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"I love you" but let's try something different ❤

Sunisshiningandsoareyou October 17th, 2022

❤ People speak from their heart more often than we'd realise, listen closely; As they do things out of their heart more often we witness, observe deeply: You *are* loved. ❤

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Hey hey lovelies, I hope y'all are doing well, and staying safe. ❤

I like when someone shows their surprise with a "you remember?" Or "you noticed?!" Or "This was ages ago, I don't remember telling you even but you do lol?" Or "how did you know?" And counting hehe.

I get the surprise element here, it's valid to feel a tad bit shocked when someone remembers a detail you shared with them or similar.

I, however, see it as a love language for me.

Yes it is, to remember and make someone feel remembered. To notice and to make someone be aware they are noticed. To see someone, and remind them how *seen* they are. To appreciate someone, and to encourage them to feel appreciated. To love someone and make them feel loved, in whatever little ways possible.

Little becomes A Lot,

with genuine intent and thought.

So many times we may not be able to say those three, as they say *magic* words lol, nope, not "Want some pizza?" (These are magic words for me though, no cap😛), but yes, now is the right guess, "I love you", is what I'm referring to.

There's different reasons we don't say it as often as we would like to or want to (in any kind of relationships, and with anyone at all), and all super valid, but I feel, many of us convey our love to them in different ways, using different words, and various gestures and that surely makes a difference too.

It is again the thought, and the little things that warm one's heart.

Some examples of letting people know we love them, care for them, value them, appreciate them and that in *our* world, they do make a big difference. ❤

♡ Someone asking us to text them back when we reach home

♡ Reminding to sleep on time

♡ "Did you eat something?" Texts

♡ "I miss you" texts

♡ Someone remembering something we told them

♡ Random 3 PM "how are you doing?" texts

Someone being patient with us

♡ "How was your day?" And being genuinely curious to know

♡ Having a starry view outside and someone yet choosing to capture us

♡ "I am here for you" and really meaning it

♡ Handmade cards/gifts

♡ "Sorry I acted the way I did, let's talk when you're available?" ~ Owning and being accountable

♡ Offering help with stuff

♡ "I'm so proud of you" texts

♡ Being there and embracing the silence

♡ Listening to them

♡ (Not so) Random acts of kindness

♡ Ordering their favorite food

♡ Suggesting music/ curating a playlist

♡ Thoughtful gifts

♡ Watching their favorite movie

♡ Giving them hugs/ being affectionate as per their comfort zone

♡ Complimentssss

♡ Praying and wishing for their wellbeing/ Keeping them in thoughts

Ooof I can honestly go on about more ways to express our love and care, on a regular basis, without even explicitly saying it out loud.

But ofcourse would like to hear from everyone now. ❤


🌻Expression Time🌻

☆ What are your thoughts about the same?

☆ How do you like to express your love and care to a loved one? [Family, Friend, Partner, Potential Partner lol, 7 cups peers, Yourself, anyone at all you love and care for]

☆ Feel free to share your favorite ways that make *you* feel loved and cared for.



❤ Anddddd while we discussing different ways of expression, if you *are* someone who tells their loved ones how loved they are on a regular basis, how very amazing are you. While the acts of kindness and selflessness matter, it is nice to hear the actual words too sometimes hehe, does give that sweet, warm, loving feeling, one that everyone deserves. ❤

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goldenLion1121 February 21st, 2023

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

*Awesomeeee* post as always!

  • What are your thoughts about the same?

Yeah, for sure, I love everything you mentioned. I think it was all really lovely and sweet. For me, I'm not a "I love you" person so I prefer to show someone I love them in a different way, like, play a game with them, spend time with them (maybe watch a movie or bake some sweet treats 🤤) etc.

  • How do you like to express your love and care to a loved one? [Family, Friend, Partner, Potential Partner lol, 7 cups peers, Yourself, anyone at all you love and care for] Hmm, I would sayyyy, gaming (Xbox hehe!), going shopping, playing board games, watching football, baking etc.

- Nia (:

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP February 21st, 2023

@goldenLion1121

Aww *youuu* awesomeeee always, Nia. I smile whenever see a tag from you, or you around the forums, always spreading so much cheer! Thankyouu for sharing, I get the verbal three words feel harder for many of us, and it's so great that doesn't stop us from conveying our love to our love ones, with something that we feel more comfortable with. Spending time together is the bestest way, I feel, the company is what matters so much. Specially when it's your lovely-self's company, your loved ones better be grateful hehe. ❤

So many wonderful ways to express love, and what fun also, gaming, shopping, baking! 🥰 I enjoyed your response! Sending so much love your way!

Now we come to the more important question xD Whatcha baking for me and when? 😛

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goldenLion1121 February 21st, 2023

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Ahhh yesss! I will create a forum thread for my *terrible* baking haha and tag you in it so you can see! Sound gooddd? I'm meant to be baking soon so we'll see! I'll dig my chef's hat out haha 🤣

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP February 21st, 2023

@goldenLion1121 Soundssss perfect, look forward to the tag and your chef hat lol! Nia is trying, is what counts, baking should enjoyable and fun hehe!❤

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RosaHere June 9th, 2023

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou What a creative and beautiful post! I love it!

