What do I do if my father thinks I hate him even after I told him I don't?

You can't control what your father believes. Once you told him how you feel, it is up to him to choose how to respond. You have no control over others' thoughts or actions. You can ask your father if he'd like to discuss your feelings for him, but again, his response to that is his choice. You've done your part by telling him how you feel. You can elaborate on how you feel, though. If all you've told him I'd that you don't hate him, perhaps you could tell him how you DO feel toward him, rather than how you don't feel. I wish you the best of luck!

Give him space and don't try to push it. Show that you love him through actions , not from just words. Sometimes it's easy to tell but not easy to do it for real. Hence it's good if you give him some time to digest the situation and let him forget about it while you do subtle things which makes him feel that you meant what you said. We tend to take our family for granted and it hurts sometimes and as father is old will take time to come back. More than the words, action speaks so please make an effort to show it from your actions.

Do small things small gestures of caring and love like buying him some small and thoughtful gifts or just saying I love you as often as you can or sit down and have a calm chat with him about it and explain that you are doing the most you can to make him realize that you love him but he isn't realizing and there is no more that you can do and just secure the fact that you love him because sometimes parents have doubts too and that's ok sometimes people are just in need of some reassurance

Why do you think your father thinks you hate him? It sounds like you do love him and want him to know that. Do you think there is a way to show him you love him instead of just saying it? Is there something both of you enjoy doing together? Could you ask him for his help or advice? Do you think if he feels you need and respect him he’ll understand that you do love him? I’d love to know if your plans help and if not I’m always here to talk and maybe between us we can come up with a new plan. I think it’s wonderful that you love him enough to ask for help. I look forward to hearing from you.

Love manifests in action. Just telling may not work.So you can do some thing to him which he likes . Talking the topics he likes .Going out with him . Being with him.It will.take time for the people to realize love and care of.people . So be patient as you love him you can show up.him how much you love him.Be patient if he returns with hard words.Love is tested at hard times.Hold on its great to hear that you love your father. You can probably give him small gifts.A nice hug and kiss in night. Wishes during day

I think more than what you think it’s what he thinks about himself. And you could mention that in a subtle non offensive way. It could be his guilt about something or simply his view about himself. He needs help to make him see what you see in him. There are two aspects of it. One you care about him enough to change his perception of himself or you simply would like to ensure that you have made your stand clear and that’s that. The first one would need you to spent time with him to ensure that he understands where you are coming from. The second would be more like handsoff. You could refer him to a therapist or take help of another family member.

Trying to convince someone of what your feelings are for them is often an exercise in futility. Either the person chooses to believe you or they don't. If the person can honestly explain what their concern is, and you can address it, then fine. Is it possible your father has other issues going on? Maybe he's self-conscious in general, or has low self esteem? Either way, it's doubtful that even with amazing effort that you would be able to convince him otherwise. I hope your father comes around to realizing the truth, and that you both have peace!

Try to bond more with your father. It is important to try to see each other more find a reason to see him. Try to make him feel that he means to you alot. Take him out for a walk and keep talking about anything makes you both happy. Or about the issue that is making the trouble. With some activities and bonding some how it might work. You have to keep on trying.. sometimes things in life happens fpr a reason but we have to always try to know whtat going on amd reasons behind it and i hope all will be fine.

If I was in the same situation, rather than telling him this I'd show him through actions. Sometimes words are not enough to satisfy and there are many other ways to show your true feelings towards someone. Maybe your father is insecure and is seeking for extra reassurance, sometimes all someone needs to feel better is acknowledgement and to know that they are not alone. It's helpful to tell someone who thinks you hate them that you don't, but if the feeling lingers I'd try other possible ways and see how it goes from there. Hope for the absolute best.

This is a situation where it would help to show him your love instead of only telling him. Telling him was a good start but I think you should do something to show him how true what you said is. Find out what he loves and work with that. He loves food? - cook him a new recipe He likes 80s movies? - Take him to a film festival or do a movie evening Still tell him you love him, words are worth a lot but if you see he has trouble to trust you, show your love. If you stay by his side and support him he will notice.

