Regulate my emotions

@lausau123 I'm sorry to hear you're having trouble handling your anger. What do you mean exactly when you're saying that? Is it that you feel the emotion too strongly, or a combination of that and acting out physically on it? Or something else.

Regardless, I'm not judging, just wondering. If I may I'll give you an anecdote.

I talked to a friend the other day who has problems with bursts of anger, feeling out of control as they strike. We ended up calling them "anger attacks" (like panic attacks) since we realized there are so many similarities between panic and anger attacks.

And for him they usually stem from periods of having mishandled other emotions in life. Often stronger ones. And by mishandling he meant not sharing them, leading to an explosion of all that's been suppressed.

So for him it led to anger attacks where he felt no control at all. But when he actually takes care of his emotions (he's been to therapy but quit too early was our conclusion) he never gets these attacks.

@lausau123 I am sorry you are facing such sort of an experience.

If you're having difficulty regulating your emotions, particularly anger, there are several coping strategies that may help you manage and channel your emotions in a healthier way. Here are a few techniques to consider:

Take a breath and pause: When you feel anger rising, take a moment to pause and focus on your breath. Deep breathing exercises can help calm your nervous system and provide a moment of clarity before responding.

Practice mindfulness: Bring your attention to the present moment and observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment. Mindfulness exercises, such as meditation or body scans, can help you develop a greater awareness of your anger and its triggers.

Identify triggers and patterns: Pay attention to the situations, people, or thoughts that tend to trigger your anger. By identifying these triggers, you can develop strategies to either avoid them or modify your responses.

Use "I" statements: When expressing your anger, use "I" statements to communicate your feelings and needs assertively without blaming others. For example, instead of saying, "You always make me angry," say, "I feel upset when this happens because..."

Find healthy outlets for anger: Engaging in physical activity, such as going for a walk, practicing a sport, or doing a workout, can help release pent-up energy and reduce anger. Engaging in creative activities like painting, writing, or playing an instrument can also provide a constructive outlet for your emotions.

Seek support: Talk to someone you trust about your struggles with anger. Sharing your feelings and experiences with a friend, family member, or therapist can provide valuable perspective and support.

Practice problem-solving: Instead of reacting impulsively, try to problem-solve and find solutions to the underlying issues that trigger your anger. This might involve communication, negotiation, or seeking professional help when needed.

Remember, managing anger takes time and practice. It's important to be patient with yourself and seek professional help if anger continues to significantly impact your well-being or relationships. A mental health professional can provide tailored strategies and support to help you regulate your emotions effectively.If you are feeling like you need expert

guidance, then I’d recommend talking with a therapist here

(http://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/).

@lausau123 Hello and thank you for sharing about these difficuties that you are having with anger. Anger is a very intence emotion that many have difficulty with. many have the belief that we "should" never express our anger, especially when one tends to maybe hurt others with it. Anyway there are some tools out there that can help. One is to have awareness of the fact that you are angry and that it is "ok" to be. Another is called a time-out. This is when one retreats from the situation or person that they are angry with/about. It is best to let the person know at a time when its calm that you are going to try this the next time you are feeling angry. A last tip is to take a deep breath before you respond when you feel angry. Let us know how this works.

@lausau123,

That sounds really hard, but I'm glad you are able to label your emotions and accept how you are feeling. Sometimes mindfulness exercises can help, so you can feel more calm and present. 7Cups has lots of resources you can use if you wish! 

It's a common misconception regarding emotions that happiness, joy, and peaceful are positive emotions and oftentimes, anger, guilt, regret are considered negative. But it is necessary to feel all kinds of emotions completely. Emotions are like children. Once you give them some care and attention, it will go away silently. It's also important to remember how to manage emotions, meaning not taking any action in the peak of emotions. Identifying your triggers and understanding patterns will prove to be helpful.

Hope this helps 

@lausau123 Anger is a very tough emotion, because it's our bodies way of wanting to communicate the hurt and pain we have been holding deep withing. I'm sorry you have been feel this way. Some ways I found effective is watching a comfort show, listening to music or even spending time with loved ones can help release the tension and create a more effective way for our thoughts to process. I hope this helps <3 

@lausau123 Hi there.

I have struggled with this myself and I have gone to the gym a lot to work off a lot of physical symptoms where you just need to exhaust yourself.

Emotionally it also helps to talk about it especially if its the person that I have had a disagreement with so that it can be worked out.

I hope this helps. Have a great weekend!

@lausau123 Regulating your emotions can be really difficult, I find that writing down all of my thoughts and feelings can really help me identify the causes of all the different emotions making them so much easier to deal with.

Mediation videos with cozy ambience

@lausau123

Managing anger can be challenging, but there are several coping strategies you can try to help regulate your emotions. It's important to find techniques that work best for you, as different approaches may be more effective for different individuals