What's the best way to deal with emotional blackmail from a partner?
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Ignore it. This is one of the hardest things to do sometimes, but in the long run it will make you a better person. Don't get caught up in the present, get caught up in the future!
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 6:37am
Talk about it and tell them that it's not okay. Take a stand for yourself and don't give in to them until they see your point.
Well you could try to speaking to them directly and trying to solve the problem they may have with you or you could try speakiing to a parent for advice or both.
Well, I think the first step is to realize that you need to get away from said partner. Obviously this is the source of the pain. You will need to work through it all, involving support from the ones that you love, friends and family. Be open. Be willing to express these problems with people. Love always wins.
The best way is to distance yourself from them as much as you possibly can. You should not be blackmailed by anyone and it always helps to talk to someone to trust and ask for help.
This is a difficult question. It sounds to me like you're talking about gaslighting. I was with someone who did this to me, and even now it's difficult to say a definitive way to deal with an emotionally blackmailing partner. It drains you emotionally and physically. All I can say is, if you suspect that your partner is emotionally blackmailing you, address the situation. Ask for opinions. If it is the case that this is happening, then you need to end it immediately! You need to think of yourself and your own happiness 💕 A lot of people don't, and forget how to truly live.
Anonymous
June 16th, 2018 2:24am
Take a step back and observe your emotions and his actions. How are you feeling? What is your partner doing, and how are you reacting to their actions? Talk to your friends and family but try to look at things objectively
The best way is always ignoring him, it is not easy but I can guarantee the best and probably only way
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 1:28am
Tell someone it’s domestic abuse and it isn’t ok,they shouldn’t boss you around unless it’s your parents
This can be really hard, but not impossible. I;d talk to your partner and be honest about what they are doing and how unhealthy it is for you and the relationship. Blackmailing is same as manipulation. And having that in your relationship doesn't work out. Be firm but kind on your talk with them also have an open mind to what they share to you.
Talk to them about this. Be direct and calm when explaining how their behavior makes you feel. "I feel like ____, when you do ______" You have to brainstorm with your partner on how to communicate and compromise rather than manipulate each other.
The best way of dealing with emotional blackmail is to be oneself and never allow another person to get the upper hand on your emotions.
One should not do what the blackmailers tell the to do. In case of threats, they should be reported to the authorities. The faster the threats are handled, the better.
One could also try reasoning with the person but this option is not for all blackmailers. One could reason by making them understand their emotional situation. This may be by asking them such questions:
If it were you, how best could you have reacted emotionally, in this situation?
If it were you, how would you feel if your emotions were used to blackmail you?
That person is not behaving like a true partner. It is not something anyone should ever have to go through, and it's wrong that you are. This isn't on you. You don't have to put up with this. If you feel they are blackmailing you, the only way to deal with it is get out. Get out of that situation. Get out of the relationship if you can. Don't let this happen, because if you let them get away with it once, they'll do it again. You have to save yourself from this, as quickly as you can. Tell them you won't stand for being blackmailed, and that if this is how they'll be, you're not going to continue the relationship.
If a partner is blackmailing you, it can be a large red warning flag the relationship may be becoming toxic or unhealthy. Talking to your partner is very important, so make you sure you make them aware of how you feel, even if they brush it aside. Partners who use abusive tactics tend to follow a cycle, so it's important that you learn to recognise the signs and learn to avoid their behaviours. This may be things like: being more assertive about the things you want and need, ignoring their demands, communicating more, compromising, not being afraid or guilty to say no to them.
First step is to identify it as an emotional blackmail, whether it's in terms of making you feel like the culprit or asking you to do things for that person, if you said no then they should respect that. The next step would be to take a step back from them and do something that you yourself enjoy which relaxes you so you can think about everything that's happening. The last step is to stand up for yourself and tell that person that what they're doing is not okay and that it's making you uncomfortable. You have every right to out your self first and step away from something that doesn't make you feel like your best self
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