At what age you figured that you are a lesbian?

When my bestfriend told me she was into me and i was okay with it without even thinking about it. I flirted back and let her kiss me and didn't even self reflect about how she was a whole female lol

We were 13/14

I am not a lesbian, I am bisexual or pansexual, I think. As a new girl came to school this year, I fell in love with her. I was very surprised, because I thought, I was hetero, but now I accept, that I have a crush on this girl.

Hi I am in my early thirties. I came out last year as lesbian/queer and broke up w my bf of 3 years. I considered myself pansexual before that and had mostly dated men. My relationships w women and nb people have been so much more emotionally involved and I want that in a partner too.

I have a similar experience as well. ^^)

@mikitea68

💜 Love that you were able to find that out about yourself too. It has made a big difference for me and I still question it some and the validity of my label but it feels more true to who I am. Would you want to share more of your experience,? It's ok if not 😊

@sinfulforest I came out as bi to my friends when I was like 13, but its taken me 2 years to figure out that I'm a lesbian and im still not 100% sure lol

@goldenCat9952

It's ok to not be 100% sure! It's not so easy to figure out and people have different specifics on what they consider for themselves. You are still valid 💛

Hi I'm new to 7cups I came on here to connect with people and possibly make new friends. I'm really struggling with my identity, I've been with guys since 17, Im 47, and I feel very alone. Im wondering if Im gay?! I did question in my 20s but didn't pursue it. Anyways maybe someone can shed some light?!

Thanks

Tara

@Betterdays14 I know the feeling. I'm 47 and feel the same.

@Betterdays14

Hi, glad you are here! It's hard to know for sure and I'm still trying to figure it an exact label or if I even need one. A thing that has helped is something called "the lesbian master doc" you can Google. I think it's like 3 or so pages and gives you some ideas on signs you might be a lesbian (not conclusive of course and even if you don't relate to most of any, your identity is still valid) sending hugs if wanted 🤗

I knew since age 9, but didn’t come fully out until 29. It was a hard, painful journey and I am so grateful to finally be in the other side of that.

It’s so worth it to be on the other side.

-Blithe

At the age of 12

I met this girl, my first love who was even more than a Bestfriend since day 1

We told ourselves that we would marry each other in a few years(kids promises)

Since 2019, I knew that I was into girls but I closeted myself as bi till 2021 where I tried to discover more about the fact that I never felt right being with a guy

And now in 2022

I know that I'm a lesbian

Growing and trying to accept myself

i was around 7? first to second grade. i was telling everyone about it. this one girl, she had been bullying me at that time. she told the teacher and the teacher said "that's just her preference"

now i am questioning, but i think I'm Lesbian. sexuality and gender is hard for me.

I feel like I've always known that I like girls because I can't pinpoint the exact time it registered. I identified as bisexual til I went to a girls' high school then I went by Queer & Confused😂. Right before I met my (first and current) girlfriend I realised that I only liked male attention and not men at all. I now go by lesbian but I haven't come out as one because I feel comfortable as Queer, except that I'm not confused this time around😄. It's been a confusing and scary journey but I've had great support from close friends and family.

18. Then was promptly banished from the family for decades. Because I "chose" a sick lifestyle over my family.

I never really had a specific age that I came out, I just realized when I was in high School I was attracted to girls. Cleaning out old papers from my room this summer I found old poetry from maybe 3rd/4th grade that said things like "Jenna is really pretty" and "I wish Ashley liked me too". How my parents never found out growing up I'll never know

@abigail456

Oh my gosh I love that you found stuff like that! Seems like parents are often in denial lol

I was 9 or 10 but I was so involved in the church that I denied it until high school really and then didn’t fully accept and become one with myself and sexuality until I was in college and my friend kissed me and I let her and it was like all my denials kind of melted away because how could something so pure and blissful be bad.

Nothing ever became of us but it was the perfect first kiss and I was in a good place to receive and process all those feelings without shame or anxiety.

