@ASilentObserver
My mom is a very social person. Idk why with all the social practice she has had, she still doesn’t know how to communicate the right way but I suspect that most of the people she socializes with don’t communicate well either. I already know they don’t have good manners.
They come as guests to this house I live in but they are too loud and stay up till 3-4am every night.
I told her and my stepdad before I cut them off that they need to control the environment since it’s their house as they keep claiming and since it’s their guests it’s their responsibility to keep things under reasonable control. I told them I’m not saying they should be mean and that they don’t need to be loud and stay up so late to have fun.
My stepdad just passed by me saying it’s gonna be loud tonight and it’d be better if I was upstairs. So on top of everything else I mentioned I’m also being rushed out of my own bedroom to go upstairs just to get some peace bc for some unknown reason it’s difficult all of a sudden for people who communicate and talk regularly to say something to their guests about the loudness. All they had to do was say something like “excuse me there’s other people living here who may be disturbed by your loudness and complain. We don’t want that to happen so if you don’t mind can you please lower your voice/keep your voice down? Thanks.” and for the lateness, “Ok. This was a lot of fun but it’s late now. I think it’s best we all call it a night now and go to sleep so we can wake up early feeling energized and have more time for more fun. Goodnight everyone.” Idk why that’s so difficult. It’s their house yet they’re letting guests dictate how things go in a house that’s not theirs. Makes no sense.
My mom constantly makes excuses saying it’s culture and she’s too old to change now.
So all I thought of doing about this is to give them what they’ve always given me - no consideration at all. Since they refuse to give me what I need, when they need something from me no matter what it is they won’t get it. At least not from me. My siblings, who keep saying it’s their house they can do whatever they want yet complained about them to me everyday they were living here, won’t be able to change my mind.
So while it’s a challenging situation, I might’ve figured a way to get even, not in the sense of revenge, but in the sense of making them feel how they always make me feel.