Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip
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1. Why is gossiping bad?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
3. Please reply to 3 of your peers  in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
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Hi @Heather225
1. Why is gossiping bad?
It is toxic, ugly, unfair and poisonous. The intent usually to make others, who are not present to defend themselves, look bad and to make the gossiper and the participants feel better about themselves. It will eventually end up making everyone participating in a negative state and distrust each other.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
Likeable people usually have integrity, fair, honest. Making a choice to not gossip may need practice, discipline and strength to commit to. It will create a huge positive impact in our own life. By refusing to join gossip, we will build people’s trust in us and build a good character.
@ouiCherie
Great answers!
@ouiCherie
Thats a great responce thankyou
@ouiCher
You described it in the best way!
@ouiCherie
Really good answers!
@ouiCherie i appreciate this answer
@ouiCherie
Well said !
@ouiCherie
Great answer! You worded it nicely!
@Heather225
1. Why is gossiping bad?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
3.  Please reply to 3 of your peers  in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
- Gossiping is bad because it causes negative feelings between both parties. It also causes conflict and resent between members,due to lack of effective communication.
- "We do not talk about the other man because we do not know his side" I love that statement <3
@MyNameIsNicole
I agree, it definitely does cause negativity between both parties. That is a great statement!
@MyNameIsNicole
I agree with you and it most definitely is a great statement. 
@MyNameIsNicole
That sounds like a great way to indirectly tell someone that gossiping is wrong.
@MyNameIsNicole
That sounds like a great way to indirectly tell someone that gossiping is wrong.
@MyNameIsNicole
We chose very similar statements and I find they are so useful in this modern day. Easy to apply and yet not aggressive to those who are gossiping. I also appreciate how you articulated why gossip is bad, short and sweet and makes sense for people of many age groups in my opinion. :)
Best of Luck on your LDP Journey!
@Heather225
Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad because it could hurt someone’s feelings and could make a person look bad. It can often make yourself look good, but eventually make you look bad. If you gossip about someone negatively then it can give the other person you are gossiping the idea that you probably gossip about a lot of people. That is also how rumors get around, along with bullying. It can seriously hurt someone or create a big conflict.
List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
You can point out a quality you like about the person who is being gossiped about. You might like something about the person and you should decide to stick up for that person who is not there. Even if you might not know the person you can mention that you don’t know about the other person’s perspective or know enough about the situation to comment on it.
@mxmes
Good point about bullying! Gossiping can grow into something more and more vicious over time.
@mxmes
Thankyou for that. You hit the nail on the head with your answer, well done
@mxmes
You are so right about how gossiping just makes you look bad. Excellent point.
@Heather225
- Gossipping is toxic and very ugly and a very bad thing to do. It is negative and it leads people to a negative state.
- change the subject for a positive topic or stand up for the person being gossiped about.
@beautifulSeal9714
I agree with you and I like the phrase you chose
@beautifulSeal9714
i agree that gossiping is very toxic, keep up the great work!
@Heather225
> Gossiping is bad because:
1. It can create someone's poor reputation.
2. It can be harmful for the image of the gossiper as well.
3. It can cause misunderstandings which can lead to conflicts.
4. People might begin to sense negativity from the gossiper by time.
5. People will begin to distance themselves from the gossiper as they won't find them trust-worthy.
6. Words hurt more than anything else, gossiping can be very hurtful.
> I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence.
really good statement to avoid gossiping, i love everything else you stated as well :D
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad for many reasons, one of them being that leaves everyone in a negative state.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
"talk about traveling most people love traveling and if they love traveling they'll love to let you know all of the cool places that they've been traveling and talking about different cities and countries around the world is a topic that's very easy to spend time chatting about ask the people you're with where their favorite place to travel is or where the best food they've ever eaten or where in the world they live or where is a reasonably priced place to have a vacation"
@BellatheHappyHelper
Great answer thankyou
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad for many reasons, one of them being that leaves everyone in a negative state.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
"talk about traveling most people love traveling and if they love traveling they'll love to let you know all of the cool places that they've been traveling and talking about different cities and countries around the world is a topic that's very easy to spend time chatting about ask the people you're with where their favorite place to travel is or where the best food they've ever eaten or where in the world they live or where is a reasonably priced place to have a vacation"
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad for many reasons, one of them being that leaves everyone in a negative state.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
"talk about traveling most people love traveling and if they love traveling they'll love to let you know all of the cool places that they've been traveling and talking about different cities and countries around the world is a topic that's very easy to spend time chatting about ask the people you're with where their favorite place to travel is or where the best food they've ever eaten or where in the world they live or where is a reasonably priced place to have a vacation"
@BellatheHappyHelper
Love the way you've put it ♥️
@Heather225
Why is gossiping bad?
1. Toxic
2. Being positive towards others encourages the same towards yourself whereas gossiping does the opposite
3. People who gossip tend to put others down to make theirselves feel good which is unhealthy and unfair
4. It breaks trust between people
5. Not gossiping will make you more likeable and will project you as non judgmental
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
“I don’t know enough about the situation to comment on it"
“I don’t know the other person’s perspective so I prefer not to discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling."
@jovialButterfly6752
So true..gossip is very toxic and and trust too. Well thought out.
@jovialButterfly6752
Hello butterfly! I like how you listed out the reasons why gossiping is bad 
Makes it very easy to read and understand!
@Cristen <#waffle heart
@jovialButterfly6752
Nice answer! Worded it nicely.
Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping creates a toxic environment for everyone involved, she said, he said, creates an atmosphere where noone feels comfortable.. It makes people feel targeted and when people take sides there will always be someone who feels unheard and un appreciated...
List a statement you learnt from this video
"Unfortunateley I dont know enough about the situation to be able to comment on it"