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Hello, I am "The Awkward Wallflower". And I struggle with depression & Social Anxiety. Due to my childhood I have had a lot of anxiety about certain things. It's hard to discuss but I feel like I have this weight on me and I carry it around everywhere I go. When you see me , you see me as this Carefree, No Worries, Life-Loving girl. But when I'm alone all I feel is deep sadness, hurt , and confusion. People say "get a boyfriend, why don't you have a boyfriend". No one wants a Sociopath. I wonder why people say "don't worry things will get better, but I have been not worrying for years now and nothing has gotten better. I mean at first it seems like things are getting better but they alwaysngo back to the same way leaving my broken. I really like this app because It seems like it is very helpful and is free of judgment. Anyways I'm "The Awkward Wallflower" and this is part of my story.
(p.s. I'm not trying to sound cliché. Lol)
Sorry for the words I may have misspelled.
@theawkwardwallflower97 Hey. That was nicely written. Thank you for sharing your story. I understand why you feel like you're carrying a weight. I personally believe it's mainly because the roots of your anxiety haven't been addressed.
And, things do get better over time. Be patient with yourself. Take care!
I started therapy about two and a half year ago when I was just 13 years old. Before I started with therapy I already fought more than one year with depression, self harm and suicidal thoughts. It has been very hard for me. After one year in therapy I took heart and to my therapist about my suicide tries. After the talk I was disappointed cause the therapist send me to the psychiatry where I had to stay for almost 3 months. I hated it there. Now I'm in therapy again but with a new therapist that I can't talk with about the real things that make me self harm and suicidal. That's why I'm here now.
I started therapy about two and a half year ago when I was just 13 years old. Before I started with therapy I already fought more than one year with depression, self harm and suicidal thoughts. It has been very hard for me. After one year in therapy I took heart and to my therapist about my suicide tries. After the talk I was disappointed cause the therapist send me to the psychiatry where I had to stay for almost 3 months. I hated it there. Now I'm in therapy again but with a new therapist that I can't talk with about the real things that make me self harm and suicidal. That's why I'm here now.
@StonedHobbit Hey. I'm sorry you've had to go through so much. I understand how you feel about being clear to your therapist. I do hope this site helps you. I'm sure you'll be fine over time. Hang in there, and take care. :-)
@StonedHobbit hey welcome to 7 cups, glad you chose to join us here and i really hope this site helps you like it has many others including myself , im really sorry to hear you went through all that we are here for you :)
I have been struggling with anxiety all my life. There were few moments in my life where I felt at ease and happy, which was accompanied by an almost constant worry, paranoia, and hectic lifestyle. All this led me to become physically very ill, from which I am trying ot recover. It's been 2 months of this debilitating illness. I never knew that a mental problem like anxiety could physically hurt me.
All I can say @JumpingJade is never give in to it, it doesn't own you, you own it.
I've been in the battle for 30 some years, yes it's hard, but it's worth fighting, I promise!
@JumpingJade that must have been very tough im sorry to hear that , we are glad you are here on 7cups and we are here for you :)
hi, I am not sure how to do this nor how to approach therapy or counseling in person due to my social anxiety so I have kept avoiding it. I know I am feeling lost and my specialist in college as well as my primary Doctor have told me to not quit therapy and to speak to someone but I still struggle with doing so even after I have started attending a mental health clinic which has prescribed me medication for both my anxiety and depression. I have dealt with anxiety and depression since childhood starting at age 5 and only actually started treatment recently about less than a year ago; I am now 28. So I guess since I haven't seen anyone for a good (long) while now for help I decided to try again on here.
@MidnightKittyStar Hi! I hear you. It's really hard to put yourself out there to a therapist/counselor, plus the time and money it takes to find a person you click with.
Hope you find what you need here!
@MidnightKittyStar that mustnt have been very easy with the way you have social anxiety and sorry to hear that but im really glad you chose 7 cups , its a great site and we are here for you
thank you for sharing that as even speaking out and reaching out isnt easy either :)
Hey! I was diagnosed with anxiety and a couple other things about 6 years ago while I was in college. Being in the real world hasn't helped much. I've mostly been avoiding things. My seasonal depression makes things harder. I have a tendency to run away from things and kind of shut down because I'm on edge all the time. I'm trying really hard to be more consistent and put together. Here's hoping things get better this year.
@Tallulahblue that cant be easy to live with im sorry to hear that and i really hope things improve for you
thanks for sharing and we are here for you :)
Been there and done that so I can relate. If you need anxiety support you can view my profile and message me...
I feel that the world is set up to favor only certain personalities, and obviously not mine- introverted, shy, perfectionist, socially anxious. I have a college degree but have only had low-level, menial jobs, mostly part-time for the past 30 years. I have low confidence and self-esteem. Of course, interviews are terrible. But I also need a specific marketable skill that is compatible with my personality. I feel hopeless, and don't know what course of study or action to pursue. I haven't been good in the past at making career decisions, and don't totally trust my own judgment.
