Curious to know does their exist so much romance in real couple
I always felt i haven't had experience much romance in life.
Sometime I feel i overthink then the reality is different.
So want to know from other people do romance or intimacy exist early period only or it goes whole time till relationship is there.
Does it done frequent.
@wittyMap7054
I feel the romance is strong in the beginning of relationship ... too many people are constantly chasing that and are disappointed when relationships have lull from the romance.
Many saying things like "they are not texting as fast as they used to" or "they want to stay home instead of going out all the time "... I met a person who nailed this by telling me they enjoyed the chase and the getting to know a person but once that is over they are looking for the chase the flirting the romance.
In long term...We may see glimpses through out the relationship but it is not real in everyday type things. As time passes we grow into a deeper relationship you understand that and while we like when moments arise where we have that again ... but know it is the little things.
it depends on the person, i have been dating my s/o for just over a month, we were "talking" for 10.5 weeks before we made it official, though we didnt care, we were a happy couple in every sense except the label, and that was fine with us
We have been friends for 4 years, and i think that plays a part in how we are so attached to each other
Our mutual friends starting dating 2 days after we did, and they are starting to feel the romance fade away
I am not worried about this happening to us, every morning I get to school, and see my darling waiting by the door, in the beanie i made him for his birthday, eyes searching for me, I walk up and see his eyes light up as i come and hug him, I get a hug and kiss to the head and a "Good Morning my little fox, I missed you" (he calls me that cause i sound like a fox when I laugh)
We have already had those deep, personal discussions, we've opened up about our past trauma, discussed our hopes for the future, planned out what we want our lives to look like for the next 6 years
No, we're not in that brand new couple stage anymore, but every time he does something small, like hold my coffee in the morning so i can juggle my bag and stuff to get in line for security at the entrance to my school, bringing me a few dandelions he picked off the side of his driveway, grabbing my hand when i start to itch from anxiety, or just stare at me and tell me im pretty, i fall even more in love with him, and it was this way before we started actually dating
I think part of why we are such a good couple is we spent so long "talking" , and we still havent done anything besides small kisses and cuddles
@Sweetgirl07
Wow.
I. Am. So. Single...
But gosh your relationship sounds sooo freaking amazing gurll.
The intimate details and experiences of romance in a relationship changes over time. In the beginning, it is all hearts, butterflies and flowers, but as the years go by, it changes I.e. it matures and becomes more familiar. There is a need to recognise that love starts in one format, but the values within the concept also mature and in doing so switch from a focus on what we want to the needs of the couple and may well include sacrifice of our own expectations. If it were not so, then the relationship would seriously suffer. Finally, not everyone is romantically inclined, so we discover alternative qualities that bi d the relationship.
@theseaandthesand
Your thoughts make sense.
I made mistake by assuming my ex also would be wishing same romance I wanted.
Too childish it seems now.
@wittyMap7054
I believe what you felt was true.
In my opinion it is not about being childish or not, but about being able to communicate on the same "frequency band" or "speak the same language of commitment".
Obviously, the reality is sometimes different than in romantic movies (where the budget and the vision seem to be the only limit). However, the reality is sometimes much better than in a movie, speaking from my experience 😊
@jacek73
Yes I met people of same wavelength but
It like whom I like they don't like me
Usually I settled with lesser or cheated or dumb
@wittyMap7054
Maybe it is about some luck and keeping trying to meet the right person.
I believe it is a good idea to "aim high" and reach for people who appear to be "just a bit too good for me", because after a few weeks, when some of their weak points start to be visible they feel "just right for me" 😊
Our expectations can often get in the way within a relationship. Many arguments may well have them at their source. What happens next however, is largely determined by the value placed on both the relationship and the need for expectations to be met. It all comes down to choices and consequences.
@wittyMap7054 there was one ex bf. When I was with him, I felt nothing but contentment, joyfulness, even though it was just another ordinary day. We were each other sanctuary. Romance and intimacy were there, almost all the time, around 95% in our relationship. I never found such a love anymore. I never found those feelings in anybody else 💔
@wittyMap7054
personally, i haven't been in too many relationships in real life, mostly online i date quite often
but when i do get into a relationship in real life, its just a simple hi and bye, dissapointing. because i am not allowed to date, i can't spend time with my partner unless i ask my mother and say they are just a friend, no guys allowed either,
i ended up turning aromantic, but the longest relationship i currently have is with my girlfriend, sophia, who i met in real life, she ended up graduating from elementary school a few months ago, and now she's a freshman in highschool, and we stayed together for 7 months
we often text in ***, and i wish i could see her in person (my mother hates her after seeing the texts between me and her), but hopefully one day, if we are still together, i'll have the ability to drive, and go see her.
i do still hope to get into another relationship once i am in highschool, and be able to give affection to my partners :-)
@Nate715
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@Nate715
I don't use that app
@Nate715
Yeh let hope soon you get to meet her.
