What Helps V/s What Hurts?
"When 'I' is replaced by 'We'... even illness becomes wellness"
How to talk to someone with a mental health disorder? [Source- ✪]
✘ It could be worse, there's plenty of people worse off than you
✔ I'm sorry - you're not alone, and I am here for you
✘ Have you tried taking this supplement or Herb?
✔ Is there anything I can do to help?
✘ Just snap out of it
✔ You might not believe it now, but the way your feeling will change
✘ We all go through times like these
✔ I may not exactly understand how you feel, but I care about you and want to try to understand how you are feeling
✘ You just need to get out and distract yourself
✔ I would love to spend time with you. Can we grab some coffee?
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@Amphios Thanks for highlighting this!
The person you help most, that person hurt you most. So don't help and get less hurt.
Helps: being allowed to move though the full spectrum of emotions I have about something, to the various degrees I need to feel them.
Hurts: being told to be mindful and to breathe.
@biggrump that is valid, mindfullness is helpful for some people, but is not for everyone.
Helps: chatting about light topics
Hurts: being told to read Jordan Peterson and to meditate and be mindful. Random self help videos from YT. Advice from mediocre people.
What hurts: "You shouldn't feel that way since you look good anyway" "Why are you upset, there's no reason you should feel that way" "Don't do the poor me act" What helps: "If you want to talk, I can just listen for you"
What helps....... I'm not really much help at this but I'd say a good have a damn good cry followed by a duvet day....... It may not help but it can make it easier to cope for the short term.
@Amphios
I agree with you. There are a lot of things that professionals say to people as well with depression that are not very professional. I know it from a first hand perspective, I've lived it. Sometimes it seems like they're telling you to snap out of it and just throw medication at you. Some of them want to help but some of them don't always know what they're doing.
@Amphios
I wish everyone here could read this. It really does hurt to be told these things. And people still keep saying them every time.
@Amphios
Well one thing a person can understand that a mental condition is just like physical condition. Trivializing people's condition like there are many worse than you is counter productive.
Also keeping the bond non judgemental is best thing a person can. This is best support.
@Amphios It's an amazing post! Thank you for sharing! My friends suffered from any mental illnesses. I really try to not give a toxic positivity as it's not helpful and it's just make them feel worse. So I just tell them that I am here for listening and I am grateful for having them in my life 💙