Missed Connections, Severed Connection, and Closure.
Have you ever had a connection with a member or listener here on 7 Cups of Tea and it ended either with them leaving the platform or blocking you? How do you deal with it? How do you find acceptance or closure?
If you have someone in mind, or thinking generally, what would you want to say to them?
Please share if you are comfortable doing so. ❤️
@LovingPeacefulHeart
i have had a couple of experiences found a listener i thought went well 2 times and then they sort of disappeared i sent messages but nothing... I have no problem as that is a volunteer type role and they are not obligated to stay doing it perhaps it was draining on them etc.
The other was a long running person helped me a lot but they told me they were moving on and are not on app hardly at all anymore i miss the chats we had but am happy they had a breakthrough with what they were working on too.
@LovingPeacefulHeart I was blocked by two different listeners whom I considered as friends for no fault of mine in my old account (deleted now). I dealt with it pretty badly with one of those blocks got my account suspended for 2 straight weeks. It was never easy for me as I felt they could have communicated the issue (if ever there was any) than to resort to blocking!
I would like to tell them to grow up and learn to deal with things in a mature manner, to communicate accordingly before resorting to hurting others, to practice what you preach through your various badges (i.e. block only when there is a good enough reason to do so, as per the guidelines communicated by 7 cups)
@Ziegler0710 We had only started talking and you were very supportive. Why did you block me and close the chat?
I had a bug that needed reported and that was the only way to get it done! I submitted a report once it was closed. My sincerest apologies! It wouldn't let me send any further chat messages.
@Ziegler0710 thank you for letting me know… I’m sorry that happened
I had something similar with a friend ! .. and I would want to ask why did he lie to me and spoil our friendship…
I did...though I think it was partially my fault too...
I left the app for a while due to many personal reasons and when I came back...I realized I lost something else. My best friend AKA a listener dissappeared off the platform.
It's only been a while honestly...I haven't rlly coped. She's just gone...
I don't know where she went...
If she's okay...
Anything rlly.
I'm looking for closure too
I would tell him I am sorry. I think it was definitely my actions that caused the block…or they might have left the platform altogether. As a relatively anonymous platform, I was sad for a little, but realize it’s okay for someone to take their space.
@toughTree1642 Maybe he had his reasons. You don't have to feel guilty for this, it can be frustrating, but in the end, you just talked with your heart and in life, there's times where situations like those happen😓. Hope you don't feel so bad about this in those days🫶.
@LovingPeacefulHeart Well, it happened to me recently. It's weird. I'm new here, so I don't if it was a bug or something like that, but our discussion suddenly got deleted and I couldn't find him again (I don't remember his profile name as well). So yeah, maybe he blocked me (it would not be a problem because he can do whatever he wants, but I doubt it was the case because we were having a good discussion (from my point of vue)) or maybe it was a bug or anything else (I just find it sad because the discussion got well, we didn't stop talking about the situation and it happened so suddenly). Anyway, life is life🤷🥲
@LovingPeacefulHeart.
I respect their decision and don't take it personally. Everyone has their own needs, and I focus on providing support to those who are ready for it.
In my case it ended with me blocking the Listener, not vice-versa.
At this point I have nothing to say to her because it would be a waste of my time & energy. If that wasn't so, all I'd say is "you need to get your own ducks in a row before you even think about helping other people."