I was 13 or 14 I think. So I was in a relationship with this guy when I started to lose feelings for him. I felt so confused about it. At that time I thought that I was bisexual, because I thought I still like men. I had a full on emotional breakdown because I didn't know what my sexuality was, one month later I was definitely sure that I was in fact a lesbian, and it took me another month to tell the guy that I was dating that I'm a lesbian. He didn't react nicely tbh. He even got mad because I "didn't tell him earlier" 💀 and he continued on lecturing me about it. Like dude I can't just immediately say that I'm a lesbian that fast. He went on ig posting on his on how he felt so devastated and that I betrayed him. I get that he was sad about me coming out, but at least he could've respected me coming out. Lol that's all xx

@piyapickle

Oh gosh 🙄 that's a terrible way to react. I'm sorry you had to deal w that. Im glad you were able to be open when you felt ready to.

I was 12 the first time I was attracted to a female. She was a close friend and one night we were home alone. I thought she was beautiful and sexy. Then I dated all men. 😄

I knew that I liked girls since elementary school.

very early on I knew I liked girls but also I was unsure about my gender.

I think I may be queer but I am unaccepting to be called by that.

very obviously, I like girls, I can’t help it

my predicament is how my gender appears to others. I guess pansexual is the best choice of my sexuality.

I absolutely know that I’m me and it doesn’t matter how I label myself, I will always be me.

I was 18. I've never been with a woman as of yet im so excited to finally find my beautiful partner and experience the girl on girl experience 💜💜💜💜💜

Explore my desires and fantasies to finally become real!!!

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@sinfulforest

I was nine years old the first time I kissed a girl. ❤️

When i was 7 and i saw Cameron Diaz on The Mask.

@sinfulforest

I realized I liked girls when I was 14, and came out as bisexual. But when I was 16, I realized I didn't like boys after all, and never did. I'm 18 now and I've been out as a lesbian since I was 16.

@sinfulforest

At 13 i joked that i might be bisexual, and when i became 14 my liking girls was obvious, but still to this day i question thing so....

@raspberryPineapple8569

They say there is an ounce of truth in every statement. 🌈

6-7 years old I knew I was different but I think I finally understood at 9 years old.

I knew when I was 11 but dated and even married a guy because I was "supposed to" because of my family's religious background. But now at 33 I'm out and proud and still have to live with my homophobic family. I'm literally the only out queer person on both sides of my family that I know of.

@Mikitea68

I can very much relate to this. I'm so sorry you still have to live with your family. I left at 17 and never looked back. I am also 33. <3

@sinfulforest I sure hope this isn't weird. But I've been feeling romantic and sexual attraction to females and males equally for a very long time. I think I knew when I was about 8 years old. and the attraction only got stronger from then on. sadly, I am not able to "come out of the closet" yet because of extremely homophobic parents and family.

@sinfulforest

i realized I was lesbian when I was about 14 but I feel like I “knew” for much longer. Something as small as finding the girl always more attractive than the guys or something like that were all things I experienced when I was much younger.

I first found out that is was possible to like the same gender when I was twelve and it just clicked with me cuz it suddenly made sense why I never liked any boys and felt differently towards one of my female friends who I'm actually dating now.

Im 20, didnt feel comfortable kissing a boy, but i Felt really happy by kissing a girl

Around 4th grade or so, although I’m sure I didn’t know the word at that point.

My friends in 8th grade joked about how “fruity” I was and I had no idea that it was a possibility until I actually thought about it

I had few crushes during high school, but I just thought they were cool.... and I do have crushes with guys too.... and most of my anime characters that I used to adore are male.

I guess it really started off when I got close with someone online and "he" turns out to be a "she" when she confessed her love to me and at the same time her true identity...

When I only knew her as a "guy", I have always been attracted to him but I thought he's way older, and cool, and I felt like he was out of my league.. so I just decided to treat him as a "brother".

So when "he" confessed, at that time I was more shocked that she likes me too rather than the fact that "he" is actually a girl.

When we first met, I was still unsure whether to accept her feeling because well, it was something new for me. But then as she kept talking (nervously), I realized that I have fallen for her too much to care about her gender....

But I guess the true realization was after she left. Because I kept searching for another woman to replace her. Not a guy because I just can't imagine myself with a guy anymore...

Lol I forgot to put my age. The realization would be when I was 18years old.

But my first "kiss" (it was just tongue touching - out of curiosity) with another girl was when I was 6years old.