Conquering Anxiety: Introduction to Anxiety and its impact on life
Hi everyone! I hope you are doing well. It is time for our very first post in the Conquering Anxiety series. This is an introductory post. For most people who deal with anxiety, you likely do not need an introduction therefore we are only briefly talking about this topic.
What is anxiety?
NHS UK defines anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe. It is normal to feel anxious from time to time such as before an exam. However it is an issue when your anxiety starts to hinder you from living your life. When you do not show up to your exams because you are anxious, when you no longer want to meet people because of how anxious you feel etc.
Why does anxiety exist?
Because it is helpful in reasonable situations, it protects us from immediate dangers. Usually it encourages flight or fight state where you either wish to fight the situation or flee to save yourself from the immediate danger. Duke University professor Mark Leary put it, “A deer may be startled by a loud noise and take off through the forest, but as soon as the threat is gone, the deer immediately calms down and starts grazing. And it doesn’t appear to be tied in knots the way that many people are.”
The challenge for most of us is that the stressors are usually not immediate and even if they are the solutions are not as simple as the deer’s example. When we start to feel anxious about things that are out of our control or are way in the future, so often that it disturbs our life, then we need to put a stop to it.
When your anxiety stops you from living your life or disturbs your routine where you go out of your way to avoid certain things and do other things to avoid worsening anxiety then it is worth checking with a professional about the possibility of an anxiety disorder.
What areas of life can be impacted by anxiety?
We are specifically talking about the kind of anxiety experienced by someone who has an anxiety disorder. You will have heard of many different ways anxiety impacts but lets look at some broad common experiences.
- Physical sensations like stomach aches, fast beating heart, excessive sweating, and feeling hot or cold.
- Experiencing worry, excessive stress, and ruminating over things (rumination is obsessive thinking about an idea, situation, or choice especially when it interferes with normal mental functioning)
- In social life, people can withdraw from social situations to avoid heightened anxiety.
- Relationships, if you are often on edge and experiencing anxiety, the disturbance it causes can impact your relationships.
- Work and study, you may do poorly on work and/or study.
Almost everything can be impacted but it can vary from person to person, therefore we have a wide list of anxiety disorders.
What are some common Anxiety disorders?
People often talk about anxiety in general but this is an umbrella term and there are quite a few categories of anxiety.
- Generalized Anxiety Disorder (Perhaps the most common one and the one people think about when we say anxiety).
- Panic Disorder (panic attacks being the main reoccurring symptom)
- Social Anxiety (Trouble socializing)
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (Often misrepresented in media, compulsions are one of the main symptoms of the disorder)
- Phobia-related (The list is extensive but the underlying factor is the inability to continue with daily life because you are terrified of X or Y)
It is important to understand that labels are only as helpful as the help they lead to. To some, it can feel validating to receive a label and for others it may be devastating. It is best to leave the assignment of such labels upto a qualified professional. If you feel like you have an anxiety disorder, please reach out to a trained professional.
This series will tackle anxiety in general, the principles can help people across any anxiety disorder as anxiety is the main factor in all of these disorders, just the specific focus of it tends to differ.
Questions for you. Please note you note you need to answer these questions to be eligible for the certificate at the end of the series.
- When did first notice anxiety disrupting your day to day life?
- If you could do one thing without feeling anxious, what would you pick?
The above questions require talking about personal experiences which is not possible on a listener account, listeners, you can instead tell us about your key takeaways from this post.
Further Reading
The Evolution of Anxiety: Why We Worry and What to Do About It
This post is part of the Conquering Anxiety series, you can find all posts of the series here.
When did you first notice anxiety disrupting your life?
I have always been debilitatingly shy, but I was around 10 years old when I realized howuch it limited my life. I was afraid to speak to people, unable to make friends, awkward in social situations, but terrified of being alone with my increasingly depressed thoughts. It led me to seek people to talk to, but also ended up with several very unhealthy codependent relationships due to inexperience with setting boundaries and a fear of being abandoned.
If you could do one thing without feeling anxious, what would you pick?
I would pick relationships. I know that I keep my distance from friends and don't ask for help when I should because I'm afraid of falling back into codependent patterns. I have few friends because I am afraid of driving them away with my anxiety. I want to be comfortable being open with someone and allowing them to be open with me as well.
@Hope
I have chronic illness and the physical sensations of anxiety really impact me, especially when panic attacks trigger IBS symptoms. I also withdraw a lot and tend to isolate myself because I don't want my fear or symptoms to interfere with my ability to do the activity. This is why I struggle with agoraphobia. It started off as only relevant for Panic Disorder but gradually as my health became more relevant day to day, I have an even harder time leaving the house or going into a feared situation even though I may be calm. I've heard this referred to as "flare fear" in spoonie circles.
I started answering really longform so I'll leave the questions for my Google Doc :)
@Hope
I guess I noticed that it can prevent me from doing things I need to do and holding back in life
I guess I would attend social events more freely
@Hope
- When did first notice anxiety disrupting your day to day life? I noticed my anxiety disrupting my day to day life as I gained knowledge about this disorder. When I was younger, I didn't really know or notice that my anxiety symptoms were affecting me, in fact negatively. But now, as I gained knowledge, it made me aware about myself.
- If you could do one thing without feeling anxious, what would you pick? I can do nothing without feeling anxious. Anxiety is good if it can be managed. But it becomes worse when the anxiety levels are high.
@Hope
Sharing some key takeaways since I'm on listener account:
- Anxiety is a normal response but becomes problematic when it disrupts daily life.
- Anxiety evolved as a survival mechanism but is often triggered by non-immediate stressors today.
- Anxiety can affect our body, mind, relationships and performance at work or school.
- Common anxiety disorders include GAD, Panic, Social Anxiety, OCD and Phobias.
- Seeking professional help is crucial if anxiety is interfering with our life.
@Hope
- When did first notice anxiety disrupting your day to day life?
I would describe myself as being a pretty anxious person since before I even knew the term anxiety, what it was, understood the symptoms and signs or anything else related to it. Ever since I was a young child like at 3-4yrs I was always described as a difficult child that got labeled as being special needs. But really at the time no one realized that it was anxiety.
- If you could do one thing without feeling anxious, what would you pick?
For a long time in my life, I always said I could not imagine a day let alone even a minute without feeling anxiety in one way or another. As a result, it made it completely or nearly impossible to do so of the most basic things. And things that most people could do without even having to think about it.