Show him that you don't hate him! If you know that you don't hate your father, so don't let that comments make you sad or anxious. You love your father! Show him how much you love him, give him some hugs, tell him more that you love him, and that kind of stuffs! Give him some gifts, make him a letter saying how much you love him (That kind of stuffs make the parents feel better), ask him how was his day, try to help him when he's doing something in the house, or something like that! Good luck!

Try to show him why you care, and how you care for him. Try to figure out why he says he hates you, look in his perspective. Try to understand why he feels that way and figure out a solution to make him think otherwise about you. Show him empathy and love. Try to think about your own actions and how they influence his look on you. Maybe ask others if they see the same thought he has on you as you see, or that they see that he has other thoughts about you. Try to figure out if they are other, why you see it different then they see his thoughts.

You could ask him why he thinks that way and what kind of behavior made him come to this conclusion. I’ve been in similar situations where I’ve felt unloved even though the other person kept saying I was wrong about that, and specifying what kind of actions or statements made me feel the way they did really gave the other person the opportunity to understand my feelings and change their behavior accordingly, even though it was never meant to hurt me in the first place. After that, my relationship with that person greatly improved, communicating your feelings really does help.

Actions do more than words. I think you need to show your father that you love him with small meaningful repetitive actions. Learn what he likes and cares for and show that you care about it. Small gestures will become more powerful than words because he might think you dislike him from years accumulation of everything that happened before. So try to find out why he might think you dislike him. If you have no idea, ask him why he thinks you dislike him, communication and honesty can come a long way. Be honest and genuine and he will tell, talk to him and also do something to show him you care.

Well, there are things within your control and some are not. You have told him you don't hate him anymore but until he realizes that's true and feels it for himself, he is not going to believe it. And the thing is, how he feels and what he chooses to believe, is outside your control. Because maybe if he was the one in the wrong, it's not just about you saying you don't hate him. He needs to forgive himself and let go of the guilt. Sometimes, we tend to punish our own selves. Now from your side, you need to ask whether you truly have forgiven him or do not hate him anymore. Because while your words say so maybe your actions and the way you behave with him are not in sync. And speaking of actions, that is something you can do from your part. Show him that you like him now.

Maybe do something to really show that you love him, something that would make him feel really loved and encouraged. You could also apologize for doing anything that could have hurt him and made him feel this way towards you. It's always hard trying to change a family member's opinions or emotions remember that he is hurting right now and can be sensitive about it. This will be a process and you have to remember that it will all be worth it when he realizes how much you actually love him. I really hope that this helps a little bit!

Maybe do something for him, or ask him to go to lunch. Do something where you two can bond and have a nice conversation. Sometimes parents can be afraid to lose their children, sometimes they feel as if they aren't good enough. So you have to prove to him that he is good enough. Do something together, or even sit together and have a chat where you guys can get to know each other better. Getting to know someone better always helps, and maybe he'll get to share experiences that he's had with you. It'll be nice to get to know each other better.

You can do stuff to show him you love him. Like constantly hug him and kiss him and say I love you. You can buy him stuff or write him make sure he knows you love him. Just the little things. You could do his chores or help him. You could make a slideshow with pictures of you and him and show/explain how much he means to you. Try to show him how much you really love him.

I think sitting down and chatting to your father would be really beneficial for you both. Ask him why he thinks you hate him and discuss the problem. Try to get to the root of the issue and clear the air between you both. Perhaps spending the day together and having some quality time would be good for you and maybe take the time to treat him and show you care! Sometimes, actions speak louder than words. Talking like adults together and getting to the root of why your father thinks you hate him is important. Once you know the reason, you can work past it and show him you don't hate him. At the end of the day there is no stronger bond than that of a family's bond.

If you have told your father you do not hate him and explain that you love him and he still does not believe you there is nothing you can do. That though is in his brain and it may not be based on real life. So the best think is to accepted in but know that you so not hate him and it is in his head not yours. You can also repeat that you love and support. This over time might help him change his though pattern and he may stop thinking you hate him. All you can do is explain to him how you feel about him.

