In The Gloaming TW *just in case*
With the tragic loss of the feed and after much debate and discussion. It's been decided to create a new thread. Soul space so to speak. A journal of sorts.
A place where I can dump some of the nonsense that goes on in my head.
While replies are welcome - they aren't necessary.
@mytwistedsoul
I'm sorry to hear things aren't any better. The stomach troubles and exercising and there's no reason behind it? I know alot of times doctors can gaslight just as much as everyone else. They just don't want to listen and they think they know everything but everybody is different
Somehow i cannot reply to the original post.
Anyways, i dont really know what or who to blame. My choice, decision, stupidity, stubborness or whatever...
@mikenai They made changes to the forums and how we reply. There's a limit to each post and then you have to make a new comment I guess you could say
It can be really hard to make changes with ourselves but I definitely don't think you're stupid. I think our mindset sort of becomes a habit and habits are hard to change
@mytwistedsoul
Hey i aged up
@sunshinegiraffe123 welcome to the oldie side, Allie! ❤ Happy Birthday (belated?)
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Yes, belated but thank you
@sunshinegiraffe123 Hey! Congratulations and a Very belated Happy Birthday to you! ❤️ I hope you had a nice birthday 😊
@mytwistedsoul
They made changes to the forums and how we reply. There's a limit to each post and then you have to make a new comment I guess you could say
It can be really hard to make changes with ourselves but I definitely don't think you're stupid. I think our mindset sort of becomes a habit and habits are hard to change
I see no wonder. guess im away for too long.
well, you caught me. this habitual habits has seriously turned nasty on me.
@mytwistedsoul
took a listen, was fearing it was one of the heavy types.
this, i like the pace and tone, very calming. appreciate that you shared twistedsoul.
@mikenai Hey Mike :) its a really nice song. Like you said it's calming, almost melancholic. I'm glad you liked it
@mytwistedsoul
thank you again for sharing.
sad bad day today
@mytwistedsoul
im ok... just need u to sit with me
@sunshinegiraffe123 I'm right here ok? :)
@mytwistedsoul
yeah still nervous about being on this side though
@mytwistedsoul- what a sweet and melancholy song. Realizing I had to grow up so quickly in life. So many of us faced responsibilities so soon as young adults. Hugs to you.🐴❤️🐴
Change is super hard indeed (also a bit more hard when we feel that things were fine or finerrrr before the change lol) *relates* again hehe and thankiees, the melty emoji is my new favorite xD
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou At the risk of sounding like a whiner - it seems like everytime one change is finally comfortable along comes a new one 😕
I don't have a melty emoji *bummer*
@mytwistedsoul
Aw no no, it's okay to say how we feel/ think without that being labeled as whining or complaining or some other word people use to invalidate the feelings and make us feel far worse for feeling how we do/did.
Not whining, Soul. ❤ I actually relate too much on this topic of "change" hehe, it's unsettling and difficult to say to least, (even good changes can feel this way), because we've been made to live with a certain setting physical and emotional and then when there's some kinda difference or change in it, it is bound to feel a bit phased-out. I get you completely with the "just when it seemed like we got the hang of something, there's a loud thudd and *whoosh* back to square one of familiarizing with the events physically and emotionally".
*comes back to 7 cups* xD
Now technical changes being even harder because they are directly linked with what we do here, ofcourse impacting it now lol, feel that heh.
And aww I don't have the melted emoji either lol, google helps xD one search away wee wee. Here you go though: (one for you and one for me 😆)
❤❤❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou *looks around nervously* you got a different memo than I did - sorry I make jokes sometimes when I get nervous 😅 Sharing feelings is a struggle - it doesn't feel safe
I agree - even good change feels off. Like it throws off my balance - of what I know maybe? What is concrete and what is certain
😁 Cups and change - lol That whole reply button thing really still gets me *smh*
Praise to the power of google! Holy cow they have a few different ones
*I wanted to say it was really awesome to see you in that chatroom yesterday and I hope I didn't come across as rude or unwelcoming because I didn't mean to. I was just really trying to stay focused on who I was talking with but I hope to see you around again ❤️*
The brahmas are little any more :/ they'll soon be four months old
Hedwig and Tweety
finished the book nook. The flowers are a morning glory and the newest lily addition - Nightrider
@mytwistedsoul
Cool
@mytwistedsoul
:0 turtleeeeeeeeee 🐢
@emotionalTalker2260 It didn't want the strawberry 😕😋
@mytwistedsoul
silly turtle 😶
@emotionalTalker2260 Ikr!? What's wrong with turtles theses days? 😕
@mytwistedsoul
😕😕😕 shove the strawberry in the turtles mouth.. maybe it wants to be force fed 😆 (actually don’t.. just kidding 😭)
@mytwistedsoul
Psst.. are you up?
@emotionalTalker2260 lol! First thought was - wow that escalated quickly! 😛
@mytwistedsoul
lollllll 😆
@sunshinegiraffe123 aww sorry I missed you! I took the dog out and went to bed 😕
@mytwistedsoul
are you up now?
@sunshinegiraffe123 yep just doing some chores
What's up?
