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what are your pronouns and chosen name??

Listeningsarinn June 17th, 2021

Happy pride month awesome lgbtq+ community!

If comfortable share with me in replies <3
What are your pronouns and your preferred name?? How do you identify??
What makes pronouns and chosen names such an important context is in fact, that how you are referred to is not only one of the hugest things, giving a person sense of identity and comes as a way of expressing who they truly are, but also others saying it and using it in daily conversations is a way of showing acceptance and acknowledgment of one’s identity by people around them
A way of experiencing one’s true self and having it seen and validated
With that said, being referred to with wrong pronouns or dead names (the name assigned at birth that does not fit in with the gender identity one identifies with) can come as extremely hurtful, especially if a person is out and is being referred to intentionally in a wrong way
Even as a closeted Trans or non-binary person being referred to in a wrong way can be a trigger for more extreme social and mental dysphoria and cause a sense of being invalidated or being unseen as who they are, the very known feeling of being in the wrong body, or carrying a heavy weight of wrong identity
~ if someone uses more than one pronouns, using either of those is okay but it's usually preffered to switch between the chosen pronouns, for example for a friend of mine using she/they prounouns, i'd go like, "they came to my place and when i asked them about their kid, she said..."
A reminder that who you are, and how you view your identity and yourself is completely valid, accepted and enough exactly the way you are
~ If someone misgenders you:
Don’t be afraid of correcting them, if the idea of correcting people makes you uncomfortable you can make it easier for yourself by practicing with your reflection in the mirror or a friend/family member you are out to
You can also ask someone you are out to, to help you with correcting people either by telling them upfront or using the right pronouns in front of them
As an ally you need to know that:
~ asking is better than mistaking, please do not “assume” one’s pronouns by their clothes, or their sexual body parts
it’s always okay to ask a person what pronouns they use or, how would they like you to call them, most people will be happy to have you ask and respect their answer keeping it in mind in future conversation
~ if asking is not possible for you in a given situation, it’s safe to use they/them pronouns until you can be sure, in the meanwhile, listen for people close to them referring to the person
~ a person’s “real” name is their chosen name and the way they identify is their “only gender”, asking for birth names and gender assigned at birth is a rude and inappropriate act
~ Do not out a person, unless they are asking you to help with coming out
~ do not push your idea of a label someone has chosen on them, every one’s experience is unique and that is completely okay and won’t make their experience any less real
~ you may make mistakes and misgender the person at times which is completely okay and normal, humans make mistakes, if you misgender someone:

  • Don’t argue or take it badly if they or someone else corrects you
  • Either If you are corrected by someone or you notice your mistake yourself, don’t make a big deal of it, that can make it uncomfy both for you and the person you misgendered
  • Apologize briefly, correct yourself and move on trying to be more careful in the rest of conversation
more to come on dysphoria and how to cope with it!
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mobteru June 30th, 2021

my name is ava and i go by she/her pronouns!! 💖

Misha1303 July 22nd, 2021

I’m struggling with gender right now but they/them is a fair option for me and my preferred name is Misha. I am omnisexual ✨

Savcj16 July 25th, 2021

Hey there! I prefer her or she. My taken name is Savannah which embodies who I am.

July 26th, 2021

im still figuring out what name and pronouns i like but for now i like Pascal and he/they pronouns.

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August 25th, 2021

@blueberrywaffles make that percy :D

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HideySquirrel July 29th, 2021

I go by Alex on this site and my pronouns are she and her. I'm a lesbian. laugh 🏳️‍🌈

LonelyHumanBeing August 1st, 2021

I prefer to go by Vincentine, which isn't my legal name, but i actually feel closer to it since it's not a common as my birth name. I wouldn't change my legal name since it's too much paperwork, but it feels nice when people call me by my chosen name. I identify as non binary, but since i was socialized as a woman i'm comfortable with going by she/her.

SwagTrees August 27th, 2021

Hi! My name's Jax, I'm 14, I use he/they pronouns, and I'm a demiguy.

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SwagTrees August 27th, 2021

@SwagTrees I also am cool with it/its pronouns

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sereneMango3007 September 26th, 2021

Hi! I go by Mango or Meg online. I use they/she/he pronouns (:

Jamieloko October 5th, 2021

I'm Jamie, use he/him pronouns (a not so proud trans guy), nice to meet y'all!

ryth99 October 13th, 2021

Hi, my name is Ryth and I use they/them/it/its pronouns. I am thinking about occasionally using he/him but I'm still not sure about it. I don't have a label for my gender but I am Abrosexual and possibly grayromantic.

If you don't know what some of the labels I mentioned are, feel free to ask me🥰