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Your Poem...
by EmmaE
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hi everyone, I came across this poem prompt and thought I'd share it here if anyone would like to try! ------------------------- My Poem (Title) My name is (name). Today I feel like a/an (adjective) (noun) (verb)ing in the (noun). Sometimes I am a/an (noun) Sometimes I am a/an (noun) But always I am (adjective). I ask the world, "(question)?" And the answer is a/an (repeat your words from line 2). ------------------------- If you’d like to join the depression support team, please check out THIS POST [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/SubcommunityHelpWanted_2306/HelpWantedDepressionSupport2023_295219/] for more information. To join our tag list and receive notifications, click HERE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/DepressionSupportCommunity_52/DepressionSupportLeadershipTeam_404/NEWautomateddepressionsupporttaglist_274831/].
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Weekly Prompt #41: How do you perceive your own resilience and ability to cope with challenges?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 December 19th
...See more Hello all, I hope you are all being easy on yourself this week. A few weeks ago we discussed: How does your depression affect your ability to care about and take care of others? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt40Howdoesyourdepressionaffectyourabilitytocareaboutandtakecareofothers_336335/] Thank you to all who participated and shared their thoughts and questions for discussion. They were thought-provoking questions and thoughts. I hope you all did too. If you didn't share yours, please share them here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt40Howdoesyourdepressionaffectyourabilitytocareaboutandtakecareofothers_336335/] and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you This week's prompt: How do you perceive your resilience and ability to cope with challenges? To perceive your resilience and ability to cope with challenges, you can reflect on your past experiences, identify your strengths, ways to embrace a positive mindset etc. Let's get started and share your thoughts with us. I look forward to hearing all your thoughts and ideas.  Join us in the 24/7 Depression Support Group Chat [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php]
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You can keep going 💙
by LoveMyMoonflowers
Last post
 November 22nd, 2024
...See more Hey everyone (: I hope your all doing okie 💙 and if your not (': we *do* care about you and we would really love to be there for you whenever you need us. 💜 I really hope you know that you don’t have to do this alone, buddy.  i don’t know what your going through right now, exactly. i don’t know how you feel (': but i’d like to remind you that it *is* okay to *feel* 💙 and it’s okay to take your time when figuring things out. it may be hard to explain how your feeling as well and i get that. 💜 (it’s important to take some time for yourself also 🥰 please do try being kind to yourself 🥺)  and some days… it just feels like too much, doesn’t it? we feel like we can’t take it anymore, we can’t go on anymore. Things just get too overwhelming, life just gets too hard… and hope seems like a distant dream. i know i’ve felt this way many times (': i think many of you might be able to relate 💙 but honestly, i need to remind you that there *is* hope, and you really can keep going. your never ever alone 💜 and you’ve never been truly alone.  And even though you might have never seen it, you are strong. stronger than you think you are. You’ve come *this* far and I am so so proud of you. i know it hasn’t been easy. i’m so proud of you. 💙 i’m sending so so so much love your way 💜 you deserve it, you really do 🥺 we love you, we care about you *always* and yes, there *is* hope for you. 💙 i promise.  🌙 Ni 🌸 @HealingTalk 
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Detached
by ImpudentIncognito
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 4 hours ago
...See more Gradually, over time, after dealing with constant abuse over and over and over again, on top of daily chronic/chest pain...it's made me grow numb. I feel detached from people. My feelings that made me human are slowly disappearing. Everyday, it's just a routine... A routine to hit my goal of escaping here and leaving everything behind. Things haven't been good and I have no one to rely on. Instead, I was used and manipulated multiple times by many different people or given broken promises. My heart is growing cold and weary. I've even begun disassociating again... But... Hopefully I am able to move out of here very soon, in a few months, somewhere far...and eventually, to a different country once I switch careers. I'm exhausted everyday. I don't care about my memories. I don't care about my past. None of it matters and I feel less likely to open up over time. Those horrible things that happen to me and even left me physically damaged? Will be a faint memory, recorded in a journal, tucked FAR away...as my memory is slowly starting to fade, and if needed, it can serve as a reminder so I don't end up in similar toxic situations. When I move, I plan on keeping to myself and doing some self-care before I can trust anyone ever again. Maybe some therapy, if I can find the right one, albeit, it's been difficult and I've tried multiple in the past... I'm just tired and wanted to vent... Probably need another hiatus from 7cups until I move and start my new life.
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I've lost all hope for a better life
by quietTangerine613
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 4 hours ago
