Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #1) Welcome to Course 2!

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?

- it may be result to not desired outcomes as a goal of this community to be whole.

How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact

1.) the community, and

- There are sensitive issues and sensitive people in this community so desired outcome may not be reached because of it.

2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

- Leaders also people with feelings and they have ups and downs in life. You need to be proper amount of expectations and warmth.

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? do not tend to grow as much personally or professionally.

How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, minimal expectations and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?, tend to struggle.

@Heather225 hello ! <3

i believe that having an imbalance of expectations and warmth can really affect your performance. when you only have high expectations but low warmth, it can definitely cause a lot of stress for you :( on the other hand, having low expectations with high warmth could cause lower performance and an inability to get work done on time and to do a good job.

the community - having too low of expectations with high warmth in the 7 cups community can cause a listener to do things their own way and to think it's okay to support a member in whatever way they want. however, i believe there is some sort of guide you must follow in order to give people proper support. the amount and type of support each member needs may vary, but you need to listen to what kind of comfort and listening the members may be looking for rather than to what you want to say to the members and think would be best. on the other hand, high expectations with little warmth can cause a listener to get stressed out and take too many breaks, causing a lower availability of listeners on the site <3

working with fellow leaders - having too low of expectations with high warmth can cause a listener working with other leaders to not do the part they are given. low expectations may cause the listener to feel a little too carefree and not have any priorities for their roles on 7 cups and the work they must do with other leaders. in contrast, having too high of expectations with little warmth, like i mentioned previously can stress a listener out too much and cause them to take a lot of breaks, not continue to their work after awhile, etc.

@Heather225

Both high expectations and high warmth are crucial to being a leader on 7cups. Being a leader with low expectations and high warmth may lead to

Low expectations high warmth

1)If leaders are not responsible and accountable, it could result in less confidence in leaders in the community. This could result in off-topic discussions, and lack of rule enforcement/safety patrol may lead to offensive or problematic actions being dismissed.

2) Less trust among fellow leaders, and inefficient projects

High expectations low warmth

1. Stiff, uncomfortable, and rigid atmosphere

2. Lack of good relationships with fellow leaders, lack of trust and closeness, difficult to ask them for help

Hello there!

Well, The what you put in definitely wont equal to What you take out. The environment begins to be disfunctional and problematic.

With high expectation and too little warmth will Cause unsafe place for The community, The feeling of pressure and destroy The original concept of The community aka The unity and shared purpose and identity by raging high independcy. Between fellow leaders it would Cause pressure, Maybe judgements, unrespectful and not collaboratinh behavior and unfriendly environment.

Within The case of high warmth and low expectations, i can see not being there The growth in both of The cases.

Community wouldnt have set The boundaries and any vision Or path to look forward to. Same applies to The leaders which would make The system and The whole 7Cups concept fall apart easily.

Lots of love,

🌸Hana🌸

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

Ans. As a leader, balancing is paramount. In particular, having too low expectations or too little warmth won't help in terms of growing the community.

It won't be a nice path with fellow leaders either, due to a lack of professionalism and being unapproachable.

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these?

Having an imbalance of expectation and warmth creates an environment where relationships between people are tense and the work being done is less than good. Having an imbalance between expectations and warmth will drain our cups' gas tank as well as our personal gas tanks as leaders.

1) Impact of low expectations

• When there are no expectations we lose sight of the goals and why we are here. The work is slowed down and done poorly and therefore inefficient. This makes it hard to make progress towards a goal. The community forgets the purpose of why they started listening in the first place and now it's no longer a valuable use of our time. We lose listeners and no longer can support the members. What the community was once based on can no longer deliver the origianl goals

• When expectations are low, there is no need to produce high-quality work. The work that we do then holds less meaning and value and importance in our life. This also might lead to work being put off and as a leader, there is no reliability that work will get done on time. Deadlines are no longer being met, and the team is a chaotic mess, with no organization, leadership, or motivation. We often behave like the people we surround ourselves with and those we look up to. If our leaders don't hold themselves to high expectations and quality nobody else will, and everyone stops caring about a community that once was so loved.

  2) Impact of low warmth

• Cups is a place that is built off kindness and empathy towards others. It is a main pillar that holds cups together. When we have low warmth the entire Cups community begins to crumble. We lack appreciation for everyone that makes this community a family. People become exhausted and tired which becomes stressed and anxious which becomes dislike and alienation from the community. Where at this point there is no longer a well-functioning community.

• When there is a lack of warmth between people we lack friendliness and trust. When we don't have trust, we stop working together as a team becoming isolated and communication is lost which is vital when leading and being on a solid team. People are no longer there to help and encourage each other, so things like burnout, personal growth, and motivation suffer. Leaders' personal mental health may suffer because they are no longer in a positive environment.

Question: What do you think happens if you, a 7 cups leader ,have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? How do you think having too low of expectations , or too little warmth, will impact 1.)the community,and 2.)impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

I think that the lack of balance between high and high warmth affects:

1- As a society by not facing problems directly and affects the members of community because they do not have the courage as individuals in this community to put forward the problems they are going through because they need safety and confidence in a community full of high warmth and high expectations and provides them with love and adequate support for their growth as individuals in that community.

2- It also affects my work as a leader with the new leaders in 7 cups because the lack of warmth and high expectations between the leaders to opposite results for both parties and leads to the lack of a spirit of cooperation between them and the lack of trust and how to solve the problems they encounter, and this in turn will affect the presence of non-leaders Efficient to face the community of 7 cups in its correct way full of love and positivity.

@Heather225

Having low warmth and high expectation will lead to I think there will be no reliability which will lead to To no trust . No social bonding, empathy and respect then why are we here to begin with?

Having high warmth low expectation will lead to less productivity and and hence bad relationship with fellow peers and it will hinder the growth of people around.

@Heather225

1.) Community-The disjunction between expectations and warmth will result in the community having only the most rudimentary expectations. Individuals seldom experience significant personal or professional growth.

2.) Impact on how you work with your fellow leaders - Little effective or focused work is completed due to a lack of warmth, patience, and trust.