What do I do if my father thinks I hate him even after I told him I don't?

If you have told your father you do not hate him and explain that you love him and he still does not believe you there is nothing you can do. That though is in his brain and it may not be based on real life. So the best think is to accepted in but know that you so not hate him and it is in his head not yours. You can also repeat that you love and support. This over time might help him change his though pattern and he may stop thinking you hate him. All you can do is explain to him how you feel about him.

I think sitting down and chatting to your father would be really beneficial for you both. Ask him why he thinks you hate him and discuss the problem. Try to get to the root of the issue and clear the air between you both. Perhaps spending the day together and having some quality time would be good for you and maybe take the time to treat him and show you care! Sometimes, actions speak louder than words. Talking like adults together and getting to the root of why your father thinks you hate him is important. Once you know the reason, you can work past it and show him you don't hate him. At the end of the day there is no stronger bond than that of a family's bond.

You can do stuff to show him you love him. Like constantly hug him and kiss him and say I love you. You can buy him stuff or write him make sure he knows you love him. Just the little things. You could do his chores or help him. You could make a slideshow with pictures of you and him and show/explain how much he means to you. Try to show him how much you really love him.

Maybe do something for him, or ask him to go to lunch. Do something where you two can bond and have a nice conversation. Sometimes parents can be afraid to lose their children, sometimes they feel as if they aren't good enough. So you have to prove to him that he is good enough. Do something together, or even sit together and have a chat where you guys can get to know each other better. Getting to know someone better always helps, and maybe he'll get to share experiences that he's had with you. It'll be nice to get to know each other better.

Maybe do something to really show that you love him, something that would make him feel really loved and encouraged. You could also apologize for doing anything that could have hurt him and made him feel this way towards you. It's always hard trying to change a family member's opinions or emotions remember that he is hurting right now and can be sensitive about it. This will be a process and you have to remember that it will all be worth it when he realizes how much you actually love him. I really hope that this helps a little bit!

Well, there are things within your control and some are not. You have told him you don't hate him anymore but until he realizes that's true and feels it for himself, he is not going to believe it. And the thing is, how he feels and what he chooses to believe, is outside your control. Because maybe if he was the one in the wrong, it's not just about you saying you don't hate him. He needs to forgive himself and let go of the guilt. Sometimes, we tend to punish our own selves. Now from your side, you need to ask whether you truly have forgiven him or do not hate him anymore. Because while your words say so maybe your actions and the way you behave with him are not in sync. And speaking of actions, that is something you can do from your part. Show him that you like him now.

Actions do more than words. I think you need to show your father that you love him with small meaningful repetitive actions. Learn what he likes and cares for and show that you care about it. Small gestures will become more powerful than words because he might think you dislike him from years accumulation of everything that happened before. So try to find out why he might think you dislike him. If you have no idea, ask him why he thinks you dislike him, communication and honesty can come a long way. Be honest and genuine and he will tell, talk to him and also do something to show him you care.

You could ask him why he thinks that way and what kind of behavior made him come to this conclusion. I’ve been in similar situations where I’ve felt unloved even though the other person kept saying I was wrong about that, and specifying what kind of actions or statements made me feel the way they did really gave the other person the opportunity to understand my feelings and change their behavior accordingly, even though it was never meant to hurt me in the first place. After that, my relationship with that person greatly improved, communicating your feelings really does help.

Try to show him why you care, and how you care for him. Try to figure out why he says he hates you, look in his perspective. Try to understand why he feels that way and figure out a solution to make him think otherwise about you. Show him empathy and love. Try to think about your own actions and how they influence his look on you. Maybe ask others if they see the same thought he has on you as you see, or that they see that he has other thoughts about you. Try to figure out if they are other, why you see it different then they see his thoughts.

Show him that you don't hate him! If you know that you don't hate your father, so don't let that comments make you sad or anxious. You love your father! Show him how much you love him, give him some hugs, tell him more that you love him, and that kind of stuffs! Give him some gifts, make him a letter saying how much you love him (That kind of stuffs make the parents feel better), ask him how was his day, try to help him when he's doing something in the house, or something like that! Good luck!

This is a situation where it would help to show him your love instead of only telling him. Telling him was a good start but I think you should do something to show him how true what you said is. Find out what he loves and work with that. He loves food? - cook him a new recipe He likes 80s movies? - Take him to a film festival or do a movie evening Still tell him you love him, words are worth a lot but if you see he has trouble to trust you, show your love. If you stay by his side and support him he will notice.

If I was in the same situation, rather than telling him this I'd show him through actions. Sometimes words are not enough to satisfy and there are many other ways to show your true feelings towards someone. Maybe your father is insecure and is seeking for extra reassurance, sometimes all someone needs to feel better is acknowledgement and to know that they are not alone. It's helpful to tell someone who thinks you hate them that you don't, but if the feeling lingers I'd try other possible ways and see how it goes from there. Hope for the absolute best.

Try to bond more with your father. It is important to try to see each other more find a reason to see him. Try to make him feel that he means to you alot. Take him out for a walk and keep talking about anything makes you both happy. Or about the issue that is making the trouble. With some activities and bonding some how it might work. You have to keep on trying.. sometimes things in life happens fpr a reason but we have to always try to know whtat going on amd reasons behind it and i hope all will be fine.

In healthy communication in relationships, we are only responsible for our 50% of the communication. If you have communicated your needs and feelings in a healthy way, but your father continues to accuse or project onto you, then perhaps one option is to evaluate other reasons for his behavior, including emotional manipulation. In any event, it is not your responsibility to take on his guilt or take care of his emotions for him.

