Optimism
Hi there fellow IDG folk đ I hope youâre all well.
Iâd like to talk about âOptimismâ = The ability to sustain and communicate a sense of hope, positive attitude and confidence In the possibility of meaningful change.
I see myself as an optimistic person or at least try to be.  I know there have been times when my optimism has pulled me through some difficult situations but equally there have been other times when itâs âŠdipped đ.  When this happens I can go quietâŠtake myself off somewhere âŠmaybe just read a bookâŠnot want to talk about how I feel with anyoneâŠother times I want to talkâŠI want to ventâŠ(thanks to family and friends who have put up with my moaning đ). Other times Iâve taken the dog outâŠ.he never complains about another walk đ¶ or even my moaning poor ladâŠBefore long the fresh air gets into my lungs and itâs then when out and aboutâŠmy head begins to feel lighterâŠI begin to feel less stressed. Itâs then I see things for what they are and my mind begins to change. Itâs like the sun has come out behind a cloud and I begin to feel more positive and optimistic âïž. I also now journal, just for a couple of minutes each day. Iâve found it very therapeutic and quite look forward to putting my thoughts into paper.Â
Ok, question time;
1. What works for you when circumstances are such that you feel you donât hold much optimism?Â
2. I love quotes especially positive quotes. Hereâs some of mine below but please feel free to let me know one of yours?Â
đč âThe only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to beâ.
đč âThe question isnât who is going to let me, itâs who is going to stop meâ.
The next two always make me smile đ
đč âWhatever you do, always give 100%, unless youâre donating bloodâ đ
đč âThe key to happiness is a positive mindset, a great sense of humour..and a lot of chocolateâ đ
On a more serious note; Please remember whatever youâre going through itâs important to feel our emotionsâŠand tomorrow is another dayâŠ
đč Rosie đč
@RainbowRosie
Sometimes it can be hard to stay positive! Too many of my surgeries were spent trying to squash the pessimism and feed the hope- but I've found a trick along the way:
Pretend you're an angel talking to a person in your position.
For so long, I've had to lay by myself and close my eyes while thinking about all the things I'd want someone to hope for and think if they were in my position.Â
'I'm so grateful you live in a time where modern medicine has come so far!' 'This will be the one, I just know it will!' 'We've come so far and gained so much, this is just another experience for the bag!' 'You'll have this experience to pass down the knowledge of to others around you!'
Just thinking about what the most positive creature in the universe might think up is an effective way for me to stay optimistic!Â
@RainbowRosie
I agree with you about optimism being very important!! I see myself as a "glass half full" girl, even when there may not even be any water in the glass!! I tend to be able to envision what the glass will look like full in these times! lol
I also LOVE quotes, affirmations, etc!! I will share some of my favs here:
"After a while I looked in the mirror and I realized..'Wow, after all those hurts, scars, and bruises...after all those trials, I really made it through. I did it. I survived that which was supposed to kill me!' So I straightened my crown...and walked away...like the boss that I am!!!" ~Unknown
"One day you will tell your story of how you've overcome what you're going through now, and it will become part of someone else's survival guide!" Â ~Brene Brown
"Never be a prisoner of your past. It was just a lesson, not a life sentence." -Unknown
"Make sure you are responding to the present moment and not reacting to something from your past that the current situation reminds you of." -Maryam Hasnaa
"Empaths are the ones who can see through the haze, sense the hidden meaning, and feel the truth under the surface." -Aletheia Luna
"Your existence brings a light into this world like no other, please keep that light shining." -TWLOHA
"She feels more than you. You have to understand that about her. She feels the edges and the details of things and when she gets close to someone, she feels their happiness and their pain." -JMStorm
"You will be too much for some people. Those aren't your people." -Unknown
"Lightworkers aren't here to avoid the darkness. They are here to transform the darkness through the illuminating light of love." -Unknown
"Sensitivity is an empath's navigation system" -Laura Rowe Â
"The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It's our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows." -Brene Brown
"Being an empath is like seeing with the soul." -Dean Koontz
"I hope you live a life you're proud of. If you find you're not, I hope you have the strength to START OVER again." -F. Scott Fitzgerald
"Empaths feel distance, doubt, and change to a different degree. They sense the shift before you can verbalize it." -The Minds Journal
"The mature empath works from intuition and objectivity, serving as a channel and alchemist rather than a sponge." -LeAura Alderson
"Empaths have an inner compass set to Universal Law, where they know that all beings are equal and our real currency is love." -The Vital Spirit
"Nothing can dim the light that shines from within." -Maya Angelou
"I change my life when I change my thinking. I am light. I am Spirit. I am a wonderful, capable being. And it is time for me to acknowledge that I create my own reality with my thoughts. if I want to change my reality, then it is time for me to change my mind." -Louise Hay
"I know now that we never get over great losses; We absorb them and they carve us into different, often kinder, creatures." -Unknown
"You create your thoughts, your thoughts create your imaginations, and your intentions create your reality." -Wayne W. Dyer
"It's time to no longer hide your magic, becaue the world needs your medicine. Make this the moment you become committed to going deeper as a light worker, so that you can uncover your gifts and activate your fullest light potential." -Natalie Brite
"Maybe you have to know the darkness before you can appreciate the light." -Madeleine L\'Engle
"Empaths be likeâŠ..I don't just listen to your words. I listen to your use of words, your tone, your body movements, your eyes, your subtle facial expressions. I interpret your silences - I can hear everything you don't say in words." -Unknown
"Don't you know yet? It is your light that lights the world." -Rumi
"Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen." -Brene Brown
"First you wake up to your light, then you wake up to your shadow, and finally you wake up to yourself." -Unknown
"Empaths did not come into this world to be victims, we came to be warriors." -Anthon St. Maarten
"Go easy on yourself. You are clearing thousands of years of outdated conditioning." -Paulina Serfafina
"Love is the highest vibration and highest state of consciousness in the Universe. By tuning in to this vibrational frequency we are aligning ourselves with its very essence. Divine Source Energy." -Unknown
"Empaths be like....'You told me this. Well, either you told me or I heard you thinking either way, I already know.'" -Unknown
"I am an empath. I can hear what you are not saying." -YourLifeLifter
"Being humble means recognizing that we are not on earth to see how important we can become, but to see how much difference we can make in the lives of others." -Gordon B. Hinckley
"No degree of worldly darkness can extinguish the glow of a soul's inner light." -Wes Fesler
"Energy is contagious. Either you affect people, or you infect people." -Unknown
"Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach." -Tom Robbins
"Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny."
