Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #6) How to Accept Feedback

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I felt bad at first, that I didn't think of it already for the person/situation. I think I reacted that way because I felt I should have thought of it and therefore was being hard on myself for not having thought of it. I would have cut myself more slack and understand that we need an outside perspective. It's a good thing to receive feedback. I will be able to remember to look at feedback as more as the positive that it is.

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I reacted a bit hesitantly and a bit sad because I tried my best. I realized that I reacted that way because I tried by best, but there is always room for improvement and I needed to learn that. I will remember, after watching this video, that there is a shared goal between me and the person giving me feedback and that is for me to grow and improve in a particular topic. That gives me the strength to accept the feedback and incorporate it into what I do.

@Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I think that the most recent feedback I received I did not react as well as I was expecting. I felt disappointed in myself and embarrassed. I reacted and felt that way because I was not expecting to get that feedback. In other words, I was very confident in my skills in order to not get such feedback. What I would do differently after watching the video is just thinking that there is always room for improvement and that positive feedback will be for the best. It's very important to be humble.

I haven’t received any feedback recently. But in past, I have learned a lot from the same. Initially, I used to be defensive about things and sometimes even in denial that something went wrong. I would react that way because I simply wasn’t in a habit of receiving feedback. I would look at it as a setback. Then I learned to take them as challenges and a scope to improve. Now if I face feedback, I inquisitively ask a person to elaborate on it and how they think things could have been done differently. I also discuss my point of view on it. After watching the video, I will also, set up follow up to understand if I have shown any real improvement.

@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
The last time I received feedback was from my teacher. I took the feedback very constructively and calmly, and knew that the feedback was only for my own good and improvement. One thing I learned from this video was the idea of following up. I didn't do that with my teacher, and I will do it the next time I receive feedback.

@Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I received feedback stating that the user would have preferred me to ask more questions in a certain topic but less in the other topic we discussed. I immediately felt a little bit of dread knowing I didn’t provide the best support possible to the user since they had suggestions. As the video said, we often take feedback personally and that’s exactly what I did because I naturally don’t like being nothing but my best. In the future I realized that by taking the feedback I was able to grow as a listener. Knowing this I try to not take things as personal and instead embrace asking for feedback so I can grow.

@Heather225
- I actually didn't react anything, I didn't know what to say.
- I felt a bit hurt.
- I felt that way because I thought I didn't deserve that, and the feedback given was not thought through.
- I can try to understand the person's perspective, without taking it personally.

How to Accept Feedback
I haven't had any feedback in workplace as I'm not currently working. In the past I use to take it to hard and to heart, but I think thats also due to having been critisized all my life by my parents. I've carried it with me into my adult working life. I would become nervous and anxious.
Feedback would make me feel I'm not good enough, I won't accomplish or achieve. Again this stems from my childhood.

I now see feeback as information to learn and grow from. @ResilientLucky is right, I too would ask for follow ups to find out if my work is improving.

This is all in the real world, however looking at it from virtual world, I think from 7 Cups it is to understand feedback in messages.
These messages can be easily missunderstood as its not using full communication like in the real world working environment.
Again as @ResileintLucky suggests, I would also as the person from 7Cups to elaborate on it if I felt it necessary.

Too often with messaging as is with texting what we read and what the person is saying can be two different things/feelings etc

@Heather225 Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

Most recently I got told to mind my energy. It's too much sometimes. I listened as well as I could. I was a bit taken aback at such a comment but I didn't overreact or get upset. I reacted the way I did because I'm well aware that feedback is very important. After watching the video, I'd maybe ask the person next time to provide a way for me to do it differently so it fits them.

Think about the most recent feedback you received: To not abriviate words while talking to another listner.
How did you react? calmly, I applogized and saw my mistake immidiatly
How did you feel? I felt a little dumb for not thinking listners get the same respect as members
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? Because it was a simple mistake that could be easily avoided
What would you do differently after having watched the video? I would have learned that it's not a too bug if a deal and I should learn form it and move on.