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What does it mean to be Queer?

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Anonymous
June 10th, 2022 12:23pm
Queer: A person whose sexual identity falls outside of the heterosexual mainstream or the gender binary Basically, being queer means that you are a part of the LGBTQ+/MOGII community. Once you acknowledge that you are a member of the LGBTQ+/MOGII community, you are somewhat an official queer. Being queer means you could be any of the following things: bisexual, pansexual, gay, lesbian, asexual, agender, nonbinary, demi, and so many more(I know I left a ton out, just listing some examples). Once you know you are queer, the second step is figuring out what pronouns you have and how you identify.
bwoop1102
March 9th, 2022 4:40pm
What does it mean to be queer? From my experience it means to experience love and attraction in a way differing from the normal woman and man relationship. In technical definition, it means "denoting or relating to a sexual or gender identity that does not correspond to established ideas of sexuality and gender, especially heterosexual norms." As a queer person myself, it describes how I feel without having to put an exact label on my identity. Being queer is okay! Love what and who you love (as long as it's legal). This is what it means to be queer.
sabrinelioness22
February 9th, 2022 7:58pm
Have you heard the term LBGTQIA + it stands for lesbian bisexual gay queer transgender intersex asexual plus the fifty million other genders that exist like fraysexual and demisexual. queer is a term that some of these LBGTQIA+ people use. to describe themself. but this title is a choice. some people don't like it because it was used as a offensive term until relatively recently. IF you want to know what the letters stand for in LBGTQIA+ then here it is L: lesbian or a woman or nonbinary person atracted to women or nonbinary folks B: bisexual somone atracted to people of 2 genders used interchangably with pansexual or atraction to people regardless of gender G: gay a man atracted to other men Q; queer (see obove) T: trans :under this unbrella is transgender, nonbinary demigender genderfluid basicly a person who does not identifi with their gender asigned at birth (like me) I: intersex or born with the sex organs of moltiple sexis A:asexual a unbrella turm for varios types of non or little sexual atraction hope this helps
EscapingReality1438
January 20th, 2022 1:11pm
I'm queer, and I think that that experience for me has really been about learning to be myself. There is so much that I hide from the world that I'm able to show when I'm around people in the LGBTQ+ community. It really is a community. I can talk to anyone and they know exactly what I'm going through and are able to offer excellent advice. I bonded with some of my best friends through being able to talk to them about whatever I need, and listening in return. They understand. It's called a community for a reason. I think that the queer experience is about learning who you are and how to be yourself.
CherryBlossomListener
January 8th, 2022 2:32pm
The word queer, is such as huge umbrella term, the word queer to me doesn't have a specific meaning, I mean if you were to look up the word in the dictionary I am sure they would have a definition, but for me, queer is just how I identify, I don't identify with any specific labels, with my gender or my sexuality and romantic preferences, being queer for me is that I am different, I don't like certain people, I like who I like, my gender isn't specific, I feel how I feel, people can identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, asexual, anything but the letter q in LGBTQIA+ is there for a reason, for people who don't identify with those other labels, or dont WANT to identify with labels, being queer is being you, and you should always be you.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2021 4:16pm
Being Queer is a part of the LGBT community. Queer can either be that your sexuality is undecided, or you just don't want to put yourself into a specific sexuality because you have aspects that are specific to you only. For example, if someone asks you your sexuality you could say that you're undecided or queer. When I say that you don't want to put your self into a specific group, it could be because your sexuality branches out into different aspects.
Nightwind
November 26th, 2021 5:41am
I think being queer is a very broad thing. Generally, it can mean not straight and/or cis, though. It can mean being outside the norm in those ways, whether it means sexuality wise, or being bi/pan, gay, ace, etc. It can also mean being trans, nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid, intersex, and all other things under the trans umbrella. But I think it can also mean being fluid in all things. Queer is a great term for people who don't want to label themselves more specifically, as far as I've seen. It's saying you generally aren't straight and/or cis. I think it's a great descriptor no matter what other descriptors under the queer umbrella you want to use.