"You are a sovereign being. You have the power to create anything."
"We are bound & connected by an invisible field of energy, & this energy field can affect everyone's behaviors, emotional states, & conscious & unconscious thoughts," -Joe Dispenza
"A Sovereign Being is one who has broken free of culture's conditioning. referring to a higher wisdom from within that serves the good of all. This is where your true Freedom awaits you. It requires your full presence. One can no longer play the victim in this space. Instead, one becomes a leader." -Awakening Leadership
@RainbowRosie
More quotes/affirmations:
"You have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved." -Unknown
"Be confused, it's where you begin to learn new things. Be broken, it's where you begin to heal Be frustrated, it's where you start to make more authentic decisions. Be sad, because if we are brave enough we can hear our heart's wisdom through it. Be whatever you are right now. No more hiding. You are worthy, always." -S.C. Lourie
"Confidence isn't walking into a room with your nose in the air and thinking you are better than everyone else, it's walking into a room and never thinking about or needing to compare yourself to anyone in the first place."
"Other people are going to find healing in your wounds. Your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts." -Rick Warren
"How you make others feï»żel about themselves, says a lot about you!" ~Boonaa Mohammed
"YOU ARE MAGIC, DON'T EVER APOLOGIZE FOR THE FIRE WITHIN YOU!! ~Unknown
And my favorites by my favorite person, Mr. Rogers!:
"As human beings, our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is, that each of us has something that no one else has- or ever will have- something inside that is unique to all time. It's our job to encourage each other to discover that uniqueness and to provide ways of developing its expression."
"I don't think anyone can grow unless he's loved exactly as he is now, appreciated for what he is rather than what he will be."
"If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person."
"Knowing that we can be loved exactly as we are gives us all the best opportunity for growing into the healthiest of people."
"Listening is where love begins: listening to ourselves and then to our neighbors."
"Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now."
"Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other's achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain."
"Often out of periods of losing come the greatest strivings toward a new winning streak."
"Often when you think you're at the end of something, you're at the beginning of something else."
"Real strength has to do with helping others."
"There's a world of difference between insisting on someone's doing something and establishing an atmosphere in which that person can grow into wanting to do it."
"We all have different gifts, so we all have different ways of saying to the world who we are."
"We speak with more than our mouths. We listen with more than our ears."
"You can think about things and make believe. All you have to do is think and they'll grow."
"You can't really love someone else unless you really love yourself first."
âWhen I say it's you I like, I'm talking about that part of you that knows that life is far more than anything you can ever see or hear or touch. That deep part of you that allows you to stand for those things without which humankind cannot survive. Love that conquers hate, peace that rises triumphant over war, and justice that proves more powerful than greed.âÂ
âPart of the problem with the word 'disabilities' is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can't feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren't able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.âÂ
âI hope you're proud of yourself for the times you've said "yes," when all it meant was extra work for you and was seemingly helpful only to someone else.âÂ
âWe need to help people to discover the true meaning of love. Love is generally confused with dependence. Those of us who have grown in true love know that we can love only in proportion to our capacity for independence.âÂ
âWho we are in the present includes who we were in the past.âÂ
âThe child is in me still and sometimes not so still.âÂ
âLove and trust, in the space between whatâs said and whatâs heard in our life, can make all the difference in the world. âÂ
@RainbowRosie
Hey Rosie! Thank you for sharing your experienceđIt's honestly a struggle at times for me to remain optimistic, but what works for me are watching motivational videos, surrounding myself with loved ones, connecting with nature, and more.Â
Thank you as well for sharing those quotes, I love them! Here are some of mine:Â
"Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day." - Alice Earle
"Life is tough my darling, but so are you." - Stephanie HenryÂ
"Don't forget - no one else sees the world the way you do, so no one else can tell the stories that you have to tell." - Charles de Lint