What’s wrong with me?
I ask myself this everyday for the past year. I am 41/m, professional, 2’nd marriage , 2 kids, living in a nice house, great income. These are the best years of life….
so why am I so miserable?
been in and out of therapy
struggling with Unaffectionate , unsuspportive partner
fantasize about wanting to live the most out of life
is it wrong to stay in it for the lifestyle? The kids?
I may add to this post but this is my struggle….
@fearlessBalloon7756
What I’m hearing you say is that you’re unhappy in your relationship. That the relationship lacks affection and that your partner isn’t supportive. Yet you also have a safe home, decent job, and a family life. It seems like you’re stuck between two realities. Seems like you want to do the right thing, but you don’t know what it is.
You mentioned in the comments that you’re afraid of the unknown and what if this is as good as it gets. I suppose it’s important for you to now ponder whether you are more afraid of staying in the current situation or if you’re more afraid of making a change?
@Frankie111
You say op "wants to do the right thing". I feel we can never arrive at the "right thing" to do. We can only assess where we are at present, and try to do what seems like the way forward for us, in our own opinion.
Sending hugs 🫂
we all struggling one way or the other
mine is equally a long story
Mind sharing please. A problem shared is a problem half solved remember ..
I understand your feelings, I felt the same, it would seem, everything seemed to be fine, but I did not feel happy, this is because happiness, it seems to me, is more determined by what you want now, if it seems to you that you already have everything you would like, but you do not feel happy, most likely there is something that you either do not notice or you don't want to notice. Personally, thinking about who I really want to become, how I want to look and what I want to achieve helped me.
@fearlessBalloon7756
Any hobbies in which you can lose yourself? Any plans to change aspects of your life experience (e.g. exercise, waking up earlier etc.)? You only mention external issues, but nothing internal, about you.
Sounds like your ego is in overdrive. This happens when you are living in a state of perpetual surviving. Whatever is going on is triggering survival mode. The ego operating in survival mode while reality conflicts with it creates a chemical situation in your body which manifests as anxiety. Figure out the trigger, work on the healing of it, and then observe the thoughts.
It's a midlife crisis
@fearlessBalloon7756
i completely understand your situation as i have been an identical life die the past 7 years. it is very frustrating and it hurts at the same time.
I’ve been looking at myself lately and wondering, do i keep trying or do i give up? It’s been 7 years and nothing is getting better…
@fearlessBalloon7756
It is easy to feel a sense of inadequacy when one is aware that they are not living up to their fullest capacity. It exists under the pretense that you should just be happy. You have beautiful children. You have a career that affords you a level of financial comfort that is enviable. Yet, your inability to see that the love your children seemingly have isn't worth sacrificing your own mental well-being for, if they truly love you, then they won't want you to suffer. You shouldn't feel guilty for wanting to live a life beyond the reach of oftentimes overwhelming mental illness. It may be seen as selfish, but if the partnership you find yourself in currently doesn't allow room for personal (and intimate) space, what is the likelihood of you being granted the space to explore the full extent of your imagination?
This is what im feeling right now.. almost the same situation
Nothing is wrong with you.
