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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 - Universal Human Rights Month
by audienta
Last post
 December 13th
...See more Hello everyone, welcome to this month's check-in! This month is Universal Human Rights Month 2024. (Source [https://www.cheservices.com/blog/universal-human-rights-month]) In December 1948 the UN declared the basic rights and universal freedoms, known as the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Today, we want to celebrate stories of people who fought for their and our rights and be grateful for their wins while not forgetting that the fight for freedom and equality isn't over.  So, if you want to, revisit the Universal Declaration of Human Rights [https://www.un.org/en/about-us/universal-declaration-of-human-rights] and share a story with us in which you've stood up for your own rights. I'm sure that a lot of people in this community have had their own fights for their freedom and equal chances in life so let's celebrate our wins together. ------------------------- Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 1) Which place gives you a feeling of safety and calm? 2) How do you think trauma has influenced the way you are aware of people's rights and freedoms? 3) What do you think helps to make a space safe and welcoming for everyone? ------------------------- If you have a question you'd like me to ask at the next check-in, please let me know! Take care, audienta ------------------------- Source: https://nationaltoday.com/universal-human-rights-month/#:~:text=That's%20why%20the%20world%20is,human%20rights%20of%20every%20person. ------------------------- You can get added to or removed from the trauma support taglist here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/ampResources_2334/TraumaSupportAutomatedTaglist_219256/]. @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0 @SummerOfCA
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Trauma Support Automated Taglist
by CaringBrit
Last post
 December 6th
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to Trauma Support Community [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?23eb3b680028ac32c998125af8d8f262]. <<<< checkin posters refer to this click then copy for taglist its instant updated To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words, Please remove me. highlighting keywords as these are needed no forms to fill in just type to this thread . dont need to copy the colouring though just the keywords highlight is so they stand out is all. New taglist as of August 9th 2024 by audienta @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
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by goldenFriend9441
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 December 14th
...See more @snapped ninja ping me/ comment here if u want to talk about it
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Rejection and Inferiority in Social Hierarchy
by affableBunny4004
Last post
 December 7th
...See more Today something happened that reminded me of how there are people who hate my either for no reason or because im ugly even though i didn't do anything to them. Today i gave a livestream gift to a small live streamer with few viewers on *** i already gave a livestream gift to him in the past and he noticed me i had a different profile picture back then but earlier i changed my profile picture without the sun glass filter and i gave a live stream gift to him 3 times and he thanks the other people but not me and chose to intentionally ignore me. To be honest this is to me a rejection and hating for either no reason again as what happened with my bullies and haters in the past or hating me because im ugly and i am inferior in the human social hierarchy. This reminded me again of who i am as a person that im physically unnattractive and like what happened to my bullies and haters both online and in real life in the past hated me coz im ugly and they deem me lower and inferior than them not worth talking to or not worth noticing and the same kind of people who would laugh at me and mock and call me gay or ugly based on my outside appearance.
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I can't handle it anymore
by kindSugar3443
Last post
 November 19th
...See more My life feels like it’s been a constant struggle for peace, stability, and even basic safety. It all started with small things—my family wouldn’t let me focus on school, constantly involving me in their conflicts. Eventually, the stress took such a toll that I lost 10 kilos, but no one seemed to care. My father was barely around to support us and often reacted violently. Even when I managed to get a 15 on my exams, he tried to smash my computer as if my efforts weren’t worth anything. I had to study independently, without even going to regular classes, just to keep going. I had almost no allies. My own aunts, my neighbors, and even some of my teachers sided with those against me, gossiping about my life. They knew every detail because my father would tell everyone, even when I asked him to keep things private. When I confronted him, he responded with violence. At one point, he nearly strangled my mother, and he never hesitated to humiliate us publicly. I’ll never forget the day he called me and my mom slurs out in the open, and how the boys who bullied me overheard it, making everything worse. They took that moment as an opportunity to start an 18+ *** group targeting me. It felt like harassment was inescapable. These experiences left me hyper-alert, always afraid of people’s judgments. My mom raised me on constant warnings to avoid anything that might make people talk, which only made me feel like an easy target for anyone who wanted to criticize or hurt me. One day, in desperation, I reached out to one of my dad’s acquaintances who offered help with work and housing. I thought he’d be an ally, but instead, he betrayed my trust, spreading my words around to damage my reputation further. My family eventually moved to a new town, which slightly improved my mental health, but not by much. My dad hasn’t changed at all, and his attitude just leaves me feeling bitter. He tells me to “accept my hardships because it’s God’s will,” as if I should be okay with all the suffering. I never even got to study the field I wanted, while everyone who hurt me seems to move on with their lives, celebrating their own achievements. But perhaps the worst part of it all is how deeply my family’s influence reaches, even into the judiciary. Some of my aunts are wealthy and have direct connections within the legal system. One of my abusers, a man who assaulted me, is a judge himself. This means that every time I’ve tried to seek justice, they’ve blocked my attempts. With their influence, they’re able to hold off any legal help I might have gotten, leaving me feeling completely powerless to defend myself or even speak up. I feel trapped in a cycle that I can’t escape from, like my own family is a cage I can’t break out of. They know where I live, what I’m studying, and they’ve even made it clear that they’ll continue to make my life hard if they can. They say things like, “You’ll suffer just like we have,” as if my pain is just collateral damage in their lives. My father now treats my siblings differently, forgiving their mistakes even when they’re serious. My mom tells me I’m being “proud” or “stubborn” for wanting a better life, and my family accuses me of being “bitter” or “angry.” But who wouldn’t feel this way after being treated like this for so long? Most days, I’m running on empty, worn down from years of fighting alone. I want so badly to make up for the years I’ve lost and to finally live a life without fear. But it’s hard to see a way out when those in power are determined to keep me from escaping. All I wanted was a chance to live, study, and build my future.
