Course 3: PL 102 - One Key Metric (Discussion 5)
We've been talking about denial and distraction in this course. It is pretty easy to get knocked off track in life. One way to stay on track is to have a core metric that guides you. If you have a north star that you are working towards, then you know how well you are doing. It is harder to be in denial or to participate in activities that are less helpful in meeting that goal. Â
There are 2 parts to this discussion. Â
1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well. Â
2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock. Â
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@GlenM
1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well. Choosing a goal of a single metric is important because you want to have something that is most important for you to focus on. I think my single metric is to focus on being happy and helping others to be happy. I know this may seem insurmountable, but I think I could work on it day by day. My overall goal is to get to a point where I am settled down in my life and am enjoying my career and a family. I just want to work towards that goal.
2. Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.
1. I'd want my first person at my funeral to be my future husband (now boyfriend). I'd want him to feel as though I loved him unconditionally and for him to say I made him laugh. I want him to tell me that my successes and failures didn't matter to him, just that he loved me for who I was. I'd want him to know that I loved him more than anyone else on this planet and that our love was an epic one. I'd want him to know I was proud of him and the person that he was. I'd want him to know that he was the most selfless and patient person that I've ever known and that I loved him. I hope he realized all of that.
2. I'd want my future daughter to realize how beautiful she is and how she can do anything she wants in this world. I would want her to fight for what she believes in and don't take any crap from anyone. I want her to be strong and take advantage of everything the world has to offer. I hope she knows her father and I love her very much and we always supported her.
3. The last person who I'd want at my funeral is my close friend Nicole. She knew how to speak to me when I was at rock bottom and she was always there for me when I needed her. She was so hardworking and she could accomplish anything she wanted. I wish she was kinder to herself, but I wish I had her dedication and self-discipline. She was a nurse and I'm sure she was an amazing one. I hope I made her laugh and made her feel better as much as she made me feel better.
This really made me cry!
@GlenM
First and second done
Thanks for your time and impact
@GlenM
1. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.
The single metric is like a guide, it helps keep you in check and shows yu the path yu should lead for the best possible life. You are able to focus on the things that are most important and stay on track for achieving your goals. Also, DONE!
2. Please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life.
It was very thought provoking and sort of difficult to do. I rarely about what other people say/think about me (I dont know if that's a good or bad thing) but it was tiring trying to think of what they would say initially yet later it became sorta easy and fun to do cause I started making up stories of how my life would end with each of those people in my life.
@BookChunky
Well done! Sounds like this exercise was a bit different for you since you don't often think about what others say/think of you. I am glad you had some fun with it!
@hopedreamlove
Thank Youuu!
Can you tell me tho if that's a good thing or bad?
1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.
My key metric I am hoping to help move is being kind and being a supportive, compassionate presence in the community, and in the world. I believe choosing a single metric is important because it allows you to focus on one thing at a time. If you are focusing on a lot of different things, they can become overwhelming and too much too handle, however focusing on one thing allows you to work towards that goal, and succeed, with both goals in your professional life, and personal life.
2. Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.
This exercise was definitely very clarifying, and made me a bit emotional! It impacted me by showing what type of person I want to be, what I want to accomplish, and how I want to be seen and remembered. It reminded me that among everything, I hope to be seen as a kind person, who leaves a positive impact on others, and the world.
@hopedreamlove
You're truly a kind, compassionate presence in the community, Hope! :)
@ahealingEndoftherainbow22
Thank you so much Rainbow, that truly means a lot to me. You are as well, you are an excellent leader, and person.
1. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.
Choosing a single metric is important because it gives you something very specific to work towards. Without a metric how will you know you have achieved your goal, and if you have too many metrics you may become overwhelmed and your end goals may be out of reach.
2. Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you.
This one is really challenging because right now I feel like I am in a place that I will never become the person I want to be, but on the flip side, I know many people would tell me I am the type of person I want to be when Im older.
Spouse: Crystal had a very challenging life that made her the most compassionate and resilient woman Ive ever met. Im so proud of the things she accomplished and I know that she is now able to rest in peace, the way she deserved. Im so grateful for the years I got to spend with her by my side.
Adult Child: Mom adopted me when I was very young. She saved me from a bad situation and gave me the life that any child deserves to have. I hope that I am able to provide that to a child and need and pass down her legacy.
Long-term friend: Ive known Crystal our entire lives and she went through a lot of crazy **** but she always did her best to be the best version of herself she could be. I dont know how I would have gotten through my life without her by my side. She was a strong, brave, intelligent, and resilient woman.
Co-worker: Crystal always had ambitious goals and dreams and she always made those dreams a reality. She had the grit and determination to stare obstacles in the eyes until they backed down.
@InvaderStitch
I love this! Very thoughtful responses.
@InvaderStitch
Crystal: I learned a lot about yourself in this post. You are marvelous, wonderful! A jewel of a person.
@InvaderStitch
duch a thoughtful response - well done!
1. key metric I wish to focus on:
Encourging interaction within the internship teen
Get more people to enroll in the honors project
Ensure inters get the guidance they need
It helps one stream line the goals and helps us to focus on the things that are important for attaining them and we are not distracted by other things
2. Very intersting exersise.It made me think back about how ive lived my life and what i left behind. Right now I feel ive not done much and there is so much more that could have been done from my end. I have lived a good life, helping people etc. But ive always left my ego take over at certain instaces. Makes me wonder if there would be people who have been hurt by that. Certainly something for me to work on.
@Magicallykermit58
Thoughtful answer :)
@GlenM
1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.
The single metric is important because it helps us to see and measure what is of importance to us and how it can help us to achieve our goals
2. Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.
This exercise made me realize how much of an impact I have on people. It makes me want to strive to become a better person for myseld and others
@CheeryMango
Superb! Short but totally spot-on.
It makes me want to strive to become a better person for myself and others ◀︎ love this ❤️
1) Choosing a single metric can help you focus, and it saves a lot of time for you to keep going.
2) This is super scary when I think of this, it is the truth that we are all going to leave even at such a young age.
First, I want to see all of my offsprings, they pray for me, they comfort me, and from their eyes, I still see respect.
Second, I know that I will be holding my husband's hand, tightly. I know that we're going to leave together as we had promised each other.
Third, if my friends are still alive, I want them to come. I know I won't have so many true friends throughout my entire life, it will be so good to make a farewell with them.
Fourth, I don't know where I will go, if we just diminished, I hope I can see my relatives who have already gone once more. Because I will be missing them so much at that time.
The single metric I am focusing on is becoming more involved in the community.
The single metric is important because it helps us measure and understand what is important and how we can achieve our goals that way.
I can imagine people telling me the things I have done in my life and how it affected them, and what are some of the things that were left to do that I never got around to, and it makes me feel like I should introspect more and improve in certain areas, and overall try to become a better person every day because you never know when the last day will be.
There are 2 parts to this discussion.
1. The 3 key things thread -Posted,
2. Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.
2. By looking at the quadrants. I would imagine people saying that I was a kind, compassionate and beautiful soul who left an indelible mark in their lives. A legacy I would want people to remember me by- is to be kind to each other, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.