Has Any Relationship Survived Infidelity?

I'm not sure, but I'm currently going through a situation where my partner cheated on me last year. Was very messy and I love her so I asked her to come back and I forgave her. Year later this guy comes back into our life trying to influence my wife again and I don't know what to do anymore.

@zeetee17 Recovering after discovering your spouse had an affair can rock your self- confidence and cause self-doubt. I am going through something similar and found it helpful for me to focus on myself. I focus each day on the simple things of self-care. I try to find things that I find interesting and hobbies that I like. I put my focus back on myself and what makes me truly happy and in return it has boosted my self-confidence.

@zeetee17 Very sorry about the affair. I've been single a long time, but vividly remember a similar act of infidelity by my ex-wife. People are generally not designed to recover from such a serious emotional impact, IMO. It's very promising that both of you are in therapy, and because of that I would think there's reason to be hopeful. Good quality therapy could be a game-changer for both of you and even if the relationship doesn't survive, you'll both be able to better deal with what has happened. I do know that some people eventually recover but don't know the statistics in terms of how many remain together. Extremely difficult situation, and I wish you both the best.

I'm so sorry. I know how it feels to be cheated on. It happens to so many people. I always wonder...why can't the non cheaters get with other non cheaters and the cheaters can have each other 🤷‍♀️

I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. Being cheated on is easily one of the hardest things to deal with in relationships. You're incredibly strong for seeing him as someone who has made progress in changing. It's hard to look at someone who betrayed you in that way and see anything positive at all.

I went through a similar situation a while back and trying to see an end or a positive outcome in the middle of the mess feels impossible. We personally did not last because my partner never attempted to get help or get better. Seeking help is a huge step, but remember that it is always up to you whether you feel comfortable continuing the relationship regardless of how much they change.

I highly recommend reaching out to close friends or loved ones about this situation. It may feel incredibly difficult to put it out there, but they may offer insights you might have never considered on your own.

I hope in the end you're able to see what you want from this relationship, I'm wishing you the absolute best.

always an interesting post so many think it just happened to them........

Many if not most have real issues BEFORE it goes this far.... pretending no it was great ............is either naive or just wrong.....it is about having needs emotional or physical met .... being heard and appreciated not taken for granted and just there...

people may think they have no part but really unless you have felt abandoned / ignored and just not important you do not know.........

i was going through a dark time and was a miserable person........ wallowing in my bitterness treating him like crap ... was i mad yes but was I a victim....... NO.....we got through with TRUTH and most can not handle that ...

they want to believe they were perfect and this happened TO them .... they play was the person more attractive or what but really it is as simple as needs of a connection being made not always physical ... but emotional too ......... when you feel discarded ignored unwanted and unattractive it is not hard for simple understanding to blossom into something else.

@zeetee17

Your feelings are valid. Being cheated on isn't something quickly fixed or gotten over. It's good you're seeing someone. Please try to trust the process and allow yourself to feel your emotions.

It is possible to move past it and build a better relationship if both partners really want to do that. It takes a lot of time, work, willingness to be open and truly listen to our partner. Even so, things may not work out. Sometimes two people just aren't compatible as life partners.

IMO couples therapy isn't successful mostly.....the trust has gone and will always nag in the back of your mind. Find someone who treats you honestly with respect

@zeetee17

Hello,

For me I can't continue a relationship with somebody that cheated on me because from then on I would always be suspicious and can't or am unable to forgive that one! I'm sorry you are going through this! I was married for 17 years when I found out my wife was in a relationship with a friend of mine and I haven't said 2 words to her in 15 years now and never will.

Blessings, Day

I went through a similar situation two years ago. I am not saying its easy but yes there is hope at the end of the tunnel if both of you WANT to be together.

I am still triggered so easily whenever i hear her name but it is far better than it used to be. If you would like to connect one on one, i am here for you!