You do you. And in doing so you free him to choose whether or not he wants to do him. See it’s like a garden. You have in your life a garden that you’re tending. Your dreams, goals, hopes. That’s a lot of work, right? You have NO time for anyone else, right? Everyone else has their own garden. It’s equal. Now you can go into someone else’s garden and do the work for them...plant all the seeds of forgiveness and success and care for it like your life depends on it and hope they do the same for you. Only...chances of someone appreciating that and understanding, loving and respecting what you’re doing are not very high to be honest because if you’re going around acting like a doormat and a sucker then people are going to treat you like one. The principles behind why you’re doing what you’re doing are crooked and based on dependency. You could be growing those things in your own garden. While you’re over weeding someone else’s garden, yours is going to seed, being raided by mean teenagers and falling into neglect. This is your mental health. Your physical health. Your spiritual health going to seed. YOU DON’T WANT THAT RIGHT?! So if you’re tending your garden and succeeding and someone, including your father, looks over and sees how much you’re growing, how you’re succeeding, how you’ve found health, wealth and happiness by investing in yourself, they may be inspired to ask how you’re doing that and you can share what you know if they’re genuinely curious. Or, they will see your success and choose to turn their back on everyone and everything, choose to be consumed by pity and immaturity and pettiness, try and drag you down, at which point you have a choice on whether or not you want to let them drag you down. When you have your life working for you, don’t chase after people who are just growing weeds. They won’t appreciate it or change if you aren’t walking the walk because of the principle of the thing. Don't do anything or give anything to someone who wouldn’t or doesn’t or won’t do the same for you. Don’t be a doormat. Don’t be a slave. No matter how much someone whines and cries and has an adult temper tantrum, YOU DON’T OWE THEM BECAUSE THEY DON’T OWN YOU. You. Don’t. Owe. Them. Because. They. DON’T. OWN. YOU. Focus on you. Become the best you can be. Find a going concern that’s got a brand and add value to that. Eat more whole, plant based food. Appreciate and enjoy the simple things in life. That’s YOUR journey. That’s YOUR garden. Dependence is not your journey. Independently and interdependently creating the life of your dream to add value to others in a principled manner IS. Maybe you can see how difficult it could be to overcome limiting thoughts and beliefs passed on from your family or society or your boss or whoever told you lies to justify their own reasons for not having their breakthrough. That’s just more things to tend to in your garden. Weeds to pull. Seeds to plant. Maybe it sounds impossible. Well! It sounds better then pandering to some adult child, right?

I'm sorry that this is happening... ♡ Maybe trying to show him by surprising him or doing things for him... I know it's not easy, but you've got this. Try to show him by your actions that you love him. Try to do everything he asked you too.

If your father still thinks you hate him after being told otherwise, then it is best to let him have his own thoughts. You are not responsible for changing other people's idea's and thoughts, it is solely their responsibility for how they feel and think.

It’s the little things that count. Spend quality time with your father and make an effort. Relationships aren’t repaired overnight.

Sometimes words are not enough for people, try to show it to him through actions. They can be samll such as sending him a good morning text, or bigger by preparing dinner or spending time with him. People can need reassurement that they aren't bad, we all make mistakes but we amend them.

Show it to him. Take care for him. He has has done so many things for you. It is time for you to show, don't just tell him. Appreciate his small petty things. Be thankful to everything he does for you and every single thing he did for you. Spend more time with him. Celebrate small things in life with him. I know you love him but show him. He deserves this!

You are the expert on you. I know it's hard, there was a time in life I thought a family member of mine did too, and getting the message across to that family member effectively varies per person.

Many people's insecurities come from their own. I would recommend sitting down with him and possibly a trained professional and trying to work this issue out

Offer to go somewhere with him or do something with him. Until you show that you don’t hate him, he’ll never know

I believe in exertion . Telling him is just a talk .Exert to show him how much love you have for your father

Tell him again! Some people need to be told things twice :) Yes bad joke i know but it's true. Tell him again. A nice thing you hear can be just disregardet as "politeness" or "a formality" but if you tell him often I think it will work. Adding nice kind deeps whould surely help too.

Try to do something that make your father realize that you loves him. Because action speaks louder than words.

You may show him in deed. Help him out, hug him sometimes. And then tell him again that you don't hate him. Maybe if you can put the love word in the sentence it'll make him know.

Give him space and don't try to push it. Show that you love him through actions , not from just words. Sometimes it's easy to tell but not easy to do it for real. Hence it's good if you give him some time to digest the situation and let him forget about it while you do subtle things which makes him feel that you meant what you said. We tend to take our family for granted and it hurts sometimes and as father is old will take time to come back. More than the words, action speaks so please make an effort to show it from your actions.

Do small things small gestures of caring and love like buying him some small and thoughtful gifts or just saying I love you as often as you can or sit down and have a calm chat with him about it and explain that you are doing the most you can to make him realize that you love him but he isn't realizing and there is no more that you can do and just secure the fact that you love him because sometimes parents have doubts too and that's ok sometimes people are just in need of some reassurance

Why do you think your father thinks you hate him? It sounds like you do love him and want him to know that. Do you think there is a way to show him you love him instead of just saying it? Is there something both of you enjoy doing together? Could you ask him for his help or advice? Do you think if he feels you need and respect him he’ll understand that you do love him? I’d love to know if your plans help and if not I’m always here to talk and maybe between us we can come up with a new plan. I think it’s wonderful that you love him enough to ask for help. I look forward to hearing from you.