About Forgiveness
Hii. I would like to share with everyone the art of forgiveness and detatchment. It's something I'm still learning but I thought it's truly a precious skill—acknowledging without reacting. It's also about not letting situations define you.
Listening really encouraged me to put myself in others' shoes frequently. We are human so if it's something small that you wish to point out, notice if it points out the ugly in others. If so, withheld opinions and move on. It would save you and others from a lot of conflicts from accidentally hurting someone with words.
I like to think that very bad tempered people are suffering so imagining how distressed and exhausted they are already, to the point they can't manage their feelings and actions well, it's best to disengage and not argue with them nor take revenge since they have already suffered so much.
If a person deeply hurt you, it's really hard to forgive. I understand life just seems different than ever and it's hard to recover from it. However, forgiveness is a choice to acknowledge someone really hurt you and let go of the pain. Start noticing the little positive things in life and place less importance to the hurt because in life there is sooo much more to explore. It's easier said than done. I believe it's truly an extraordinary skill to accept the unacceptable ultimately transcending boundaries! It's not an easy skill to master. What do you think?
Hey hey @calmingcomfortero it is so great to see you, been a while. How have things been for you on and off cups?😊
"acknowledging without reacting" and forgiveness is truly an important skill, and often not easy to master, or even practice hehe!
Wonderfully said! Forgiveness isn't easy but so so important for our own peace of mind also! 💛
Have come across some helpful growth paths with more insight on the path of forgiveness, for anyone wanting to check out-
https://www.7cups.com/path/playlist/moving-forward-with-self-forgiveness-under-construction/
https://www.7cups.com/path/playlist/forgive-using-reach-steps-under-construction/
Hii Sun can I give you a virtual hug? Thank you for always being a huge support to forum posts and I appreciate that you look out for me.
Ooh! I got to check out the forgiveness paths. You are a big help.
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Awww of course, Comfy, *virtual hugggssss* 🤗 you are sooo sweet! 💖
yes the art of forgiveness and detachment, if not known, if you are unable to practice this art, you have to pay its price! unhealthy attachments should never be maintained! one must let go of what does not serve! the more you immerse yourself in positivity, and utilize your time productively, the more positive you will feel and the more optimistic you will become! thank you for sharing! more power to you
right?! i am sooo glad you can relate to this. it’s the key to a positive life. the art of detachment and forgiveness is underrated. wishing you an awesome day.
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thank you for post it a good one. also thank you for adding it a choice too. many believe forgiveness is based on feelings. we learned it not you can forgive someone and still have bad feeling about them and what happened, but ir a choice wither to forgive them or not. we learned over the years forgiveness is not for the other person, but it for you. this mean that when you forgive it set you free from the bitterness and wanting to seek revenge for the acted they did or words they said. so we been able to forgive even them who abused us. but we not been able to forget what happened. but forgiveness also has freed us to work on healing from the things that have happened in our life.
forgiveness is the start to healing we believe too. can not heal when you are stuck in unforgiveness of others and self. for us forgiving self is the hardest too.
thanks for reading and adding on to the point of forgiveness. it's a beautifully written response. i completely agree we need not forget and from this abuse and we can set boundaries or cut this these people off from our lives depending on severity of incompatibilities.
by not forgetting, we can even learn about how definitely not to treat people that way and or be able to identify signs of similar abuse earlier and stop the abuse.
forgiving ourselves by forgiving others can truly allow us to heal. we deserve better than to dwell in bitterness. it's truly a difficult task to forgive people that abused us almost mind boggling.
Such a powerful perspective! Forgiveness and detachment are tough but so freeing. Thanks for the reminder to focus on the positives and let go of the pain.
I am so happy to hear that it's a powerful perspective. The newfound freedom of forgiveness and detachment is so freeing. A positive outlook can truly awaken the higher state of mind. May our pain be released.
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Personally, I find it hard to forgive others, especially when they are stubborn, keep hurting people, and then play the victim. It weighs on my heart, but in the long run, I know that if I don't forgive, the only one who suffers is me.
I may feel that some people don’t deserve my forgiveness, but I choose to forgive so that I can find peace again.
You do sound like me. Forgiving is hard. Yet it's a good idea to choose to forgive to find peace. The longer they can get under our skins, the longer unhappiness will be experienced, the more power the hurtful actions emotionally impacted us. When we don't forgive, we are only hurting ourselves feeling all the anger and injustice and feeling all the injustice for an extended period of time is truly a form of suffering. I wish you peace.
@calmingcomfortero hi thanks for sharing this.. I'm currently having a really hard time to forgive and let go. I feel like ok i forgive but when i'm reminded of what happened, i feel upsett againn.. I agree there's positive point that I can look and learn from this hurt, it's just that it's so hard for me to completely let go.
hii I just wanted to say it's okay to feel sad sometimes because we are humans. sending healing energy to your way. forgiving and letting go is hard. reminders of past unfortunate events can be triggering. I wish to recognise the little improvements about how you don't actively think about it unless reminded. slowly we can make progress towards the path of forgiveness. you are getting there.
@calmingcomfortero thank you for healing energy 🩷🙏. I can feel there's little improvement in me,, like it's becoming more peaceful after I decided to leave that trigger. Thank you for believing in my progress ☺️ I do really hope I can finally let go and be happy again this year..
To acknowledge someone really hurt you and decide to put the pain a commendable gesture.
Thank you so much. I agree