Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip

@Containedchaos

I agree that gossiping is very ugly. Redirecting the conversation is definitely a good idea.

Good job answering the question!

@Heather225

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1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad as it creates a very negative atmosphere around you and it causes everyone listening to worry about what people will say when they are gone.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I don't know much about the conversation, so I am not in a place to comment on the situation.

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All that matters is you try your best with this task @cuteOrange213

@cuteOrange213

Awesome statement! I think that's such a valuable one to be able to use, I'm assuming you agree. It really does work wonders to make people think about what they're actually saying/thinking about a situation.

1 gossiping is when you spread untruths or rumors about other people people. It normally happens behind peoples backs. It makes people not able to trust you if you do it and that makes them question if you are talking behind thier backs.

2 tell people you do not want to hear it stop it there and change the subject

@Colorfulcatsofhope

Great response! You went with something similar to me, in that by gossping it makes people not trust you so much — I'm glad that bit of information stood out to you as well!

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad first and formost because it spreads negativity. By focusing on the negative aspects of a person — especially when they aren't there to defend themselves — we spread this idea that we have the right to judge and talk about people behind their back. It's not simply sharing of opinions, telling stories, or expressing concerns about people, gossiping actively spreads negative thoughts and statements to the person you're gossiping about as well as the people you're speaking with.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
"If you gossip about someone else, the person listening to you will assume you also gossip about them which means they ain't going to trust you"

Gossiping is bad because people lose trust in the person who is speaking badly about someone who is not there. People may connect the gossiper with the negative traits that are being discussed.

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@thelastiger

That's an interesting way to change the topic away from gossiping. It's nice that it ties into the present moment. Perhaps that will make the people who are gossiping more aware of the impact of their actions and redirect their focus.

1) It's negative and the one who does it also seems negative. Talking about people in their absence is not a good quality.

2) Taking a side from conversation by saying that I don't know much about the situation or the person who is being talked about

Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it spreads negativity. It is toxic and can also make others lose their trust in you.

List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

"I dont know enough of the situation to comment on it"

Hi @sia1325

Love that option phrase of what to say to refuse join a gossip too ❤️ Great answer! 😊

@sia1325

Most people don't know about the dangers of gossiping. I'm sure this post will help in educating them <3

Thank you for sharing!

@sia1325

Having toxicity is very bad and we shouldn't participate in anything like that. Great statement you listed as well!

@sia1325

I loved the phrase you chose

@sia1325

Definitly!

@sia1325

I totally agree!

@sia1325 right trust is really difficult to rebuild once you destroy your relantionship with the other person. It causes a toxic / not good environment between us.

@sia1325 Trust is really important for us. We must maintain it thouroughly. Great said!

@sia1325 great answer!

@sia1325

so true its toxic and lose trust also.

@sia1325

I agree that gossiping is toxic and can make people lose their trust in you, especially in professional relationships. This would certainly make others have a negative look on you and hard to erase this impression.

@sia1325
Yes! It can make other people not trust you because of your actions!

Hi @Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

It is toxic, ugly, unfair and poisonous. The intent usually to make others, who are not present to defend themselves, look bad and to make the gossiper and the participants feel better about themselves. It will eventually end up making everyone participating in a negative state and distrust each other.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Likeable people usually have integrity, fair, honest. Making a choice to not gossip may need practice, discipline and strength to commit to. It will create a huge positive impact in our own life. By refusing to join gossip, we will build people’s trust in us and build a good character.

@ouiCherie

Great answers!

@ouiCherie

Thats a great responce thankyou

@ouiCher

You described it in the best way!

@ouiCherie

Really good answers!

@ouiCherie i appreciate this answer

@ouiCherie

Well said !

@ouiCherie

Great answer! You worded it nicely!

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
3.  Please reply to 3 of your peers  in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

- Gossiping is bad because it causes negative feelings between both parties. It also causes conflict and resent between members,due to lack of effective communication.

- "We do not talk about the other man because we do not know his side" I love that statement <3

@MyNameIsNicole

I agree, it definitely does cause negativity between both parties. That is a great statement!

@MyNameIsNicole

I agree with you and it most definitely is a great statement.

@MyNameIsNicole

That sounds like a great way to indirectly tell someone that gossiping is wrong.

@MyNameIsNicole

That sounds like a great way to indirectly tell someone that gossiping is wrong.

@MyNameIsNicole

We chose very similar statements and I find they are so useful in this modern day. Easy to apply and yet not aggressive to those who are gossiping. I also appreciate how you articulated why gossip is bad, short and sweet and makes sense for people of many age groups in my opinion. :)

Best of Luck on your LDP Journey!

@Heather225

Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it could hurt someone’s feelings and could make a person look bad. It can often make yourself look good, but eventually make you look bad. If you gossip about someone negatively then it can give the other person you are gossiping the idea that you probably gossip about a lot of people. That is also how rumors get around, along with bullying. It can seriously hurt someone or create a big conflict.

List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

You can point out a quality you like about the person who is being gossiped about. You might like something about the person and you should decide to stick up for that person who is not there. Even if you might not know the person you can mention that you don’t know about the other person’s perspective or know enough about the situation to comment on it.

@mxmes

Good point about bullying! Gossiping can grow into something more and more vicious over time.