@mytwistedsoul
can you pop in general support for a few?
@sunshinegiraffe123 Sat there and waited - said you were there but nobody said anything
@mytwistedsoul
Are you able to come into trauma support possibly?
@sunshinegiraffe123 I'll need a few minutes to clean up and dry off but sure I can come in
@mytwistedsoul
ok
@mytwistedsoul
hey are you around
@sunshinegiraffe123 I am now :)
@mytwistedsoul
hey
Question - I've been informed that members arent allowed to offer or recieve support from other members. Isn't that the whole purpose of this site?
@mytwistedsoul
Informed through, Soul? (For instance is there a forum thread or guideline backing this)
I don't think that's correct though, have never heard of this. It's a peer-to-peer space, and you're right, members too supporting each other is allowed (and certainly should be). ❤
What I imagine might be the confusion here, *potentially* would perhaps be about listeners seeking support when they are on their listener account? This is something ofcourse not allowed. To demarcate boundaries between a listener and member account. (They'd need to switch to their member account for personal/ emotional support, yes)
I'd tag a leader who'd back us on this, but since it's your personal thread, I don't want to. ❤ I'll however ask around and communicate, if I can get more information on the same.
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou It was a teen listener. I had replied to a member about how there are alot of understanding and supportive people here and said that I was willing to talk with this person on that thread if they were comfortable with it
The listener said *Hi! It's so nice of you offering to help another member but unfortunately members cannot provide/offer support to another member.*
I can provide a link to the thread if it's ok and you'd like to see it
@mytwistedsoul Sure 😮
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou https://www.7cups.com/forum/NewbieHub_27/WelcomeIntroductionsto7Cups_1163/Hello_281624/
I mean - I'm not looking to get anyone in trouble and I understand not giving advice but to say no support?
@mytwistedsoul
I understand Soul, and it's alright, I believe it's okay for misunderstandings to happen, so long we have means to acknowledge it and pass on correct information, that should help.
I reached out to several leaders, the most sorted reply was by midnightRaven999 (a safety ambassador) at 7 cups, and they said what we think so too. Members can indeed support other members, there are no rules on the same. You make a good point about the no-advice thing though, yes, advices aren't allowed whatsoever, but support is more than fine and encouraged too.
Always have appreciated you looking out for everyone, Soul, keep being your kind, caring, supportive self. ❤
Raven by the way, also replied in that thread.
I hope this helps. Do let me know if there's any questions or anything I can help with.
@mytwistedsoul
One of the leaders, upon discussion also came up with a fantastic thread, https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupModZone_168/ParticipantsCorner_2318/MemberMemberInteractionTips_282196/
We might work around more on this together. A topic worth reminding everyone about, I think lol. 😃
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou No worries :) It was just so out of the blue - I guess it caught me off guard. That was the first time anyone has ever told me that
Extra 🍕 and 🍪 For reaching out to all the people you did . It does help and sets my mind at ease that I'm not doing anything wrong ❤️
@mytwistedsoul
Understandable hehe, was quite unsettled too xD
And thankyouu *noms 🍕🍪 and shares with you too* 😊❤
After two separate incidents with people - the first - well - that's allready here lol. The second was also on some else's thread a person saying some really horrible things to this person 😞 so in the spirit of that this is the song for today
@mytwistedsoul
hey
*brings in cheese for the mice gods* and some for @mytwistedsoul cheers ! 🧀
Hope you are well ❤️
Sending love
@ferventflame *gasp!* Flame! Omg how are you? Haven't seen you in what feels like forever! I'm so happy to see you!
This calls for a happy dance!
@mytwistedsoul
hi hi <3 i know its been couple of months, more than that even heh, how are you? i love your animal friends and plants omg, i dont know if you can see my excitement from here these things make me feel like a child 🥰🥰🥰🥰 but so beautiful hens and the turtle!!!!!!!!! i had a little one too but we later left him in the river too big for house haha, and the flowers are beautiful. Heh you live in a nature heaven! and the book street thing loooked amazing was it inspired by harry potter series? its so good i could never imagine to do carpentry!
Hope you are well sending you so much love and strength <3 you are always supporting users here, and its so kind, the way you do it!!! feels like someone definitely understands it, you know? sending lots of love to all your animal friends too <3333333333
@mytwistedsoul
sorry for the haphazard text :3 just got so excited to see the turtle and chickens
@ferventflame Flame! :) I can see the excitement lol - made me smile - Thank you ❤️
If you like nature - you'd love it here. The deer and birds are awesome to watch. Raccoons steal cat food off the porch. There's pileated woodpeckers that are big and kind of make me think of dinosaurs lol. Plus bears and coyotes and bobcats and owls! The owls are so cool to hear at night
I'm sorry you had to put your turtle outside. I guess some of them can get pretty big
The book nook is Diagon Alley :) it was a kit ordered from Amazon lol but the directions were in Japanese - so I was alittle surprised it turned out as good as it did tbh 😋
Thank you for the love and strength - we're sending some back to you along with some good vibes ❤️ Stay awesome Flame!
I'll have to get some more pictures of the chickens