You are young age so once you get courage you can explore more
I had cross the bar n it difficult now
Sometime I wish I wasn't good girl during my youth
@wittyMap7054
theres still hope you can find a partner, and hopefully you do
@Nate715
I am not positive abt it
Physically wise i am not so good position
@wittyMap7054
How's your experience so far?
@Blessedsoul2011
Not good.
That why I asked. Because I never met anyone who shower romance.
If someone show gesture then they just want to impress n get dirty talk. Once done they disappear or cut off
@wittyMap7054
Even from my ex I did not find he felt any physical intimacy type of attraction.
I kept doing for him but never from his side I got any gesture. It had hurt me core.
@wittyMap7054 it depends. Basically. At the start, you have this rush of love and feelings, a burning desire. Then, it will naturally turn into a more calm, appreciative and secure type of love. That doesn't mean you will loose the spark, it will just get much much more solid. You become each others support and rock in life. But that doesn't mean you should not put in the effort.
You always need to keep the love alive by actively choosing to make the other loved and happy. Me and my bf have been together for years now and we still make an effort for each other. Our go to tip is random signs of love like hidden messages in Minecraft on signs the other randomly discovers lol. But for less gamey people, a post it note with some cute words or a quick love text works just as well. You also need to help and support each other, appreciate the things you do for each other, etc.
Your love will go from butterflies in the stomach to knowing the other person like your own shoes. Ultimate trust. High respect. Just genuinely instead of the strong explosive stuff you will feel calm, safe, secure, happy and grateful. Sure, you will absolutely get the kicking your feet blushing moments, but they won't be such constant nonstop thing, instead a result of the things you chose to do or random appreciation moment when you just look at the other person and absolutely melt inside just because they exist.
Also, good communication is the key. You know that moment when you get hurt by what someone said or did but let it go to keep the peace? We call it having a mouse. Because just like if a dead mouse appeared in your home, you can either throw it out or ignore it and then it will rot. It won't disappear just because you pretend it is not there. And the longer it stays the more it rots. Similarly, when one of us said or did something that hurt the feelings of the other in some way or upset us, we immediately disclose we have a mouse and talk through it. Sure it may take a few tries sometimes but we always resolve it, especially since we know the other meant no harm to us.
Soooo In conclusion, if you wanna have a healthy relationship beyond the first love high phase:
- make continuous effort to make each other happy, loved and appreciated
- learn to communicate
- solve the mouses asap when they spawn
- remember when a problem rises, it is not you two against each other, but you two against the problem
@sadcat13
Wow lovely bonding u both shared. Amazing.
I felt like I am reading fantasy book of romance.
It gave me hope such couple n relationship do exist.
I also had put effort n communication in my marriage.
But he never. I kept trying for years. But he never felt anything for me. Why I never got reason for him. Thn people blame me u might not be attractive or this n that. I keep getting in dark hole of depression and self hate. As I am not ugly. I look average n before marriage i had guys who liked me.
It my bad luck or i sm extreme lover. I don't know. But I wish the relationship u had shared and others. Let see what life store for me.
@wittyMap7054 I'm so sorry you had such a bad luck with your partner. You deserve better. Relationships need effort from both sides, and it is not really about looks tbh. I feel like i look like something you would see in a deep sea documentary, but my boyfriend can't get enough of my face. So wouldn't really say it is about looks. The right person will love you no matter what.
Also, for the future, I recommend getting therapy to see why did you attract this type of a guy. It is usually connected to low self worth or reflection of the relationship dynamics your parents had of some sort that results in you tolerating bad treatment from partners and have weak boundaries. A skilled professional will help you sort it out so you are better equipped to filter out the garbage. Good luck with your next relationship ❤️
From my experience it’s been there throughout the entire relationship. Me and my partner have been together for almost 5 years and there’s still romance and intimacy in our relationship, but it’s different from at the start of the relationship. At the beginning things are new and exciting and you’re getting to know each other, so it’s that newly in love kind of feeling. As the relationship progresses it turns it’s a deeper love and appreciation. You’ve known each other for a while and experienced things together.
Although it’s been almost 5 years I feel like I’m more in love now than I was 5 years ago, because I’ve seen ‘good’ and ‘bad’ sides of my partner, went through hard times together and this only makes me appreciate and love him more. It’s like I’ve gotten a deeper appreciation for him as a person. I’ve embraced his ‘flaws’ and love him even more because of it. This mutual feeling has led to more qualitative romance and intimacy in our relationship.