When I'm angry, why do I always feel the need to hurt myself?

Whenever I'm angry I tend to have the urge to hurt myself. That's because I have the need to punish myself for failing. For getting people's hopes up. And for a billion more reasons.

When you get angry, the anger can only really go in two directions. Outwards, in which case you inflict the anger on somebody else, or inwards, in which case you inflict the anger on yourself. It might be because nobody else is around to receive it, or because you don't want to hurt others, but internalising the anger can lead to all sorts of reactions, self-harm is one. I personally believe the best step is to recognise these moments, and try to defuse them after the anger has started, but before the harm begins.

When we let our emotions take control of our mind and body, we feel the urge to hur ourselves physically, so then the physical pain will be bigger than your feelings. But that doesn't work, because usually after you hurt yourself, the guilty feeling arrives and it just knocks everything down. So everything time you feel the need to hurt yourself try to do something you love, listen to music (but not something that could be a trigger), read your favorite book, watch your favorite movie/TV show, cuddle with your pet or a stuffed bear, and if you want to, cry, just cry those feelings out. Please, don't hurt yourself.

Anger is a strong emotion, one that can be quite dangerous. I always feel the need to hurt myself beause I need an escape, something to get all of the anger out. Self harm ohysically shows pain, cutting things is a way to relieve stress and anger. It's just unfortunate that we often look to our own bodies first before any other items.

Sometimes it's a defensive mechanism. Maybe you feel like it's your fault and it triggers you to cause pain to yourself because you don't know how to solve the issue.

Generally in my experiences with self harm it was to forget the emotions I was going through and to distract myself from how I felt. Also, for me, when I was angry I wanted to hurt something and I chose to hurt myself because I felt like somehow I deserved the pain. But after a while of using self harm as a coping mechanism it became more like an addiction, where I was self harming over literally nothing but feeling a little bummed out.

I think anger is one of the most controlling feelings you can have. Maybe when you're angry all the other emotions show up to the family reunion.

Because we've learnt to take out our anger on ourselves as that's the only option we've had left, but it's up to you to change that cycle. It's not easy, but it makes life so much easier.

Anger us a difficult emotion to feel and go through for most of us. Lashing out verbally or physically is what most people think of but for those of us who react inwardly and use methods such as self harm to cope it is common to express that anger by harming ourselves. Maybe it is impossible to direct our anger at the cause or we feel guilty for even feeling angry in the first place. Understanding and validating your feelings in the first place is important - why do you feel the way you do right now? Is there something you can do about the situation that angers you? Can you write an angry letter and dispose of it? Work through your thoughts and feelings? Talk it through with someone? Can you do some physical exercise work off that angry tension? Scream punch a pillow? Is there an alternative to self harming which may perpetuate your feelings? Anger as with all emotions is temporary its a wave - allow yourself the time, space and compassion to ride it out.

Sometimes, people are unable to control the things that trigger a person to feel upset. Harming yourself is something you can control, so I believe people harm themselves to feel more in control of themselves.

Anger is often related to frustration. And when someone feels either of those, one starts to feel restless and confined. If you want to hurt yourself, it's because you feel like the thing you're angry about is your fault. When I feel angry and want to hurt myself, usually it's because I want to release my anger without breaking an object and without hurting others.

Maybe without realizing it, you are angry at yourself and you feel like you can't take that anger out on anyone else. So your mind turns it on yourself, and you may want to "punish" yourself.

because someone is hurting you and it feels as if you need to let the pain out so you will tend to want to put the pain into hurting yourself

Either the pain causes endorphines to block the feeling, creating an addiction, or because you feel guilty to have gotten angry with someone, or because you do feel like breaking the face of someone but in order not to break them you preffer to damage yourself, However you are not angry, you are peace,you are love, you are compassion ,you are undrstanding, and you by understanding yourself, you will realize, that you do not need to self harm not to harm anyone, if you know how to deal with the root of this anger.

it is easier to hurt yourself than to hurt others.

It relieves mental pain to inflict physical pain. It helps you focus on somethinother than the fact that your upset.

Anger can affect different people in different ways. If you feel that you need to hurt yourself when you're angry, you may need to learn a bit more about what makes you angry and ways to stay away from situations that make you angry. It also may be worth doing some research on different ways to manage anger for if the situation is unavoidable.

In a life with disability, anger and resentment follow each other in a clouded thought that hurting myself is nearly a illusion. When I want to hurt myself, it's hollow. As an extremist to stay alive, my life becomes contentment and learning not to hurt myself has become a type of happiness.

You might feel the need to take the anger out on yourself due to the situation you're in and you might blame yourself and feel the need to punish yourself.

When Im angry, I feel the need to hurt myself. I think for me, its because its the only way I learned how to cope with the anger without hurting someone else.

Self harm may be used as a form of control, especially if a person feels that they're in an uncontrollable situation. It might also calm the person, taking away the displeasure of experiencing intense emotions. I used to self harm whenever I became angry because I felt that it was a good way to release my emotions. It wasn't a very healthy outlet, and I should've found better ways to calm myself.

When you're angry your mind always resorts to pain. You're feeling all this frustration and stress so whats a little more going to do to you? Harming yourself with absolutely never be the answer, but your mind might tell you that its the only way to relieve stress, but its most definitely not. Take a walk, talk to somebody, let it out, never resort to hurting yourself.

Because you think it's the only solution left, you dont feel the need to calm yourself or there is so much pain that consumes you

It is common for people to have the urge to hit, hurt something when they're angry. The urge to hurt yourself means that you realizes that hurting others is not a good thig, but your craving is not satisfied. I suggest you to distract yourself, or writing all of your feelings, or just pouring it all out with your mouth.

I used to feel the need to hurt myself as an expression of how I felt inside. Sometimes, because of the built up of emotions, I would just have an outburst that resulted in a bad injury. The self harm was done during periods of extreme anger. I really think that we need to express how we feel and if we don't express tiny bits and pieces now and then, talk about what;s bothering us, our emotional problems, they might manifest sooner or later as a form of self harm.

We tend to blame ourselves for problems we don't know how to fix which, ends up getting up frustrated. We think hurting ourselves will make our anger go away.

You don't want to hurt others so instead you hurt yourself, you like the pain, you think that if you hurt yourself, no one else will get hurt

I think this is because we are angry with ourselves.. even if we don't know it. Furthermore, we don't want to hurt others so we hurt ourselves instead.

I think you are looking for a way to let your anger out and if there is no one else around, you let it out on yourself.

For my personal experiences I think it's because you're desperated, you are filled with anger and stress and you probably have no one to blame it on or you don't know who to blame for your bad mood. So you blame yourself. Or you don't even know why are you so angry and that makes you feel even more mad at you. You don't think straight and you feel like everything's your fault.