What do I do if my father thinks I hate him even after I told him I don't?

Start taking care of him like he used to as a kid. Remind him of things he used to do for you by doing some for him. Gifts lots of love affection care and appreciation will make a difference. Don't give up on your parents as they never give up on you. It's easy to say it was their job but it's our job aswell to take care of them when they are old and weak. Lots of love and care and respect will make a difference. Please love your parents as when they are not with you anymore you will know their worth. Before it's too late make them realise you love them by doing small small things for them.

Peoples' feelings are dependent on factors in their own hearts and souls... they have a choice in how they react to each situation. You very well may love your Father, but in his heart your acts of love may come across as attacks against his character. Oftentimes men feel out of control... prideful.... even powerless. If a man like this feels in the least bit attacked, he may tend to make himself a victim to rectify why he feels that way. What he must do is look at himself honestly and submit himself to God, and ask his maker what needs to change. What you should do is continue Loving him well. I hope this helps.

Most of the time we win people's trust through actions, it may take time for some people to be convinced what you're telling them is true if they are struggling with doubt, guilt, or anxiety or other reasons. If you're consistent with showing him you don't hate him, he may finally accept it. Try to understand where he's coming from, have you tried discussing this matter to him in an amicable way? Communication and understanding is key, if you show him you're willing to listen and understand him, that you care about this matter, he may feel more relaxed about it, it's possible he wants assurance, our parents are not perfect too, they can feel insecure about their parenting, they may feel they're not good enough, that their child/ children may hate them for it. We can give assurance for the people we care about by being consistent with our actions, sometimes it's the only way to prove we mean what we say.

Firstly ask him to spare his time to sit and talk with you. Talk to him freely and explain that you love him. Talk calmly. Let him know that you love him. Other than that, show your love in the simplest way possible. For instance, always hug him and greet him "Good Morning", make him breakfast, and spend quality time with him. Always let him know that you are grateful to have him as your father. Be close with him. Share your problems or talk about your day to him to let him know that you trust him to share your highs and lows with him.

Showing kindness to others can often go further than words. As much as you've meant the reassurance you've told him, show him love and compassion through actions as well. However it is also important to ensure that the environment is a healthy and positive one for you. So while you show compassion and kindness to your dad be sure that you are not being too overwhelmed by the situation. Do as much as you can. These feelings of doubt your dad is currently feeling will hopefully be resolved when he sees and feels your love through your actions. Lead with love and watch it light the way for others.

When I think people are thinking negatively about me, I realize that it's usually more of a reflection of how I'm feeling about myself and I'm only projecting it onto the people around me. I can't speak on your specific situation but if it were me, I would maintain compassion and assure him that you're there for him when he needs you. Letting someone know and continuously reminding them that you're there for them (no matter how tiring it can be) the thoughts that he has that you hate him will be harder and harder for him to believe.

Sometimes people need to be shown rather than told. What activities can you do with him to make him feel comfortable with you? Additionally, some people need to be told things multiple times. Maybe you can go with a two prong approach by showing him and telling him that you do not hate him. What are some activities that he enjoys doing? Is there a meal you two can prepare together for nostalgia? Try to go back to a time when he didn’t have this belief. It must be hard for someone to have an idea about you in their head that doesn’t align with your truth.

Have a heart-to-heart with him. Spend some quality time with him. Try and resolve the misunderstandings. If there is nothing left to say then let your actions live up to what you have told him. He may mean the world to you. You may love him a lot and you may have told him so a number of times. But that doesn't matter here. What matters is what you are doing about it. Show him how much you love and care about him. Don't just try to make a point, try to prove yourself to him. Even if it takes going out of your way, try to make it obvious through your actions how much value he holds in your life. Hope both of you reconcile soon. Best regards, Melody :)

There are a couple possibilities I can think of here: 1) Your father seems to already have his preconceived notion set- that you hate him- and this will most likely not change in the short term regardless of what you do or say. OR 2) He knows you do not hate him but you've misunderstood it to be so. If 1 is the case, it may take some time but it is possible for this to change- you could try to slowly change his opinion by verbally affirming you care about him or through small actions or gestures. If 2 is a possibility or you suspect there is a deeper problem that may explain his belief, maybe try sitting down and having a long talk with him to figure his reasoning out and explain your perspective and feelings to him as well.

