Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip
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Our next objective in this course is to master effective communication skills for healthy interpersonal and professional relationships.
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1. Why is gossiping bad?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
3. Please reply to 3 of your peers  in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
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@Heather225
gossiping is toxic because it increases negativity , it is toxic way to make yourself feel better and it makes untrusting environment .
my favourite statement is 'I do not know much about the situation and their perception to comment in their absence'
@nessa104 You are right. It increases negativity and also sometimes unfairly damage the image of the person who is talked about.
@nessa104
I like that statement a lot too. It makes it so the people around you know that you do not condone the behavior while directing the conversation towards a new topic.
Why is gossiping bad?
Words hurt people’s feelings. it is impossible to know who could be hurt by what was said. When you tell one person something, you can’t control who else hears what was said. Gossip is often false because you don't know the full situation. Rumors can get started, and in no time, these rumors get around to the person the gossip was about. When people talk behind each other's back, people get hurt and upset and it creates a very negative environment. When someone is gossiped about then they are more likely to gossip about others. Some people feel that they are building themselves up, but this is at the expense of others. It’s plain and simple; gossip hurts everyone and it is not the right thing to do.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
Saying that you feel uncomfortable talking about this because I don't know the situation well enough
Pointing out a quality that you like about the person being talked about
Stick up for the person being talked about
@Estrellitaa
Very well thought out response!!!
@Estrellitaa
I agree with everything you said here. Great insight!
@Estrellitaa
Well said, it's even more difficult when you are faced with this at your job.
1-Why is gossiping bad?
Gossip is bad because you talk about what the person does not like to talk about, so it is not popular with people. Usually, the person who goes back to his seat is full of negative energy and does not like others and talks about them badly.
2-List a statement you learned from this video to stop goosiping in the replies?
I learned from the video that it is necessary to put an end to the gossiper and tell him not to do so because it may lead to the pollution of his energy with negativity and be unpopular with others and do not like to talk to him.
@Zahraa000
Great insight!!
@Zahraa000
Great insight! You're doing an awesome job!
@Zahraa000
@Zahraa000 I agree with you
@Heather225
- Gossiping is bad because it is harmful to others.
- A statement that I learned from the video to stop gossiping is that the gossiper is often viewed in a negative light because of gossiping.
@NoelleListens
I agree with you gossiping makes you look really bad. How have you changed your tactics to not gossip if friend wants you to join in?
@NoelleListens
Yes quite true
Gossiping is bad because what you’re saying or being told might not even be true about the person and it can really hurt them and plus it can and probably will hurt your friendship. I don’t know much about the situation to comment on it.
@glowingSoul93
Agreed Glowing !
@Heather225
1. Gossiping is bad for a number of reasons – the main reason is that it is very toxic. When gossiping to someone, it becomes very easy for that person to identify the ‘negative trait’ to you.
2. "I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence."
@magicmango26 yep, extremely toxic
1. Why is gossiping bad?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
Answer 1: Gossiping is bad because when we discuss a person in their absence, we are likely to reveal their secrets too. It is not only hurtful and immoral but damaging to their image too. When we take part in gossip, we leave a chunk of ourselves in it, and it goes on and goes. In the end, a story or things shared in gossip becomes totally different from its original version.
Answer 2: I don't know the other person's perspective so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling.
@Zarram77
I like the way you formed your responses, I enjoy your perspective Zarram.
Gossip can have a negative impact on both people! Gossip and rumours can totally destroy a person's career, self-confidence and affect their self-esteem too! No one wants rumours about themselves spreading among other people! Gossip can lead people to depression, low self-esteem, anxiety etc! 'I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence.'
@ASilentBunny
Yes, it can destroy someone's character, it really hurts even more when the person you confided in was the gossiper.
@Heather225
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is toxic, People who never speak negatively about anyone have not been spoken negatively about. Gossiping is poisonous, negative, bad, horrible, easy to do but hard to stop.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
To not gossip is like saying no to sugar, it takes practise discipline and strength and is very hard.and also i dont know enough about the person am trying to gossip about.
@incrediblelistener78 very bad, but yes, very hard to stop
@Heather225
Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad because it reflects negatively on the individual who is doing the gossiping. It’s not a nice feeling to walk in a room and others are steering at you and what I also noticed the person that you gossip too, usually runs back to the person who they were gossiping about making you look like the bad guy. There is a saying what goes around comes around. I avoid this, I am not saying I am perfect, no one is, but doing this reflects how the person heart is and if you must talk negatively towards an individual, I personally do not want to be around that person.
