living with DID
thought i was all the way integrated but a few weeks ago alters popped up again. this hard as i went through a lot of healing over the years. but alters were quiet for like 4 or 5 years. but ones i did not know started being heard. think it due to they feel safe as on May 17th 2017 i moved away from my family and all the harm they did and way doing. so now dealing with more memories too. i also have PTSD, bipolar social anxiety and few others. this due to what happened to me as a child and adult. healing is hard work, but i know that it is rewarding. one social worker i know say only the brave do the hard healing work. i think she right too
stormie and paws
@stormieandpaws
Hi! Yeah, it's definitely really brave to go through that process of connecting with things that are scary or difficult and working through that. 💜
It sounds encouraging what you're saying that these alters are popping up because it feels like things are safe enough for that to happen. Sort of like this is just the next phase of the healing process you've already been working on, and you're able to go a bit deeper because of how well things are going?
@QuietMagic
thank you for being here too. my old friend who has passed away. told me that when one layer has healed another will come up. seem that true here too. due to many many years of abuse. i seem to have many layers of ones inside. this at first was hard for me but after years of dealing with this and doing healing work. i came to see how the alters took on things that were to much for me to handle. in this they saved my life also kelp me from going insane. i learned to be thankful for each of them within too.
@stormieandpaws
That feels like a really compassionate perspective on the alters, that they're just trying to be helpful by taking on experiences/feelings that were too much to handle 💜
@stormieandpaws Hello :) I'm not sure if you've found the section we have here on DID/OSDD in the trauma community. I thought it might be of interest to you. You can find that here - https://www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/
@mytwistedsoul
thank you we still learning our way around here so any help we thankful for.
@stormieandpaws You're welcome! It does take a little time to get the hang of things that's for sure! 😊 If anyone has any questions you're always welcome to reach out!
@mytwistedsoul
thank you still getting use to this not really know if there like a private message thing here that can just be seen by the two people one on one. not posted on like the board were all can see. we had that in other forums we been in. we very much not sure about a lot of things too.
@stormieandpaws The only 1-1 possible is between a listener and a member or listener to listener. Members can set up a thread in the pen pal area for conversations between them but it's still open for everyone to read but most people will be respectful and not intrude. And you can also make a journal or diary thread and you can put in the title no replies if you would rather keep it for your thoughts alone. People will often still up vote (heart) posts as a show of support. There's no obligation or time limit to to reply to anyone, you can simply heart their reply if you want to let them know you saw it 😊
@mytwistedsoul
thank you we still learning all this about this place. we have used other places. even use to own a few forums on what forums/chat platform. but that one went into more a flirting one and that was very triggering for us. so we closed our support rooms there. but each new one to us has a lot to learn in how it works. due to the abuse we have chronic traumatic brain injury. so many things we find hard to understand and remember. we been made fun of due to that and our many learning disabilities. we also had other get mad about our spelling and grammar too. so at times we fearful trying new places online. everyone here so far been kind and understanding too.
@stormieandpaws They're usually really good at keeping the forums clean from things like that. Most people are really supportive here too. It's really sad that others make fun about learning disabilities or any disability for that matter. And spelling, we all make mistakes or sometimes say a word that's the wrong one. But there's nothing wrong with taking time to get to know your way around so that you're all comfortable :)
@mytwistedsoul
thank you so far ones here seem kind and caring. they not seem to get into hurtful remarks like on spelling and grammar that big to us. all our life we been made fun of due to the learning disabilities. even by our dad who not believe in them. he see them as being lazy. so growing up he was very hard on us and abusive about even that. we was not to show emotions either never to cry. he stated we was to soft hearted a lot too. but now we know nothing wrong with being that at all.this place seems nice and supportive too
