Most Validating Thing...
What's the most Validating thing someone has said to you that you can remember?
How did it make you feel?
Did it help you in anyway?
Have you validated others?
Feel free to come back and add more if you have new validating experiences!
What is validation?
"Emotional validation is the process of learning about, understanding, and expressing acceptance of another person's emotional experience. Emotional validation is distinguished from emotional invalidation, when a person's emotional experiences are rejected, ignored, or judged." - VeryWellMind.Com-Validation
@DichotomousDetia "its ok to show anger"
PS : that same person left me when i was having sui cidal thoughts because i was the one who is unbearable, having issues and love to solve issues by creating them ....... all i ever asked him to stay , just stay for a little while because i am not feeling good ( he never knew that i was sui cidal at that time , but every time he got angry or stopped talking to me and threatened me to leave me i literally begged him to stop this and stay )
@RHassan
I'm so sorry you had that experience, it sounds really painful. Being rejected or abandoned while in a vulnerable state like sui has left me in an awful place. I hope it has gotten easier or will get easier in the future. You deserve support and you even deserve support in figuring out how to get the support that's healthy and safe for you.
My closest friend once said that it's completely okay to take time to recover from something really difficult and that recovery time isn't wasted at all and that felt really validating <3
I had trouble answering this tbh - I know people have said alot of validating things to me here but I guess the best was that I'm allowed to feel whatever I feel. Those feelings are valid and they're there for a reason
" And you kept it all inside, suffering on your own?! " These are just simple words said so long ago but I still hold them close cause they validated my every emotion, made me realize that I deserve help and that there are people who care so much to understand the things that were there beyond the words that I spoke.
❤️ Thank you for this post! I was told that I’m not a failure and that whatever happens, it’ll be okay. It was a helpful relief. And I love to validate others whenever I can! ❤️
@DichotomousDetia
I was told that they were proud of me for sticking to something that was really hard and I think that made me feel really happy and kind of relieved to hear. Im finally going to graduate after so long.
@GivenLemon
Hey, congratulations on your graduation! That's awesome!
It’s okay to not be okay.
@DichotomousDetia
It was from someone very dear to me. They've said this multiple times in different ways:
"I uncovered another part of you. A more delicate, broken, difficult, but still beautiful part of your personality and life."
I felt truly heard and seen. They acknowledged that I was struggling. It meant a lot that they saw so much of me and didn't shy away. Instead, they were still able to see beauty in the real me when even I didn't. They really helped me build faith in myself. I also learnt that trust doesn't always lead to getting hurt.
I always try to validate others when I'm listening. I like to pay attention to what they feel because sometimes it's overlooked. All feelings matter; they matter. I don't have to physically feel the same way, but I can understand them and express that I accept them, I am here with them.
@DichotomousDetia
There are more than one thing. For example, it makes me feel validated when someone really listens to me, shows me that they care or tells me that they like it when I'm around.
I try to validate others by actively listening to them and supporting them as well as possible.
@DichotomousDetia
um, someone once said ''I felt a bit shy to say this to the group but I don't mind telling you because you know I can always tell you anything''.
That meant more than she knew.