@TobyLinden im sorry to hear that , defiently not easy when you are socially anxious especially when it comes to looking for work
have you tried self employment that deals with people a lil less than working for someone else
thanks for sharing and we are defiently hee for you at 7 cups
@TobyLinden im sorry to hear that , defiently not easy when you are socially anxious especially when it comes to looking for work
have you tried self employment that deals with people a lil less than working for someone else
thanks for sharing and we are defiently hee for you at 7 cups
@TobyLinden im sorry to hear that , defiently not easy when you are socially anxious especially when it comes to looking for work
have you tried self employment that deals with people a lil less than working for someone else
thanks for sharing and we are defiently hee for you at 7 cups
@TobyLinden It does seriously feel like the world is built for a certain type of person, and those who fall out of that ideal are more likely to struggle and be judged.
Best of luck to you!
i go by cranberry or cran. i'm 30, married, a mom, and i deal with anxiety [among other things] every day. most days i can get to a place where i can deal with it on some level, but when there's something going on... i'm a mess.
currently, my life got turned upside down and we may lose our house. we have an insanely small amount of time to get help or find the money to save it. my anxiety level has been through the roof since two days ago when we found out to the point that i'm sick. right now, i'm not okay and my anxiety is getting the better of me. right now i'm just counting down the minutes [by obsessively looking at the clock] until my husband gets home and we can go try to get help. thankfully, i've had a couple really amazing chats with listeners who have helped me calm down, and even smile a little during this really trying time.
anxiety eats me alive some days, especially right now when i can't talk to my family and friends about what's happening in my life, but it's been a big relief finding a way to even just talk to people on 7cups. everyone is truly amazing on here
@PhilosophicalCranberry Hey there! I'm sorry to hear about the struggles you're facing with your house. It's hard to go through something like that. But I'm glad that you've found some great listeners here at 7 cups! If you ever need another listening ear, don't hesitate to message me :)
@TranquilSkye30
thank you so much for the support! it's an amazing feeling to know that there's people who care enough to share their time with others like people on here do ;; u ;;
@PhilosophicalCranberry you are amazing too , you can do anything when you put your mind too it i know that isnt easy with the anxiety but i have faith in you and with the help of this amazing site you can do this :D
thanks for sharing and we are always here for you no matter how small or big the issue you need to vent about
Hello, everyone. I've lurked about on the forums, and desperately wanted to post, but I just couldn't do it. I'm forcing myself to now, because I'm at the end of my rope. I feel like I can't do anything right anymore. I'm extremely nervous about a college audition that I have coming up soon, and I feel like I'm going to bomb it. Not to mention the idea of going away to college terrifies me. I have trouble functioning by myself in a town I've grown up in, and I know I rely too heavily on my immediate family. I'm ashamed to admit that I don't even have my license because I just haven't been able to stomach the thought of going and driving with a judgy official in the car. I have trouble driving as is (I do have my permit), and I freeze up when there's a lot of traffic, or if I have to drive far. I hate that I can't get past it. Everyone makes fun of me for being afraid, and if i say I have driving anxiety, they laugh, and say I'm just being a baby. But it's like I'm physically unable to handle driving. I get so shaky, and my movements become jerky, and I zone out. I can't help but think of all the wrecks and things that could go wrong if I do something wrong. I apologize for rambling about my stupid driving problem. But it really bothers me, and is preventing me from functioning in society, and usually I'm in tears by the time we reach our destination. I have panic attacks at school at least twice a week, but I've learned to hide them better. During break I usually hide in the band room and try to breathe. Socializing terrifies me, and I have trouble speaking in class. My throat tightens and I feel dizzy and start shaking. I feel like I'm falling apart. I'm sorry I wrote so much, I just needed to get it off my chest.
@nonchalantpepperoni3097 thats ok to vent and its ok with how you are feeling im sorry you feel that way though it isnt easy we are here for you if you ever feel you need to speak to a listener message me or any of your choosing under browse listeners
you were very brave in posting you must feel proud i know how it is trying to talk about problems scared of being judged we dont judge here
@nonchalantpepperoni3097 I'm so sorry! Dealing with anxiety is extremely hard, so please don't blame yourself for your limits and what you can't do. Anyone who says you're being a baby for not doing things that trigger your anxiety obviously don't know what you're experiencing. Society's timelines can be really unfair for a lot of people.
As a side note, I'm also in college, almost 19 years old, and I haven't gotten around to driving, either. I don't even have my perment, so please don't feel bad! I took the perment test a few years ago after studying for the wrong questions and ended up failing the test by one question. I've been too horrified of failing it again to attempt it again. My medical issues, part-time school, and emotional problems have also stressed me out so much that even thinking about trying the test again is overwhelming. Almost no one--not even my family--seems to understand this, and yes, people are extremely judgemental.
So sorry that you have to go through this, and I wish you the best of luck!