Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #6) How to Accept Feedback
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Accepting feedback is a crucial part of being a good leader.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
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@Heather225
1. I was shocked honestly because I thought the chat didn't go bad.
2. I was sad for a while and worried if other chats go this way as well, it won't be good as a listener
3. I felt that way because it was unexpected, at least from my side. I felt as though I had done my best.
4. I would try to listen more attentively and appreciate people for the feedback they give me as of course they will be honest and give me the room to improve. I won't take criticism to heart but rather treat it as constructive feedback and work on myself.
@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? I took it well, I appreciate it, since it's someone wanting me to improve!
How did you feel? I felt thankful because feedback is an awesome resource to learn.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? Because I'm glad I had someone caring for my progress!
What would you do differently after having watched the video? Nothing really! but it was very interesting
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react?
Well it was pretty positive so I felt good it was nice
how did you feel?
I felt great that I am able to help someone and the appreciate it
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
Cause given my current physical condition I nenwve thought I'd be able to help and make a difference but now it turns out I can even in this condition
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I'll accept all feedbacks, negative or positive, as there is s ope of improvement in everyone and no one is perfect
@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
The most recent feedback I received was related to my academics from a teacher after finishing a test. He gave me feedback about how well my responses to the essay question are structured and highlighted that I need to improve in writing shorter sentences instead of run-ons. At first I felt a little embarrassed but I quickly accepted the feedback. I think I reacted this way because writing extensive sentences were the areas I need to improve on that I was aware of. After watching the video I think it is important for me to just calmly accept the feedback that I got and focus more on how I can be improved in this aspect rather than being ashamed of it.
@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received:
How did you react?
I accepted the feedback given to work on being better at a role here
How did you feel?
I felt hurt at first but feedback is how we learn to do better in life
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
I may of felt hurt and stand by what was said but to know there was an area needing to be worked on is better than ignoring it.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
@pamharley003 What you learnt from the video is so great pam <3
@pamharley003
Love your determination and thanks for sharing
@pamharley003 I agree. It's so important that we face and improve the things that we need to work on. That allows us to lead and live more fulfilled, happier and satisfied lives.
@pamharley003 Thanks for sharing and happy to learn something from your perspective.
The most recent feedback I received was on some points I made and vocabs I use in a class essay from a peer. I was a little surprised because I didn't know some points are not taken as well and not as "great" as I imagined it to be in my head. I think I felt that way because I don't let others read my writing that often so when I do, their feedback makes me a little surprised. After watching the video, I feel that it would be helpful to have others giving their opinions about my writing. There's always room for improvement and I should appreciate their time to better my work.
@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
The recent time I received feedbacks, I was feeling stressed out and abit annoyed to be honest. so I was a a bit defensive and lashed out at the other person. I think it is because I was having low self-esteem, feeling self-doubts, was overworking a little burnt out and tired, I just was not in the place to work and receive feedbacks to improve myself. This time, I will try to slow down, take a step back when I receive feedbacks. I will remind myself that feedbacks are oppotunities for me to grow. I will say "thank you" to feedbacks instead!
@kindLemonade I completely agree, and saying thank you is indeed a great takeaway!
@kindLemonade Slowing down is a good idea when receiving feedback.
@kindLemonade I am happy that you will look to slow-down and appreciate the feedbacks as the opportunities to grow. I am sure you will gradually be able to alter your responses to feedbacks.
@Fristo
Thanks all, all the bests on your LDP journey
@kindLemonde Yes. It's usually easier to the feedback when we are less stressed.
How did you react?
I didn't really say much. I always feel kinda nervous when receiving feedback! I told the other person I'd try my best next time and mentally promised myself to work harder.
How did you feel?
I felt a bit let down, considering I was putting a lot of effort into all that! And a tad bit of anger too, which made me feel like the other person purposefully wanted to make me feel worse! I did realize afterwards that feedback is only another opportunity to improve and work on yourself.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
As for the reaction, I'd say it's because I'm an introvert and bad at expressing emotions. So I just bottled all the feelings away and put on my neutral face. As for the feeling, I guess it's pretty normal to feel a bit upset and angry given that feedback is never something we look forward to. There's always that anxiety about whether it'll be positive or negative!
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I will accept feedback positively and work on myself with as much enthusiasm as possible! Feedback is not meant to hurt me or bring me down, it’s only meant to point out the areas which require my improvement!
@cuteeeezombieeee This makes so much sense :)
@cuteeeezombieeee Feeling let down is definitely a natural reaction when receiving feedback. I like how you're going to accept feedback in the future.
@cuteeeezombieeee Loved your words- Feedback is not meant to hurt me or bring me down, it’s only meant to point out the areas which require my improvement!
Very right, without feedbacks, perhaps we would not have got those opportunities to understand our actions and their consequences in better light; helping us grow.
@Heather225 I was calm, and thanked the person for giving me the feedback. However, I did feel a bit bad and did doubt my capabilities the next time I did that task. I think I reacted this way because I wanted to leave a good impression. I felt that way because I was unsure of the consequences, and took it as a personal attack rather than as a chance to grow. After having watched this video, I’ve understood the true importance of feedback and will now take it in stride and learn from it.
@Readylistener
I am happy to see that you are learning and growing. As you learn and grow more, you will doubt your capabilities less.
@Readylistener Glad the video helped you further understand the importance of feedbacks.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react?
A: I took it personally.
How did you feel?
A: I feel offended. It is the other way around, not as it seems.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
A: Because she could not understand my situation, yet she says these things about me, even after knowing me for 20 years.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
A: I would be telling her how I feel about her words toward me.
@loveagape
It's great to have that assertiveness and to give feedback as well.