Anonymous
November 13th, 2021 10:44pm
Queer means "strange." It was formerly an offensive umbrella term for people who were not straight or cisgender. However, in recent years, using the word "queer" to refer to the community proudly has increased in popularity among LGBT people, although some still consider the term derogatory. Something else that is important to note is that there are now academic courses studying LGBT history and identity, and they often are titled with the word "queer" (e.g. queer theory, queer studies). Some scholars, therefore, believe that the word "queer" has become more academic. As an LGBT individual, I believe that "queer" is no longer inherently offensive, and I am accustomed to it being used casually by other LGBT people. Nevertheless, other LGBT people may be upset by its usage.
Anonymous
November 13th, 2021 10:15pm
Queer can mean many things to many people. Queer can be used as an umbrella term for LGBTQ+ individuals who identify outside of sexual orientation and gender norms. Some people use it interchangeably with bisexual and pansexual. Other people use it to express that they are gendernonconforming. It can even be used as another term for gay and lesbian identifying individuals. Queer has seen a new revival in this decade, with more people using it to express their complex identities. In certain contexts, this term can be used in a derogatory way by hateful people. The LGBTQ+ community has always had a wonderful way of reclaiming words to be empowering, and queer is definitely on that list.
AFoolishSamuraiWarrior
October 27th, 2021 7:37pm
It means to be outside the gender norm roles set by society, there are various types of queer to be, typically just the word queer means queer in a sexuality aspect. Which would just mean that you're not Heterosexual, you haven't put a label to what your sexuality is yet, you just know it's not hetero. Secondly there's Genderqueer, if for example you were AFAB, being Genderqueer would just mean you don't identify as female, and again still haven't put a label on what you DO identify as. It's a safe term for people still exploring parts of themselves without having to commit to a label yet, and for those who just don't want to label themselves. I, personally, identify as Bi-Sexual and Genderqueer because I don't really feel entirely like a male. I hope this explanation helped, feel free to message me if you have any more lgbtq+ related questions ^-^
SupportiveSoul3
October 8th, 2021 5:46pm
To be queer is whatever you want it to be. The word used to be a slur, but it has been largely reclaimed by the 2SLGBTQ+ community and has become an umbrella term for many identities. Not everyone likes this term, identifies with it or uses it, but if you do, that's totally okay! I usually ask the people I'm speaking with if they're comfortable with the term before using it to reference the 2SLGBTQ+ community. I identify as queer, and for me, it means unsubscribing from the gender binary, cisheteronormativity (the norm of being cisgendered and heterosexual/straight), and mononormativity (the norm of being in monogamous relationships). It is a form of resistance, autonomy, agency and love!
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2021 6:11pm
In my mind it means that you are anywhere on the spectrum of the LGBTQIAP+ community. It also could mean that you don't exactly identify with any identity, which is also very valid and understandable. I know some people that identify as that just because they haven't quite figured out their label yet, or some people identify as that because they don't necessarily want to find out what their label is and they're comfortable just identifying as queer. I think honestly it depends on the person and it is a very open and broad term to use for anyone, really.
Anonymous
September 3rd, 2021 12:33pm
In literal terms, Queer means something which is weird or isn't normal. But nowadays people who don't have those mainstream sexual orientations of being Straight or Cisgender have been using it as an umbrella term for their sexualities. It could be a person who is a member of the LGBTQ+ community. This term could be used mostly by people who do possess sexual desires towards same genders or different genders at once. The term was first coined during the 19th century and has been used extensively by people showing sexual desires towards their own gender. Many people are now openly accepting their sexualities which is a great start towards a better world
Arthurtakh
July 21st, 2021 5:21pm
it means to like the people of your same gender and have affection towarsd the same, it is similar to gay people. To Pasciucco, queerness encompasses an intersection of identities. She adds that the term queer indicates an “individual who self-identifies as either Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer (also sometimes called “questioning”), intersex, and or asexual, aka the LGBTQIA+ community. For Pasciucco herself, she also utilizes the + sign when referring to the queer community, to indicate pangender or pansexual individuals, and even those in alternative relationship communities, such as polyamory, kink, or non-monogamy. so that is the defenition of it
sunnyvision
July 8th, 2021 4:24pm
Queer is a word that describes sexual and gender identities other than straight and cisgender. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people may all identify with the word queer. Queer is sometimes used to express that sexuality and gender can be complicated, change over time, and might not fit neatly into either/or identities, like male or female, gay or straight. The word “queer” has history to it that’s hurtful — “queer” used to be (and sometimes still is) used to put down or disrespect LGBT people. But more and more, people use the word with pride to identify themselves. So don’t call someone “queer” unless you know they’re cool with it. The best thing to do is ask what labels people prefer.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2021 2:35pm
Queer is a political identity, for anyone who is not cisgender or straight, it also includes questioning individuals and Intersex individuals, so it's an umbrella term for everyone LGBTQIA+. It means your sexual orientation, sexual behavior, gender identity, gender expression or biological sex, is a cause of your oppression or you are politically conscious about the systematic oppression and represent your queerness through your vote and political activity. Personally it is a declaration of your radical acceptance towards everything LGBTQIA+ and their rights, it's a label which unites us. Previously it was used as a slur against us, but we reclaimed it and gave it a positive meaning, It's still highly inappropriate for any cisgender and straight person to use it, only LGBTQIA+ can identify with the label.
