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How do I know if I am transgender?

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How do I know if I am transgender?
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Profile: MusicalVision
MusicalVision
August 16th, 2015 8:20pm
Well, that question can be answered only by you. Do you feel like being transgender? Are you comfortable being one? Are you questioning your gender identity? Try to explore yourself and you'd know the answer. Good luck sweetie
Profile: PileOfRubbles
PileOfRubbles
June 19th, 2015 7:33pm
You don't. I guess you have to feel it. How do i know i exist. I don't but i do feel alive. So... if you are sure of your feelings trust them
Profile: SpiritOasis
SpiritOasis
June 19th, 2015 2:59am
To know you are transgender is to know that your biological and your emotional as well as psychological state are not compatible. Like oil and water, your body is not in tune with your mind and feelings.
Profile: Fireflies57
Fireflies57
September 11th, 2016 6:15am
You are the best judge of you. If you feel like you are trapped in the wrong body, then you might be. In the end, only you can decide, and whatever you do decide, there are people who are willing to help!
Profile: PhoenixMozza
PhoenixMozza
May 8th, 2015 12:56pm
This is a question only you can answer. If you feel like you're not the gender you were assigned at birth, you may be transgender, however a lot of people, specially people of non binary genders feel the word transgender doesn't truly describe them, and choose not to go by it, and that's completely fine as well, and doesn't invalidate any gender
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:36pm
If you feel as though you are not in the right body. Like the person you are in the mirror is not the person you feel you should be.
Profile: Kenai
Kenai
September 30th, 2016 4:21am
That's something that a counselor or therapist specializing in gender identity might really help with!
Profile: Spn2001
Spn2001
December 18th, 2016 3:29am
This can be different for different people but I would say you never truly know. Transgender is an umbrella term and literally means that you do not identify with your birth given sex, gender in a spectrum and therefore you can be trans gender and not necessarily feel 100% like the opposite gender. Transgender is not just mtf and ftm. If you're not sure if you are or are not transgender, then you probably are maybe not identifying as the opposite gender but somewhere on the scale. maybe try dressing as the opposite gender for a month, have people use different pronouns for you and see how it makes you feel, experiment with gender rolls.
Profile: ElliesLight
ElliesLight
June 19th, 2015 12:58am
Being transgender only means that you do not obey the social construct of your given gender. It notably has nothing to do with your body (That would be transsexual). You are transgender when you decide that you do not feel fully comfortable with your birth given gender. Many transgender folk will alter their appearance non-surgically (ex: with chest binders or different hair styles), ask for different pronouns than what they were given, or - shocking to many - do nothing at all.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 10:15pm
If you were born a male (sexually), but you feel like a women you are transgender. If you were born a female (sexually), but feel like a man you are transgender. Things like sex changes, hormone treatments, or anything really is just part of it. You can do nothing about it and you will still be transgender.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 5:19am
I knew 100% when puberty set in, but I had always felt a disconnect between my biological sex and my gender. It's different for everyone so it may take some time, but if you feel like you were "born in the wrong body" than you may be transgender. The term "transgender" is an umbrella term, meaning it's a group of people from biological males who identify as female, biological females who identify as male, biological males or females who identify and as neither, both, or even an entirely unique gender. It just depends on who you are and how good you are a recognizing red flags.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 4:16pm
Well.... First know that the world is changing so you will be full excepted by the greater majority ! Second ... What makes you free most comfortable and know you should not make this decision quickly, and just choose what makes you feel happy !
Profile: kittenguts
kittenguts
January 16th, 2016 11:11am
You are transgender if you feel like you really are born with the wrong gender, eg. if you're very uncomfortable when someone calls you by the pronouns assigned to you at birth. Please note that you are not transgender if you 'just kinda feel like being the opposite gender wouldn't be as bad', neither are you trans if you, as a girl for example, don't really like dressing and acting all feminine.
Profile: Crest
Crest
January 14th, 2016 3:25am
Do you feel at home inside of yourself? The answer should lead you somewhere. (I don't need 100 characters for this.)
Profile: 33kirstiechu33
33kirstiechu33
January 10th, 2016 7:49pm
You will feel like a (Insert different gender here) born in the wrong body. You can still like things designed for your sex.