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UNICEF International Anti-violence Week
by Eitas
Last post
 November 13th
...See more Hello everyone, This week, UNICEF is holding  an anti-bullying week annually to  raise awareness; provide self-help intervention; and fight against public stigma about bullying. As part of the trauma community, we held responsible for fulfilling this mission. According to UNICEF, school violence has posed dangerous detrimental effects on both  psychological and physical adolescent’s health: Physical injury, Anxiety, Depression, Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and suicidal thoughts. *   Victims of bullying in their childhood are more susceptible to bullying at work when they grow up. *   Globally, 150 millions of students -aged 13 to 15- report experiencing peer-to-peer violence in and out of school. *  Around 720 million school-aged children live in countries where they are not fully protected by law from corporal punishment at school. More information about UNICEF anti-bullying week [https://www.bing.com/ck/a?!&&p=f9ba0819c7583343b17f303ee016beafd5f3d6a913ea6d3d113ea009190a8cc2JmltdHM9MTczMTM2OTYwMA&ptn=3&ver=2&hsh=4&fclid=00b3ce66-48c7-689a-2986-de5449a1699a&psq=UNICEF+ANTI-BULLYING+WEEK&u=a1aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cudW5pY2VmLm9yZy51ay9yaWdodHMtcmVzcGVjdGluZy1zY2hvb2xzL3Jlc291cmNlcy90ZWFjaGluZy1yZXNvdXJjZXMvZ3VpZGFuY2UtYXNzZW1ibGllcy1sZXNzb25zL2FydGljbGUtb2YtdGhlLXdlZWsvYXJ0aWNsZS1vZi10aGUtd2Vla19hbnRpLWJ1bGx5aW5nLXdlZWsv&ntb=1]  If you see other people currently facing bullying, or currently experiencing bullying, please reach out for reliable help such as calling national hotlines, reporting to authorities.  If you have trauma about bullying, this is the perfect place for you, as we hold a discussion on Monday weekly, which offers anonymity, empathy, and understanding. Discussion What can parents,teachers, and peers do to prevent bullying? What laws must be passed to protect victims of bullying? How can we deal with trauma about bullying? This post was written by a member of the Trauma Sub-Community Writing Team. You can find a masterpost with all the posts of this team linked here. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/General_2433/MasterpostPostsoftheTraumaSupportWritingTeam_302010/] If you want to join the team, please apply here [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScvQvG68iPbXl6ZNfZzxs4nYMAcP5RXCp8Ngt7gNPmJ0qnahw/viewform]. Also, please comment if you want to be tagged in future posts.
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psychological torture
by IdeasOfReference
Last post
 August 24th
...See more I've had some involvement with police recently, but never been charged with anything since then I've been persistently and relentlessly harassed, bullied, antagonised, provoked, abused, etc by my family, friends, neighbours, and even health practitioners (!) and I've had to totally isolate myself from people to try to stay safe so instead I try to go online to find connection, and wouldn't you know it, I've been getting the same thing, everywhere I go, especially in places intended for "support" it appears that the goal is to completely isolate me from any genuine support as some kind of cruel, disgusting torture it's been going on for well over 2 years and there is no sign of it abating it's even happening right here this post will likely go unanswered, because withholding is one of the main methods in use imagine being a voluntary participant in such a sick, evil, illegal torture operation
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Bullying and anxiety about being vulnerable/authentic
by casiopea3199
Last post
 June 5th
...See more I went through a pretty traumatic bullying experience around ten. I had a best friend who I loved and trusted more than anything who started telling me I was disgusting, a monster, evil, that I deserved to d ie, and telling this to my other friends too, then turning around and acting like it never happened or she was sorry, then it starting all over again. It continued for a year and a half until she left, and moved without an apology. My parents had me in counseling that young because I was so afraid of making new friends and meeting other people I just didn't speak. When I did get enough confidence to do that, I would get very excited about my friends, want to talk to them all the time, fixate on certain interests of mine and talk about them a lot. I think it annoyed people or wore on them somehow. So the friends I did make would often snap at me. They would tell me to shut up, that I was obnoxious, annoying, overbearing, Some even continued to tell me to o ff myself, and it was very hurtful. Every time it was when I thought I could trust people with my personal experiences and share with them, but I really couldn't in reality without being criticized or made fun of. I still remember that the guy at our school, who got the superlative for like "nicest person" or whatever told me "this is why no one likes you, you literally never shut up about you stupid class" when I was talking about how much i liked my one course i was in. The nicest person did that, apparently. It was painful. So eventually I think I got to a point where I stopped opening up to people about things I actually enjoyed or wanted to say, because I just assumed they didn't want to hear it. I'm now an adult and a very reserved person with my emotions, and I don't open up much. I'm afraid to tell people what's really on my mind because I don't want to get hurt or judged or attacked again, and because I don't want to come across as someone unlikeable. It scares me to open up to people even if they seem very very safe, especially if they are more outgoing and social people, because they remind me of the people who were so friendly to everyone, but then really cruel to me I guess. I'm afraid because I just have this gut feeling that they can't really be that nice, they must be lying or tricking me and will get angry with the way I am eventually. Are there any tips people have for feeling less afraid of opening up to people, and being authentic and vulnerable, after being hurt specifically for being so outgoing and authentic for so long? I want to change and feel more free to express myself without being so afraid, I'm going into a new romantic relationship and want to be more true to myself this time around and not so scared to be judged all the time, and I also think it will make it easier for me to make friends and build connections.