anushka111
June 2nd, 2021 8:47pm
Being queer means not identifying with what society has dictated as "normal"- being heterosexual and identifying your gender as your sex assigned at birth. Being queer can mean being LGBTQ, identifying with pronouns other than she/her or he/him, or anything you believe it to be! Although the word 'queer' was originally used as an insult and a slur, many members of the LGBTQ community have reclaimed it, and it's meaning is fluid and changes from person to person. While one person might consider it to mean being attracted to the same, none, or multiple genders, another person might think it only refers to nonbinary people or those who don't fall under the binary idea of gender, and yet another person might think it's a combination of the two! All three people would be right! Happy Pride month :))))
Sadwithpurpose
May 26th, 2021 1:52pm
Queer can be an umbrella term for the LGBT+ community. Some individuals don't identify with any specific label so they identify as queer because they know they are not fully cisgender and heterosexual. Queer is a broad term that can describe sexual orientation, gender identity, or both. Some people do not feel that they identify with their sex assigned at birth but don't have a specific label for their gender. Some people don't feel like they fully or exclusively are attracted to the opposite sex but they are unsure about their label or don't feel the need to label their identity. Being queer is a unique experience for every individual. Sometimes there simply isn't enough language to describe certain experiences and it's easier for people to just say they are queer.
peachyscorpy
March 31st, 2021 4:25am
To be Queer can be a personal affiliation, unique to ones identity within the spectrum of LGBTQ+. I consider myself queer as a general term to describe my gender & sexuality, It makes it easier for me to not have to go into any specific detail about myself in that regard & also has a personal affiliation to me as a sense of being. In my local LGBTQ+ scene in Australia, people describing themselves as Queer can be a quick identifier of someone who is like me, experiences the same adversities as me & most likely will be a safe person for me to go to.
Anonymous
March 25th, 2021 4:35am
being queer is being anything but straight, basically. i have a friend who identifies as queer. some days she’s interested in only women. the next she’ll be interested in men and women. it can be a bit of a vague or loose term. i can call myself queer if i’d like. i’m lesbian, so it would fit. the simplest way i can put it would be ‘not straight’. this could be someone like me, who has a certain sexuality. this could also be someone who doesn’t know their sexuality, but knows they aren’t straight. hope that helped you a bit!
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2021 5:08pm
Being queer for me means experiencing your sexuality or gender in a way that mainstream society doesn't regard as the default or norm. My queerness is something that I have always felt. I could articulate or understand that it was related to my sexuality but I have always felt different in some way. Queerness can also be linked to a sense of community. The LGBT+ community in my school have been a great support to me in my journey. Unfortunately being queer to me also linked to hating myself and my sexuality as I have internalised much of the bigoted rhetoric I have heard from others and in TV. Whilst this is something I struggle with, I found connecting with my community very healing as well as coming out to important people in my life
Anonymous
February 26th, 2021 12:30am
Someone that is given the wrong gender at birth, feel attraction to other genders than the opposite gender. Basically the LGBTQ+ community are all queers. It’s an umbrella term used for sexual and gender minorities other than heterosexual and are not cisgender. In the late 19th century, queer was an insult hurled at people in same - sex relationships, and trans genders. Queers original definition meant “strange”, “odd”, “peculiar”, “bizarre”, “unexplainable”, “weird”, so to many people it was considered an insult. It’s not commonly used as an insult anymore though, which is great. I hope I explained it well enough.
sereneMango3007
February 21st, 2021 6:40pm
For me, being Queer is a broad term. Basically in the simplest term is to be "not straight." Personally, I use it because I feel like there's so many different labels that I feel like I fit under, but none of them were 100% accurate. Using Queer felt unrestrictive which is why I go by that label. There's a long history behind this term since originally queer meant "weird" or "strange" and was used as a slur against LGBTQIA+ individuals. This is one of the terms being reclaimed by the LGBTQIA+ community. Whether you choose to find a more specific label or go with a broad umbrella term or just not label yourself at all, you are valid!
