Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #6) How to Accept Feedback
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Accepting feedback is a crucial part of being a good leader.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
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Think about the most recent feedback you received: I hosted a zoom meeting for a society I run and got some feedback from the attendees afterwards.
How did you react? I was sad at first that not everyone loved the meeting, so I went through all the feedback and sorted it into sections of good feedback and bad feedback and then tried to think about how to improve.
How did you feel? I felt a bit upset and dejected because I had worked really hard to make the best presentation I could, however I was also determined to keep improving and also focus on all the positives that were identified and use that to grow as well.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? I was really focused on doing well and so i think I was a bit dejected because I felt like I had put a lot into it, but I think I also felt determined because I knew I now had clear objectives to improve for next time which i was grateful for.
What would you do differently after having watched the video? After watching the video I would definitely take more time out to reflect on my experience and check in with myself and others around me that I am implementing the feedback I am given. Also I think I will take time out to accept and process the feedback so I can be more open to growing and improving constantly moving on.
@Heather225
At first, I was pretty defensive, since I felt attacked when I was receiving that feedback. I reacted that way because I do not like other people pin-pointing my own flaws. After watching this video, I learned that I should (1) stay calm and listen, (2) be thankful and appreciative, (3) ask for advice, and (4) set a follow up.
@Heather225
so True
@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react?
I cried.
How did you feel?
I felt like I could not do anything right.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
I think it was put in a way that threatened my salary. I felt bad because I felt like there was nothing I could do to prevent my salary reduction.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I wouldn't take it so personally. I would separate myself from my work so that I can hear clearly. I would be grateful that I was reminded that I needed to be keen as the. consequences would not only affect me but the whole organization as well.
@JoyHappyNess I'm glad to see that the video helped you reflect on how to react to feedback. It takes time and the process is hard but it's worth it because feedbacks are honestly the best ways to find out your weaknesses and improve on them <3
@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received.
How did you react? How did you feel?
Ans: Honestly, I felt unappreciated initially. Like I was working so hard but no one was appreciating my efforts. I didn't even come to think that everyone was appreciating it, they were just letting me know where I was going wrong and where I can improve myself. They were helping me evolve.
Why do you think you reacted and felt that way?
Ans: I think that was natural. I felt that way because I was working so hard, volunteering to listen to someone, making them feel validated and listened to. So, when I received my first constructive feedback, my initial reaction to it was that I am not being appreciated enough. I failed to realize that they weren't criticizing either, they were just helping me brush my listening skills up, make them finer than they were.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
Answer: I would continue what I was doing after I learned how feedback helps us evolve ourselves- I would take what others are saying into consideration and I would work on it.
@Heather225
The last few feedbacks I received bwere positive, it has been a good experience, new roles come with new experiences or new feedbacks both good and bad. At time it hurts knowing that you've done your best but your best wasn't enough but what we really need to know is that there is always room for improvement, no matter how good you're at what you do, at some point you discover the better.
@Heather225
3. I felt bad because I wanted to. do a perfect job and do my very best, but that wasn't what thr outcome showed to be, I didn't let my emotions get in between my work after that.
4. I wouldn't take it so personally and realize that there is something I need to improve on more and work accordingly.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I didn't react much as I get really nervous.
I felt a bit scared and nervous since receiving feedback is always a nerve wracking experience.
After having watched the video , I will try to be less nervous and work towards getting a positive feedback.
@jersey123456 That's a great start, good luck!
@Heather225
Most recent feedback - The one I received recently was from work through one of my managers regarding my ability to multitask.
1. How did you react?
A. At the beginning, in my mind it felt like they're subtly undermining the extra efforts I'm putting which isn't originally a part of my job description. So, it felt quite negative but I knew this was one of the ways I was able to showcase that I can perform beyond this role and I'm ready for the next step.
2. How did you feel?
A. It started off with feeling bad about myself but then realized that the purpose of a feedback is to help me grow and that's when it hit differently and those words and advices started to make sense in a positive way.
3. Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
A. Initially, it felt terrible given that the work I'm doing isn't even what I'm supposed to do but throughout the duration of feedback, my mind just took a 180 degree turn and thought to myself, this is what I must do if I'm to not remain stagnant in my role.
4. What would you do differently after having watched the video?
A. Honestly, I would've tried to have a broader perspective of the true meaning of feedback so that I wouldn't have to go through the first set of emotions I had faced.
@lyricalSea85 Great reflection! It seems like the video helped you look at things differently <3
Indeed it has! Thank you :D
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
My most recent feedback was about a mock speaking test I had to take in school. I felt enlightened listening to what others thought about me, but I also felt kind of embarrassed as I felt like I was doing everything wrong even though I didn't. That feeling wasn't amplified though, and my gratitude for the feedback triumphed any negative feelings that came my way.
I think I was partly embarrassed because of the fact that I hate talking about myself or have people talk about myself publicly. It just feels as though I'm never good enough or up to the expected standards. After watching the video, I learned that feedback is a way to grow and that it will help me become a better person and a better speaker in this case as well as help me see myself from someone else's perspective.