...See more I posted a thread about being gay and my parents finding and getting abused by literally everyone in my family, well now I'm about to go to college, I was happy about it at first, at least I'll have a little bit peace of mind, but now I just found out that they've already chose a school for me which is closer to them, so that they can keep a short leash on me, and I can't do *** about, I have thought about running away but I have no where to go, no money to start up my life, so I have to endure the abuse and all the *** they do to me, just to make me "normal". Currently I don't know how to feel or what to do, I can't get help from the authorities cause I leave in a third world country, I came to this app to get someone to talk to and honestly It seems no one really understand me..🖤
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Feeling sorry for myself
by livbinny
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more Always felt always struggled with this after ppl got me down this year too much its nothing but this self pity cuz no one would even care or comfort me anyway I fall into this void all over again I could go to sleep or wake up same or during day I would be completely in these feelings without way out.. had something helped u urself?
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im so overwhelmed
by dandelioncorvid
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more A lot has happened in my life lately and i’m very overwhelmed. My boyfriend broke up with me and said he didn’t love me and it was like my whole world fell apart. I don’t really have any other close friends who can support me so i’m all alone. I loved him more than anyone i’ve ever loved. I had a really bad depressive episode last year and I think he saved my life and now he doesn’t love me anymore. He said we could stay friends but I feel like he’s avoiding me and I just miss him so much. I love him more than anything and he left me all alone. Schools stressing me out so much. I don’t have many friends and the ones I do, don’t talk to me much. I eat alone at lunch every day and I think everyone just dislikes me. My math grade is a 82 and my parents get mad at me if my grades aren’t above 85. I’m finally getting a 504 (basically disability accommodations like extended testing time) to help me with my anxiety disorder but my dad is upset about it. He thinks I don’t need it and i’m worried he’s right and i’m just faking this. Im in a musical at school but I hate the director and the whole time im just jealous and upset. I feel like such a bad person and a failure. At home I constantly feel bad for not exercising. my parents require me to do sports but I finally convinced them to stop and now I do the musical. I have anorexia but it’s gotten a lot better. I feel really worried though now that i’m not excersizing and i’m eating so much. Some food makes me have a really stuffy nose and that freaks me out too because what if the food is like making me sick and i’m being terrible and eating poorly. I hate exercise though. It makes me feel so gross and big. It makes my gender dysphoria terrible too. My parents make me go to bed at 9 on school nights and put my phone downstairs. I feel so anxious at night when I can’t fall asleep because I don’t want to do bad in school. I feel so much better when my phone is there. School starts again tommorow after break and i’m freaking out. i’m so anxious. I have tests I need to make up and math I need to learn and it’s all so much. I just don’t see a point in everything. I just feel so lost and hopeless. My whole life is falling apart and i’m just so exhausted. I wish I could just be happy. Just for reference, I am 16 and live in the united states.
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I don't know what to do
by ZssN
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more I just wanted to vent and say how I feel, I don't know what to do anymore, I don't know how to continue with this. I feel very tired, depressed, alone. I can't talk to anyone, I feel like talking to support groups doesn't make me better either. I feel totally sunk, I want to feel good but I am not able to do anything for myself. I was seriously thinking about committing suicide. Even though it is an idea that terrifies me a lot, I can't find a solution to my problems.
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My 7 Cups Dream Journal
by integrityblues
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more Entry 1: The Boxes of Cats It was a little strange but what I remember most is visiting a house that was in my old neighborhood that I’d recently moved from (it really wasn’t, so dream logic) but I came back to collect something I left or my mother left. It was very sad and the people who were there now were sort of okay with me wandering around and looking. I kept noticing the signs that I’d once lived there (painted over places that still revealed chipped paint and stuff I recognized from my apartment). Then I looked beneath a couch or table and found boxes full of kittens. Two boxes were full of meowing kittens in water that the new home owners had no idea were there, and one more box held a very dead cat that was an older one from a previous litter. All of the kittens were starving without their mother and I knew that it was the reason why the older one passed. The new owners suddenly smelled the dead cat and I took it upon myself to get rid of it. When I came back an hour later all of the kittens were gone, and when I was walking past another house I could see all the kittens. They’d all grown up into adult cats!
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Overcoming Poor Fitness/Depression/LowEnergy
by redNest4346
Last post
 11 hours ago