Anonymous
December 13th, 2020 6:13pm
Queer is a word that describes sexual and gender identities other than straight and bisexual. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people may all identify with the word queer. Queer is sometimes used to express that sexuality and gender can be complicated, change over time, and might not fit neatly into either/or identities, like male or female, gay or straight. The word “queer” has history to it that’s hurtful — “queer” used to be (and sometimes still is) used to put down or disrespect LGBT people. But more and more, people use the word with pride to identify themselves. So don’t call someone “queer” unless you know they’re cool with it. The best thing to do is ask what labels people prefer.
rosycrowskull
November 20th, 2020 8:40pm
The term "queer" has a different meaning to everyone. Queer, by definition, is a word meaning eccentric or odd in nature. Queer was used as a slur for the longest time, but now people use this term as an empowering label. In the LGBTQ+ community, "queer" is an umbrella term for any sexuality or gender identity that is not heterosexual or cisgender. I happen to be one of those people that uses queer as an empowering label rather than an offensive slur. I have reclaimed the slur and used it as a term that identifies me with my community. I love being queer, and I wouldn't change my identity for the world. Have pride. Always. 🏳️‍🌈
Anonymous
November 19th, 2020 10:47pm
Queer is an umbrella term often used to describe people who are not heterosexual or cisgender. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people may all identify with the word queer. It also includes intersex, asexual and non-binary people as well as others who are not sure of their sexual or gender identity or they don't want to "put themselves in a box", aka don't want to label themselves but they want to indicate that they are not straight and/or cisgender. Queer is sometimes used to express that sexuality and gender can be complicated, change over time, and might not fit neatly into either/or identities, like male or female, gay or straight.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2020 12:39pm
In the modern sense, queer is used as an umbrella term for people who either have a non-straight sexual identity, a non-binary or trans gender identity, or a combination of any of those things. It is the ‘Q’ in LGBTQ+.The queer community is the community of people who do not identify as cis and/or hetero. Queer is a flexible term, which means different things to different people.The queer community is the community of people who do not identify as cis and/or hetero. Queer is a flexible term, which means different things to different people.The queer community is the community of people who do not identify as cis and/or hetero. Queer is a flexible term, which means different things to different people.
calmingFriend2210
November 4th, 2020 12:43am
Well the definition of it is odd or strange. But you shouldn’t really define yourself to be of a person of peculiarity. But in a way it could mean a lot of things. Depending on the context the word is used. So there isn’t really an exact answer I must say cause there could be a lot, depending on opinions. But if someone is queer it doesn’t necessarily mean there an outsider but a person with different tastes. I may not be a person to acquire this answer to its full potential but this is what I have insight on.
Birdie72
October 31st, 2020 5:59pm
I think that being Queer means knowing that we fit into a "category" of lifestyle that defies a current social norm. Queer is knowing that there will be some people who, when they discover we life in a way that feels comfortable to us, makes them UNcomfortable. When asked what Queer means, I always think to myself "other" -- kind of like when you get a multiple choice exam, and none of the given answers will do. Being Queer is a way of seeing oneself in the world that challenges the status quo, the hierarchy, the patriarchy, and the typical structures that keep our society stuck in a past moment in time.
JoelA
October 8th, 2020 1:21am
Queer is a word that describes sexual and gender identities other than straight and cisgender. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people may all identify with the word queer. Queer is sometimes used to express that sexuality and gender can be complicated, change over time, and might not fit neatly into either/or identities, like male or female, gay or straight. Moreover, queer is a word that clarifies that I’m not straight and ties me to the larger queer community, but it doesn’t categorize me as gay. All in all, queer could used to describe an individual who is not heterosexual.