Ask him why he feels that way, maybe you've been different lately? Or maybe he blames himself for something, all you can do is ask and find out. Showing him you care with little things, like asking how his day went, going out of your way to spend time to get closer. Maybe even speak to your mum, or other trusted family members, chances are they'll know how to help. I understand how frustrated you must feel, but It gets better! Maybe trying going above and beyond on a holiday when he's not expecting it, I hope this was helpful!

The first thing to consider is that maybe your father understands actions more than words so you may want to try to act more and see if that works out (little things such as offering him a cup of tea, giving him a gift, a trip...). If it does not work, ask him why he thinks this way and work with him to build trust. A good way to build trust is to do things together (cooking meals for example!). But if the problem is still there even after all that, maybe he needs help on his self esteem and relation to others.

No matter how hard we try, we cannot change how others view us. Each person owns their own perspective. We do not see the world as it is, we see the world as we are. All of our past experience influences our perception of the world, and the people in it. In addition, past experiences can cause some people to need more reassurance than others. What I mean is, even if you've said that you don't hate your father, he may need a little more convincing. Can you tell me, from your perspective, why your father thinks you hate him?

Sometimes words are not enough. They may need actions, not necessarily overt or even expensive, but something that gives them a physical understanding of how you feel. Maybe a just because card, a little "thinking of you" gift or note. Some days we may need a physical reminder we are thought of. A good example of this is seeing a key chain or stuffed animal at a check out. It reminds you of them so you get it to give to them. Now they have a physical representation that you randomly thought about them enough to get them this small token. Love is a language. And like any language we do not all speak the same dialect.

I think you can do a lot of things to express your love, love Does always comes by only words no real love comes with actions 💜✋ maybe just take care of him , call him to ask how's life going, make him a cup of coffee or anything he likes, buy him a gift it doesn't mean to be expensive or whatever no jusr something to shows that you actually care about him actually love him,maybe when you see him give him a warm hug saying that i missed you so much dad , thank him for anything he gets to you just to show him that you're glad, the point is always express your love with actions ,small nice action, words are just not enough sometimes it 💜

Show him that you don’t dislike him take him place he likes to go. Do stuff he likes to do so he could know that you love him and that you don’t dislike him but if he still feel like you hate him see what you are doing that make him think that way. Once you find out what make him think that way, tell him that you love him and the reason for the distance or changes your doing or acting, just to reassure him that you still love him. Some parent understand but the other that takes time but they’ll get there.

If something were to happen such as get in a argument with my parent. I know sometimes parents can be frustrating and such but at the end of the day they do only want what’s best for you. I would try to talk with your dad and just explain like no matter what you are going to always love him and maybe do a kind gesture for him as well. But really only thing you can do is just speak to him and explain your feelings towards the situation and that it is not in that type of way at all

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do small little things like write I love you and put it on the front door for when he leaves for work, or give him that small hug on your way to bed. Even a simple bake of something if you're good at that. If he doesn't believe you, it will become clear to him one day. He will understnad if you show it to him little by little everyday. spend more time with him even, it'll all come down to what he believes at the end of the day. you just have to keep trying until he believes you

Hi; im FrostWire your supporting listener and, Welcome to 7cups.com...You say: My father really thinks I hate him aye? What should a father be doing thinking such unworthy thoughts? How can I reverse this thought? Hmm; I believe I know how this can build frustration or even friction within ones-self, and I think back to a time when I too was faced with the complaint from my very own father. He believed I loathed him so that he feared i would retaliate out of anger. What was I to do other than reassure him that I Loved him passed his flaws, an even some of those irrefutable senior moments, if you know what I mean. But hey; he loved fishing, and those early mornings out hunting deep in the woods were top-of-the-morning-coffee-lover-fantasy to him. After a while he began to understand the best of his life was me because I am what he created. I believe it takes this personality check for close encounters; especially like this. We all deserve peace of mind whether or not we are capable of giving it to ourselves. I hope I've given a few answers to ways to help in your quest; Remember, I'm FrostWire your supporting listener and "I thank you" for bringing your question to 7cups.com.