...See more So another new year rolls around And I find myself setting another new years resolution where I am going to get fit this year I have had low energy , constant tiredness all my life it seems Every time i go to a gym class .. i need a few hours nap to recover. I am constantly craving sugar to get energy hits .. but i am putting on weight at the same time , my old preferred clothes dont fit My bmr is low .. about 1100 kcal a day .. this can get up to about 1800 if i do gym classes and walk about 5 to 10 k Has anyone pushed through and transformed their fitness Any tips that made the difference??
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A break from depression and 7cups.
by CallumKing2000
Last post
 11 hours ago
...See more Okay well here I am, back with another post, I know they are not the best when I post and they can get depressing but this time I have to do this. To those who may have forgotten me i was Kingburger23 but recently I got a name change to my real name which you all know me as CallumKing2000 these days, however that is not what this post is about, I am making this post to let people know and my cups friends, I hope they are my friends, that I am taking a small vacation break, you see some of you knew today that I went into the sharing circle to share and I shared my feelings and thoughts, and when I shared I went back and I got so so sooo anxious to ask again so I logged out had an anxiety attack and logged back in and shared a few hours after explaining I need a break in General, so if people can pass on the news to the mindfulness team and just explain I won't be there for a while. As of tomorrow I will be booking into a hotel for a week to clear my mind and have some me time as I am not used to being around people alot, I just wanted to let people know that I am okay I will be taking time and I'll be doing mindfulness while alone. I just wanted to let folks know around here that I'm thinking of them and what they may be going through, so I will take my leave for tonight and get some rest and be freshed up for tomorrow. Look after each other guys. And I'll see you all when I get back. I love you ❤️ Tags: @iampapaya @SolitaryBird @Patienceimpatient @Bestvase7265 @TinyWhisper11 @VictoriaLove7 @Accidentaltentacles @adventurousBranch3786 @amiablepeace77 @Kala @Mymelaninnarritive @compassionateOak202 P.S, I also wanted to tag goldenpear but she has numbers in her name and I was looking for her. Thanks 🤜🤛
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It feels like I'd have to change myself or end up alone if I don't
by SoulofFate
Last post
 12 hours ago
...See more I feel like I'm turning into someone I don't want to be, I've been wrestling with these thoughts for a while now, it all started because I've never been in a relationship and always rejected whenever I asked someone out on a date. It started a rabbit-hole of crippling low self-esteem, constantly looking for what it is that makes me unattractive to women and finding ways of to improve myself, but the more I do the worse I feel and it gets to the point where I'm becoming somebody else to attract women. I've always been self-conscious about losing my hair early and being extremely short (5'7) and I'm not attractive in personality and behaviour either, I'm introverted, shy and overly emotional/sensitive, I'm a graphic artist who also plays guitar from time to time and makes sci-fi comics, I don't play sports or make a lot of money like other guys women seem to like, I'm not assertive or dominant, etc. I thought that my talents and personality maybe could be attractive to someone, but I've never met a woman who likes me for who I am, so that just leads me to be insecure and want to change myself to earn love and approval.
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depression?
by shrishti007
Last post
 12 hours ago
...See more hi everyone. i’m not entirely sure what “depression” is. but these past few weeks i’ve been crying almost every night, and i have zero motivation to do anything, even get out of bed. i’ve been struggling with suicidal thoughts too, but id never go through with it. i don’t know if this is classified as depression or just a phase. please help me.
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My battle with manic depression.
by Bipolar1977
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more I've been depressed several times in my life. When I was in high school and didn't have a girlfriend, I was depressed. After college, I was depressed several times. Once, when I was unemployed and involved in a civil lawsuit. Another time, when I went through a divorce and my Mother died. Another time, when I went through a break up with an ex-girlfriend and was all alone. This past time was the absolute worst and lasted a long time. I was forced to leave a long time apartment that I loved due to the building owners changing hands. I also had a very important relationship with a woman and her children come to an end. Lastly, I was losing a lot of money in the financial markets. I moved in with a family member and it did not go well. I made them miserable because I was very unhappy with my life. They almost evicted me. I moved into a hotel and was going through a lot of money. I was so manically depressed that I was practically bedridden. I stayed in bed over 20 hours per day. I showered once a day and left my room once a day for only about an hour. I only ate one meal a day. Due to all of this inactivity, I became constipated for the first time in my life. I went 29 days without taking a poop. I was always so active in the past, that the constipation made things even worse. I thought the best days of my life were all long gone. All I wanted to do was die. For almost two years I was suicidal. I even developed cystic acne for the first time in my life. My skin was worse in my 50's than it was as a teenager. I had no health insurance and did not want to go