Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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@FrenchToastClub
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
If I was not given a role I wanted, I would respond with the following:
Hi 'Leader's Username',
Thank you so much for getting back to me. While I am a little disappointed, I'm grateful for your time and consideration in reading my application. If you have a few minutes, I would really appreciate some feedback to help me improve with future applications. I wish you all the best.
Lizz
✒️ Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
I will do when one arrives 😮
@LlamaLizz
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S l a y
Hi leader, I really wanted to join but I totally understand, I am not ready. Maybe sometime in the future
Sounds like very understanding
@FrenchToastClub
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello leader oh thats a bummer i really wanted that role. thanks for letting me know
@sunnySea4551
❤️ Positively taken ❤️
Hi leader
Thank you for informing me, although I am a tad upset, I accept it and know I can always apply later on. Is it possible you can give me some tips and tricks how to complete (this) better? I feel like it would help me. Thank you again for taking time to review me :)
@CallumCares421 awesome reply!
@CallumCares421 Great response. Thanks for your example.
I liked this response 😊
@FrenchToastClub
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hey, Thanks a lot for letting me know. Can you give me some feedback to improve myself so I can work on it to get the role the next time?
@NanditaB That is a very succinct response. Good job.
@purplelady568 Thanks a lot
@NanditaB Your response is spot on! Way to go! I hope you never experience a denial/rejection from a role that you truly want because you are amazing!
@FrenchToastClub
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you? l would respond graciously and thank them for their time. I would also want to ask for feedback about how I could improve or what steps I may need to take in order to re-apply for the role in the future.
I think of this scenario much like job-hunting. You may get a call back, you may not. You may get some job offers or you may not, but you can't control the actions/decisions of others. You can only control your response and your attitude.
@purplelady568
I LOVE the job hunt analogy!!
@purplelady568 great response
@purplelady568
Yes, it is a lot like job hunting and you may or may not get a call back or the job at the time but it doesnt mean you arent fit for the position, it just means at that time, there are other requirements or candidates that do meet it and in time you will find the perfect role/job for you. You control how you feel and how you respond !
@FrenchToastClub
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
@kindJewel5362 nice answer :)
@kindJewel5362 good answer 😊
@YourCaringConfidant
I hope you get it this time ❤️
@YourCaringConfidant
That is very inspiring, Confi 🌺
@YourCaringConfidant
It did happen to me once too, and I declined the role that time too. Later I understand they need clear details why you want to flag. More descriptive, and I did it again got that as part of being a mentor. But yes, it's important to know what we can do and we don't need to have every role. I'm glad to know that you understand and you doing wonders as a smile spreder, Twin ☺
@FrenchToastClub
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello xxxx Thankyou for letting me know. Can I do the test again? Please let me know when I should apply . Thankyou.
@FrenchToastClub ✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
@jasmineishereforu
Nice answer :)
Hey! Thanks for letting me know that I didn't get the role. Could you give me feedback and let me know when I can reapply?