Profile: CaseyC
CaseyC
January 9th, 2016 2:24pm
Being transgender is defined as having a sense of one's gender not coinciding with one's sex assigned at birth. Therefore, if you don't believe you are 100% your sex assigned at birth, you are, in one form or another, transgender.
Anonymous
April 13th, 2018 1:40pm
just listen to yourself and focus on what your heart wants. you may be experiencing some gender dysphoria so if you feel like you assigned gender parts (brest,genitals, hips muscles etc) dont fit what your brain is telling you what should be there
Profile: Plank0fWood
Plank0fWood
January 8th, 2016 12:03am
I have known for quite some time actually. Its hard at first because you'll try to convince yourself otherwise, but eventually, it hits you, you cant hide it. You'll try to make deals with yourself "If I could just cut my hair, or wear certain clothes." Its easy to realize that if you're constantly jealous of kids around you for being able to wear what they want to, maybe you should look into getting help about it.
Profile: GentleSoul13
GentleSoul13
January 7th, 2016 9:09pm
Having the feeling that you are a male living inside a woman's body, or a woman living inside a males body, is a very normal feeling, but could also mean that you are possibly transgender. Take your time to be open with it, but also be open with yourself about how you are feeling.
Profile: tatertott
tatertott
January 2nd, 2016 4:21pm
Generally people who are transgender (like myself) experience gender dysphoria, the feeling of being disassociated with your body and often you feel like you want to be more feminine or masculine but It really depends on you.
Profile: calmingCat38
calmingCat38
January 2nd, 2016 12:52am
Well most transgender people feel that they dont belong in the body they have. Its like they got the wrong body.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 5:36pm
A Transgender person is typically described as a man born in a woman's body, or a woman born in man's body. This means that if you feel that you're a woman, but you're biologically a man (and vice versa) you might identify as transgender. Just know that you don't have to label yourself at all if you don't want to. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone, just be happy in yourself.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 9:43pm
I think you'll know if you're transgender when the time comes. If you always have a feeling that you feel out of place, or think you were meant to be the opposite gender, that's a pretty good starting point.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 9:58am
There isn't really a checklist for knowing what your gender is. I think if you just feel like your mind doesn't fit the gender you were assigned at birth, or if you feel like you're trapped in your body.
Profile: PeacefulSolutions
PeacefulSolutions
August 14th, 2015 2:30am
it's more of a personal journey. first, come to terms with who you want to be and take time to just think, away from all distractions
Profile: KaringKatniss
KaringKatniss
August 13th, 2015 9:11pm
There is no test or questionnaire for this type of thing. It is just like your sexuality it's something you just have to listen to your intuition. It is very different for everyone. Some people know at childhood others don't know until middle age.
Profile: Rift
Rift
August 13th, 2015 3:07am
If you have doubts about whether you might be transgender or not, it's best to seek a medical professional about that. They can best help identify whether or not you are transgender, and if you are, should be able to help with the next step, or a possible transition.
Profile: helpfulkitty14
helpfulkitty14
August 12th, 2015 10:13pm
you will know if your transgender if you fell wrong in your skin and I don't mean you don't like the size of your thighs or your nose I mean you dislike your whole body and that you genuinely fell as tho your the opposite gender
Profile: RyanML
RyanML
November 6th, 2020 8:15pm
The best advice I have got is to experiment. Don't experiment in your head or in private because even though it's safe, your mind is a very powerful tool. Try and find supportive friends or family and test out names and pronouns, and try living as your identified gender (even if you're still questioning). Even if you come out to friends or family and you realize this isn't right it's a lot easier to tell them "I don't feel like x, but I feel more like y". It's a lot easier to verbally communicate and experiment rather than to medically experiment, and it's easily reversible. You don't have to know as a child, or know within a few months. Take your time with things and experiment. No one can tell you what you are or what you are not. Start by socially transitioning, see how it feels, and go from there. I recommend everyone who's questioning to always start by socially transitioning because you don't want to do any sort of medical transitioning as it's a lot harder to reverse if you are not sure.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 7:21pm
I knew when I found that I didn't like having a male body or wear men clothes. I soon discover that I identified as a woman rather than as a man. It was hard to accept at times, but over time I accepted that I identified as a woman.