Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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From personal experience, I thank them for their consideration and time. I also ask what can I do to ensure that there is a better chance for me to get the spot in the future. I actively listen to their words, and use it as a tool to apply it for next time. Then I move forward with my day, rejection is never a bad thing it can also be a good thing too.
I would also say to them
" Thank you so much for letting me know, thank you for your time and consideration. What are some things that I can improve on? If you can let me know, I would appreciate it very much. Thank you again for your time, patience and honoring me by alerting me of this."
@InsightfulPhoenix Hi, this is pretty good. I feel like your statement hits the sweet spot of what to say.
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hi,
Thank you for selecting me for the current role. I am grateful that you considered it for me. I wanted to know for future reference, what skills would be needed for the other role I was considering? It would help with my self improvement. But otherwise thank you for this role.
Thank you,
Noel
@SunnyCthulhu
I appreciate your proactive approach. Seeking feedback for self-improvement shows great dedication!
Hello!
Thank you for considering me for the current role. Could you provide some feedback on what skills or areas I need to improve for the role I was considering? Your insights would be valuable for my self-improvement. Thanks again for this opportunity!
Best,
Dash
Good morning/Evening [Listeners name],
I want to express my gratitude for the opportunity to apply for the position. I was disappointed that I did not make the shortlist this time. To enhance my prospects for future applications, I would greatly appreciate any feedback you could provide regarding areas for improvement. Thank you for your consideration.
Best wishes,
OfficiallyHarvey