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Some pretty extreme bullying
by Torean
Last post
 May 14th
...See more I had a "friend" when I was a kid, age 5-7 or so, but I don't even know what to make of it all today. He lived two houses down, and we had the same classes, so we used to hang out. Sometimes it would be fun, but mostly, it really wasn't. He reminded me of Shredder from the original Ninja Turtles cartoon, because he had an evil scheme everyday and never ran out of ideas. Usually it would involve him spending a long time to convince me to do something with him that could get us in trouble. Other times, it was worse. One time he stabbed himself with a toy and convinced me he was dead and I ended up calling emergency. One time, he had a capgun and started shooting at me... I didn't even know those existed, and while I was crying and begging for my life, he held it to my head and said "you breathe, you die.". Also, he was in karate and loved to lock me in a room and try to make me defend myself while he proceeded to beat me up. This must've happened about 20 times, and I'd be crying and refusing to defend myself. One time I finally snapped and caught him off guard... I almost put him in the hospital. It was even worse sometimes... He'd want me to destroy anything in my room that looked remotely sentimental. Also, I was a weird nerdy kid that knew the capital of every state and country and what the flags looked like. Grownups would quiz me, until he somehow talked me into purposely answering wrong. Somehow, that was the worst thing. I also remember that when I'd stay the night, he'd be sleeping in a king sized bed that looked like it was made for royalty, while I was given a floor pallet with the most uncomfortable Daffy Duck pillow imaginable. We dropped off contact eventually, but we met up around age 21 to go drinking. He ditched me far from home without a ride after an hour. Anyway, I can't pretend to know how it all effects me to this day. I know that bullying tends to make me project my voice and tell people off to the point that they get scared. If I don't do that, I have a tendency to beat the physically crap out of myself. I've lessened both of those reactions considerably this year, but it never really goes away. I also notice that i can pretty easily sense people's character, and I keep pretty much everyone in the corner of my eye regardless. If something unexpected comes up with someone that isn't good, I tend to spiral and overgeneralize their reaction to feel like everyone probably feels that way about me. Anyways, I don't know what my point is. I don't have specific questions, but I felt like I should share. I might get something from it and so might someone else.
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School Abuse
by GreenEasil00
Last post
 May 4th
...See more Treated like crap Isolation pain
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Trauma about bullying ( Part II)
by Eitas
Last post
 April 27th
...See more Hi! To those who don't know the context, please check my profile about how i struggled to contact ex-bully... Even though i know it is draining, scary and horrendous even when he is different now. Long story short, he used to apologized to me but because he bullied me for so long ( and many other reason too but i cant figure.. i still struggle to understand myself 7 years ago) Recently, he replied back to me that he is about to take AS-Level exams so he couldn't reply to me and he doesn't understand why i have to message stubbornly to him... As my previous post stated, i want him to help me to resolve this trauma once and for all but i don't know how to express that safely. Especially vulnerability isn't safe and uncomfortable at this time too, for many people who have depression and trauma, do you guy have any idea how should i reply? Many thanks!
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If you could say one thing to your bully.....
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 February 9th
...See more If you could say one thing to your bully, what would it be?
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Tired of PTSD
by DepressesSoul1976
Last post
 October 21st, 2023
...See more I m really hurt I was never treated good by humans n today I was triggeredI saw a dream today n saw that I was treated by people well n had a very good friend which never happened in real I once up n suddenly every flashbacks of traumas started to come before my eyes
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trauma advice?
by affableApricot6594
Last post
 October 6th, 2023
...See more tw: assault earlier last year i was physically assaulted by someone who was previously my friend. he really hurt me, and i've been scarred for months. the thing is, the only person who believed me was my mom. all other adults i opened up to said that boys would be boys and that i would have to switch schools to cope with wanting to avoid him. he was still included in my friend group even after this, and our mutual friends didn't really care (one did, but only cause he had a thing for me and stopped defending me after i rejected him). i've lacked a lot of validation in my experience and feelings. does anyone have any coping skills, advice, or words of encouragement?

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

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Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

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You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
Read the 7 Cups Guidelines
Community Leaders
Community Mentor Leader
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