to therapy or take anti-depressants. Family members wanted to help me, but there was no helping me. I couldn't be helped. I told a good friend what was going on and he was worried. He called the authorities and they did a welfare check on me. Eventually, things slowly started to improve. I started getting out of bed and walking more. I started going back to the gym. I started becoming more social. I shifted some investments around and my finances began to improve. I finally had sex again with a woman for the first time in almost two years. I have been active for almost six months now and the constipation went away. Also, the cystic acne is almost all gone. I look better. I feel better. I am happy again. A lot of my best days may be behind me, but I am also very optimistic about the future. I have not been diagnosed, but I believe I am bi-polar. When I beat the depression, I sometimes wind up in a manic high. I'm trying to keep things at more of an even keel. If things go wrong again in the future, I will not lose all hope. As long as my health is good, I hope I never lay on my back for over twenty hours per day again. All the best to everyone here battling depression. Do not give up hope!
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Depressed Boyfriend Ignoring for Me Weeks
by coldWater6416
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months now. I know that is not a very long time, but I really like him and see a future with him. He's five years older than me (30 vs 25), very career oriented, into his hobbies, and has expressed that he is not completely happy with where he's at in life (not married yet with no kids was never his ideal plan.). I never wanted to push back on those topics in fear of sounding like the crazy girlfriend that is already considering marriage and kids. He was a complete gentleman from the very beginning and our relationship was fun, comfortable, and stable until about 2-3 months ago. He started becoming more distant, not texting or calling me every day like we used to. I know every day is a lot and he works a very demanding job with long hours and can understand not talking every day. But then days turned into 5 - 10 days without talking to me and only responding when I reach out first, making me feel like I was begging for attention. Our most recent duration of not talking was about 2 weeks. I finally called because I didn't understand what was going on, spending some nights crying or upset wondering what I did or if he had moved onto someone else. I needed answers. He finally answered and we talked for an hour. He finally revealed to me that he's depressed, on medicine for it, and is having a midlife crisis trying to figure out what he wants to do with his life. (I myself have extreme anxiety that I have been seeking help to deal with). In retrospect, I feel terrible knowing he is in such a dark place and wish I expressed that at the time. But instead, I kept asking if he thought about how I've been feeling because of this cold-shoulder treatment. Long story short - it was a long talk, each of us expressing how shitty we felt and how this affected us, but not really listening to the other person. We agreed to try to reconnect to follow up with this conversation in person to discuss it. But after exchanging a few texts and him saying he'd let me know when we could hang, I haven't heard anything. In these few texts he made it clear that this lack of communication was not because of anything I did, but him simply trying to figure out how he feels about himself and his future career wise and personally.I followed up a few days later with a long text expressing how I am here for him during this tough time, how much I care about him and hope I can help. Still no response. Of course I have family and friends saying to move on and that I don't deserve this treatment. Only one of my friends, who is in a committed relationship with someone who has depression has told me to be patient and wait this out. To focus on me right now, but don't assume it's over and give him space. I don't want to this be over, but I don't know what to do at this point. Will he ever reach out when this episode is over?Is this normal for a depressed boyfriend to not talk to his girlfriend for weeks? Are long periods of time not out of the blue for someone in his shoes to not reach out or answer calls/texts? It has been almost a week now since I sent the follow up message expressing my support. Should I consider this done and move on? I've never been in this position before. I'm not claiming to be a perfect girlfriend and know I should make a better effort at communicating what I want/need/feel, but unsure how to deal with someone in this situation. I don't want to overstep boundaries by reaching out numerous times with no response, but don't want this to end because I decided to stop reaching out as well. Any advice would be great!

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Community Resources

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- 9 Types of Depression and How To Recognize Them 

- You don't have to understand, you just have to be present by @MarianaFilipaSouza6

A beautiful testament to the nature of depression

- Rethink Mental Illness: Depression

Basic information and facts

- Resource Masterpost by @Sealiously

A plethora of amazing links

- Depression Self Help Guide

Discover some ways to help manage what you're going through

- Safety Plan

Here's a safety plan for those who are passively suicidal. Your life is important

- Resources to Help Manage Depression

A collection of helpful links for more information and support

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A path that helps guide you through dealing with depression on a day to day basis


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