When I'm angry, why do I always feel the need to hurt myself?

Self harm is sometimes used as a way to express what you're feeling when you can't put it into words. You might be able to look at your scars and say "look, this is how I was feeling at that moment". Through the act of self-harm, a feeling that is too overwhelming for one person to comprehend gets expressed on their own body. But there are other ways. There is so much more than pain to all the emotions you're feeling. Please reach out to someone.

Because you feel like getting the anger out. Hurting is not a solution, instead talk it out. It helps

It is a way to release pain and emotions. Sometimes the buildup is just too much. It’s a very unhealthy coping mechanism, but still, it’s a coping mechanism. The endorphin rush and the pain can help slice through the emotions you are feeling. I know from personal experience but it is a way for me to feel something, anything. It helps with the numbness and it offers a release like no other. It’s heartbreaking yet we do it. It’s a testament to our pain. It is almost a means of punishment for the hate we are harboring. It’s sad, yet we do it for comfort.

You feel the need to hurt yourself because you need to take out your aggression in some form. Hurting yourself is not the safest way to get your anger out. I suggest breathing exercises or taking part in an activity that you find joyful.

Because you feel like you need to punish someone for your anger, sometimes it is ourself, because we don't understand how can we get so angry all of sudden.

Hurting yourself is there to actually release the intense emotion that you have between yourself and the situation that makes you angry. I would instead try to take a couple of deep breaths and let the angry slow down before responding.

Sometimes when people feel angry and they don't think it is acceptable to express that anger outward, they will turn the anger inward and self harm.

I understand this feeling very well and battle with it quite often myself. Based on my experiences, I feel like the anger comes from a place of misguided self-defense. It may be a mechanism you are putting in place to not have to deal with the anger. When you are angry, do you also feel any secondary emotions? Sometimes a person can feel guilty for their rage.. like it is wrong or pointless in some way. Instead of facing an issue that seems too daunting and seemingly impossible to deal with, we respond by hurting ourselves to beat back the overflow of emotions. Some people do it to calm themselves as pain may give you a feelings of "resetting" your mind and emotions. Some people self harm to feel again when you are feeling cold or numb inside. I have also heard that some people self harm to stop themselves from lashing out at others whether physically or verbally. Maybe inside, you feel like you deserve the pain. But trust me, you don't. The need to hurt yourself may be strong but it is definitely not right. There are many coping methods out there and hopefully both of us can find a method that will help us handle our emotions.

I believe this deals with needing a way to channel through whatever you're going through. Anger is usually accompanied with violence, and in some cases, that violence to yourself alludes you believe you feel better. I recommend finding a new method, such as something like running, boxing, or meditating, to signal your feelings out.

Your so angry and so hurt, towards that person or thing that hurt you. Yet you don't want to take anger out on that person.. So you harm yourself, hoping it will make everything go away, that pain the anger, hurt.

You may feel the need to hurt yourself because when you do, a hormone is released inside you. It can become addicting. It also gives self harmers temporary relief. I do not recomend hurting yourself, as it can become addicting.

I've found that hurting myself can feel like a way to express extreme negative emotions that I don't know how to handle. In a way, the physical pain I experienced was both a release from the anger and acknowledgment of what I was feeling. I could take the anger out on myself so that I wouldn't hurt anyone else or damage something. It was a way I could deal with the anger immediately to try to alleviate it.

I think you are looking for a way to let your anger out and if there is no one else around, you let it out on yourself.

Sometimes we need to express that angry energy, so it can come out in many forms. Physical excertion releases this, but if that is unavailable we sometimes turn to other things, such as self harm, to "numb" this pain/anger.

Because you don't know how to deal with the anger. Everything inside of you is burning and because you don't know how to let it out, you choose to hurt yourself, imagining that all the anger is fading away. The pain actually calms you down.

when you are angry you automatically want to let it out which is quite normal. some would like to show it on others while some would feel like breaking things...some people also feel like harming themselves as that anger would soon evaporate and sympathy on oneself would arise.

For my personal experiences I think it's because you're desperated, you are filled with anger and stress and you probably have no one to blame it on or you don't know who to blame for your bad mood. So you blame yourself. Or you don't even know why are you so angry and that makes you feel even more mad at you. You don't think straight and you feel like everything's your fault.

I'm going to say this again. We except the pain we think we deserve. I know that I feel like this sometimes, but it's only normal to feel like that. Okay not normal, but it's okay I guess you could say. Some people have a hard time showing their feelings, like when we're mad we cry or want to hurt ourselves like you said

Hurting yourself gives you some release. It makes you feel like you are in control because you cant control the pain or anger that you are feeling.

You feel this way because you have nothing else to take it out on. And sometimes you may feel angry about yourself or think it is your problem for whatever had happened. Try getting a pillow, punching bag or a stress ball, or even talk it out with someone. Could be more helpful and leave you unharmed.

When we get angry, there's always a reason that got us to that point, right? There's some sort of trigger that makes us think, " why in the heck does this have to happen to me?" The adrenaline that comes with anger, well it affects people differently. Some people want to hurt objects- or people- while others want to hurt themselves. It's just the pain of being hurt and wanting to focus it else where I suppose, but the truth of the matter is that it will never help you. All you're doing is causing yourself double the pain that had originally made you so irate. If you're angry, write it out. Write an angry, passionate letter and just keep typing until suddenly what caused that rage makes sense or you run out of reasons to explain why you're so angry. It's alright to not be content all the time, no one is, but don't settle for constant displeasure. Fight for yourself.

Sometimes when we don't know how to control our emotions or have my way to channel those feelings physical harm seems like a "release" to let all those emotions out, but there are other, safer and more beneficial options out there. There are many coping tools available, instead try closing your eyes and counting to ten, then back down to 1, focus on your breathing and as you exhale imagine the negative feelings being released as well....hope this helps.

Usually when a person is angry and they want to hurt themselves its mostly because they cant take their anger out elsewhere. When you get angry and feel that need, writing the thoughts and the feelings down helped me a lot when i was going through that same problem, after i wrote it down if i was still angry i would flush the paper in bits down the toilet and i would be calm by then. If you do not flush it down the toilet you could always keep a journal where you have all the times you have been mad.

Self-harm can cause the temporary release of a neurochemical that relieves stress (but then it fades)

It releases endorphins, they cause a sort of high. It makes you feel relieved. Instead of hurting yourself, perhaps try punching a punching bag or screaming into your pillow.

For some people, holding in their anger doesn't work for them. They feel the need to express it, whether verbally or physically. Sometimes they express it outwards, to others or objects, and some express it towards themselves, through self mutilation. most of the time because they feel like they deserve it and the only way to feel better is to harm themselves, whether its by cutting, burning, throwing up, starving themselves, or any other way. If that's how you do it than you are not alone, but there are people out there who want to help you because it will get worse it you don't try to control it.

A lot of the times when i am angry and want to hurt myself its because i do not want to hurt anything or anyone else

You can feel the need to hurt yourself when you're angry to release some of that emotion on yourself. Some people do it to feel calm, or level but there are better ways of calming down than injuring yourself.

I cant speak for anyone else besides myself. But a majority of the time Im angry is over something stupid I did, or some mistake I made. "me" is the common theme for my anger. And most of the time I become angry at myself I feel the same way you are.

Because we tend to internalise our anger and think that we need to be punished somehow for feeling that way.