Apart from appreciating and reminding my loved ones that I love them, my love language is surprising them with handmade gifts or handwritten letters. 🤍🤍

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP September 29th, 2023

Hey hey @RosaHere thank youuu for appreciating hehe, I'm really glad you enjoyed the post too and woahhhhh, to be surprised with handmade gifts and handwritten letters is such #goals lol, my heart is melting merely at the sound of it. Your love ones are sooo blessed to have youu!🥰💖

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RosaHere September 29th, 2023

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou How sweet of you! You deserve the best! ❤️

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LonleyCheese October 4th, 2023

"did you eat today?" "did you sleep well?" singing at the top of your lungs with them in the car, but listening when they need to talk. Pressing to make sure they're okay, but not uncomfortably so. "brought you some food/ yo, you want my dessert/some tater tots?" They look so cute in your hoodie, so of course you've gotta share when they're cold. now they're warm, and even though you're cold you're still warm inside. Baking new recipies with them and laughing together when they taste horrible. The silence, though rare, isn't awkward. Walks alone togther in the dark or through the leaf-littered park in the fall.

all these things are love to me

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP October 4th, 2023

@LonleyCheese

Ahhhhh my heart just melted and then melted a little more upon reading every lil way of loving your love ones here, you are sooooo adorable hehe.

Melted the most while reading this "now they're warm, and even though you're cold you're still warm inside" asdfghjkkkk whatttt!😭🥰❤

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VictoriaLove7 October 6th, 2023
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou 🌞❤

morning/night texts, asking how's their day, making something for them, remembering many things they told you long time ago, happily make extra efforts for them to make them happy 🤗

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP October 6th, 2023

@VictoriaLove7

So many sweet ways of expressing the love, thank you for sharing, Viccc!🥰

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Waterbottleglass October 6th, 2023

read the books they like, listen to the songs they like


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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP October 6th, 2023

Yay thank you for sharing, @Waterbottleglass, such simple yet thoughtful ways of making people feel loved.

Sharing your music with someone is defo a top tier love language!

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Tinywhisper11 October 6th, 2023

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou sunny I'm not afraid to use those magic words 😁 I tell everyone in this site I love them. Because I really do ❤❤ hugggsss sunny ❤ I love you

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP October 6th, 2023

@Tinywhisper11 

Aww yes you do and so often, and you also inspire others to say the magic words more often too. (You've inspired me countless times Lola❤)

You have the most alive, loving and uber sweet heart, Lolaaabeannn. We love you sooo much alsooo!🤗❤

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Tinywhisper11 October 6th, 2023

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou uber sweet ❤aww once you've completed your own dictionary send me a copy 😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤I lovvve you more huggs you

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP January 24th

@Tinywhisper11


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Tinywhisper11 January 24th

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou ohhhh! That was you! Warn me next time, that sudden unexplained squeeze scared me😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 gives you a giant tiny hug ❤ I love you ❤

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP January 25th

@Tinywhisper11 sending out a forever caution then 😛 a tight squeeezieee from sunnyboo can come outta anywhere anytime for lolaabeaaann, be prepared always okieee.🥺🤗 I love you moreee, specialarrr beaaaannn! 🥰💖

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VictoriaLove7 January 26th

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Remind them to owlways be gentle towards themselves

PS. Remember to owlways be more gentle towards yourself, Sunshine! 🌞🥺🤗

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP January 28th

@VictoriaLove7

Such a kind reminder for our love ones and a simple way of expressing it to them. Thank you sharing, Vic.❤

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VictoriaLove7 January 28th

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Thank you, Sunshine for being *youu*! 🌞❤

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RachelListener January 26th

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Listening to their favorite song and then tell them  ˶ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ˶

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP January 28th

@RachelListener

Hehe v cute! ^_^ 

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JollyRacher January 28th

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

☆ How do you like to express your love and care to a loved one?

I spend time with them, because I feel like time is the most precious thing humans have. Get gifts that I know they love and show how much I listen and understand them. Hugs and cuddles, even though I am not really a touchy person. However, if I truly love you you will find me trying to slyly hold you hand or try to get a hug. 

☆ Feel free to share your favorite ways that make *you* feel loved and cared for.

Quality time and cuddles. People sometimes underestimate how much of an impact simply their presence can do for someone. Just being there, sometimes not even saying anything. I don't really like gifts because they confuse me and I get scared so gift giving is a 50/50 thing for me, but if it's well thought out I will truly appreciate it. 

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP January 28th

@JollyRacher

Awww this was super relatable. I feel, quality time and presence are such beautiful ways of expressing love and feeling loved. You're soooo right, mere presence too is more than enough, people don't need to always keep talking or doing something to make the moment count. 🥰

Hehe yess, gift giving can be confusing at times. I am not too great at it too. XD 

I'm glad you find quality time and cuddles as some ways that make you feel loved. Affectionate touch from a love one certainly does feel nice and comfy. Thank youu for sharing! 💗

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sadcat13 January 28th

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

☆ What are your thoughts about the same?

I enjoyed reading it so much. There are so many ways of expressing our care and love for others, thank you for taking the time to tell us about it 😊

☆ How do you like to express your love and care to a loved one? [Family, Friend, Partner, Potential Partner lol, 7 cups peers, Yourself, anyone at all you love and care for]

I am one of those who just can't say I love you. I just can't. I will just open and close my mouth like a fish, unable to get the words out. But I show people I love them by listening to them, giving them small gifts, caring for them and supporting them in hard time.

☆ Feel free to share your favorite ways that make *you* feel loved and cared for.

Fruit. Peel a tangerine, chop an apple or wash some grapes for me, and I will have no doubts I am deeply loved. Same goes for any food I like. My belly is very good at detecting the love 😁 Also, listening to me. You don't even have to actively listen to me, just let me talk myself out and I'm feeling perfectly loved.