interaction, both what was said to me, and what I said. I have hearing issues, tinnitus to be more precise, and it really mucks up verbal communication. Hope to hear from you again, your words meant alot to me, have a great day.
@ruffneckred So the Path is the little teacup symbol on this site. There is the regular path or you can pay for a customized one. Im doing the regular one and the repetition of doing positive activities really helps to create good habits. Also, if you ever choose to have a listener, youll quickly see the difference between active listening and what most people do (which is offering advice nonstop). I also have issues of things I say to people (or I think I do 
). Im trying to do more active listening because that is often more helpful. Hang in there...
@Zengrl
oh, I know what the path is, I have been following the "free" version for some time, frugal me will likely be my demise. I also have had several listeners, most were not a workable situation for various reasons. I have had a individual listener for quite some time, they do listen very well and I dare to say we have become friends, hope that does not jinx things. Sometimes I feel like seeking an additional listener as I feel like I have too great of burden to place on my friend, but I have learned that feeling like that may be normal. Have a great day.
@ASilentObserver
Hi I have problems with my parents, is that included here?
I wish things were better
@plumTown3692
Hello, yes I believe problems with parents are allowed, encouraged, and welcome. With that said, I qualify my statement with the following, if you are a "teen" there is a particular portion of the site that is separate from the "adult" side. I do not know the parameters of the criteria to follow if that applies. Please do not be offended that I seem to be suggesting that issues with parents is a subject for "teens".. I am 51, estranged from my soon to be 90 mother, and had only a very casual relationship with my late father. I believe my parent and the situation that I was raised in contributed significant to my current life long issues. Not that any wrong doing or concious mistakes were made, but little things have weights, and things add up.. Have a great day.
Hey guys :)
Im Anya and Ive been in a relationship for about 2 years now (might be longer). I work as a Deli clerk at Ralphs and I like watching romantic comedies, playing guitar, sing and dance for fun.
Currently things are getting better between my boyfriend and I as were slowly beginning to figure ourselves individually. Its been a journey for me to learn to hold ground of my own and be ok with that knowing that mine is mine and it doesnt have to be like others have it (hopefully that made sense o_O)
So I guess that concludes my lil intro lol 😝
@Ankapav92 thanks for sharing a little about you.. welcome to our community
I met an amazing guy at a wedding and decided to embark on my first real relationship with him after not very long... this is not typical of who I am (read: 30 years old and choosing to be in my first relationship 🤣). It all moved very fast, we moved in together and things started falling apart. I since moved out and we are going to work on our relationship and having our own lives while trying to build a strong relationship. He is recently divorced and realized that he has some things to work on to move past some things that have crept up unexpectedly regarding his ex... and I am trying to encourage him to dig deep and really own his feelings and then move on. I truly believe he is a blessing straight from God for me, and I know he feels the same, I just sometimes get exhausted trying to be everything for him and my insecurities often get the best of me. Such is life. Excited to be here to chat with you all!
@neonRaspberries2187
It is difficult to jump right into a new relationship after divorce... He needs to sort out his feelings but after that (who knows how long it could take) you guys could have an amazing relationship.
@neonRaspberries2187
First off don't feel too off, your not alone. I'm in the 30's myself and have not had a real relationship yet XD
And two I just want to say that please remember than you can't be 'EVERYTHING' for him, you will get burnt out. If you are a believer then remember that you should give all burdons to the Lord and He will guide not only you but this guy you care for in healing and direction. Don't put too much on yourself, you are only human. I learned this from those I care for and take care of. It's easy to try to take on everything for the ones we love, but they have to find their own strength in The Lord and you need to support that more than anything. It will go easier for you both I give you my word <3
Praying for the best for you both!
Hello everyone:) hope your all good
Hey all. So just before half term I was in working animals (I do an animal course at college). I was working with this guy called Brehnen (the other person in our group had to leave class). We were researching sheep. We did that then discussed things like the girl that everyone hates and campus development etc. There was awkward silences in between as we dont know each other well. We were the quietest group as we got on with each other. He seems really nice and obviously Im going to get to know him better. I just wanted to ask about one thing. He doesnt do this with his mates. When we were talking he was blinking really hardly and fast. I havent seen him do it before as I havent been near him as he always sits with his mates in class and I sit with mine. We were sat next to each other at the time. What is it? Also, I need advice on how to get to know him better. Thanks xx
Hi everyone
New to this group and will try my best not to be a "lurker," although that seems to be my natural tendency. Other than that, I have trouble finding people to be friends with. It's complicated.
Will check back in later.
All the best.
@Tom444 hey Tom, I am Obs. Glad to see you joined us. I understand how difficult it is. We all are with you here. Connect with us daily!! 
@Tom444
I find lots of people use these "meet up" groups that they have in most cities
Hello I'm Potato.
@Mashedpotato364.. Hi there welcome