Fathers are human too. They might feel left out and unwanted especially that their child is already an adult and have a life. Let your father feel that you don't hate him. Try to talk to him and spend some time with him. You can also try to send him a gift or a card to show you care about him. The gift doesn't need to be expensive. It is an act that you think about him also. Calling and checking on him once in a while would show that you care and love him. Your father might feel lonely at times and you can show that you can be there for him just like when he was there for you when you were a child.

Writing a letter is often a really good way of getting your message across. make sure you write out your thoughts clearly and try not to over complicate things. Keep your letter close to the core message behind it, maybe talk about fond memories you have with him or how he makes you feel. Many men myself included find it very hard to process information when given directly and will deflect or simply not acknowledge it. A written letter means he can sit and read it in his own time and then think about how he feels before needing to respond to you

Little acts of love goes a long way. Get him a glass of water, make some breakfast for him, ask about his day. Even if you tell him that you don't, he may not see it as you don't show it. Now you may not be a person to show your emotions much but others depend on seeing something to believe it. So if you really want to make your father believe you don't hate him, you need to act on it and show him that you care about him. It may be a bit awkward at first but practice makes perfect :)

You cannot control how other people think or feel, but you can control how you act. If he does not believe what you are telling him, that is not your fault. You can act towards him with compassion and patience. I was in a similar situation and what helped me was taking the time to talk to him, do things with him, and share my experiences. Being open with my father slowly changed his mind about our relationship. You have to accept that the situation is somewhat out of control, while also doing what you can to be empathetic and kind. There's no surefire cure, but there are small changes you can implement.

Effective communication and openness is always the right choice to avoid misunderstandings and negative emotions. Talk to him openly about everything and listen to him with acceptance. With unconditional positive regard, everything will be constructive and clear. Ask him why does he think that you hate him. Listen without the drive to answer, judge or evaluate. Give him the chance to express himself with no restrains. Accept what he shared with no judgements. Everyone perceives with his own point of view, so try to out yourself in his shoes. We can always turn a negative experience into constructive one.

Well, find out why he thinks that and then work on it. And explain things. Because a father should not think that ...hate is a strong word. 😊 Remember actions speak louder than words so just express ur love .Spend some time with him ,give him gifts nd make cards nd tell him how much u love him nd he means a lot. 🤍 I hope ur relation gets better . Try going on trips and just try to enjoy it all . It's gonna be alright okaii . You both just need to spend some time together nd clear misunderstandings🤍

Try and spend more time with your father. Perhaps try and take a walk with him or help him out around the house, or other aspects of daily life. If he does not agree with this, try and make an effort to talk to him every day about anything at all even if it is the most trivial of things (such as "Wow the weather is nice today, don't you think dad?) As long as you put in effort to interact with him, his opinion that you hate him will gradually change and he will be more likely to believe you when you tell him you love him!

You have told him that you do not hate him and he continues to believe that you do? Have you asked him why he feels this way, is there something that is happening that makes him believe this, talking it out could help to identify any misunderstandings? If this does not work, at the end of the day it is important to remember that we are only responsible for ourselves and our own actions. You can continue to tell and show him that yuo do not hate him, what he chooses to belive is his responsibility once you have communicated your true feelings.

YOU CAN SHOW HIM IN TIME MAYBE ITS HARD FOR HIM BELIEVE YOU BUT YOU CAN PROOVE TO HIM IN TIME THAT YOU LOVE HIM EVERY SMALL ACTION WILL SHOW HIM HOW MUCH YOU REALLY LOVE HIM..SMALL GESTURES OF FATHERLY LOVE CAN BE FELT BETWEEN FATHER AND CHILD.ALWAYS TREAT HIM WITH RESPECT LOVE AND KINDNESS AS YOU BEEN DOING SOON YOUR FATHER WILL SEE HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM AND YOU NEVER STOPPED LOVING HIM.HE WILL COME AROUND FOR SURE HE LOVES YOU JUST AS YOU LOVE HIM WHY DO YOU THINK HE FEELS THAT WAY ?MAYBE HE JUST WANTS URE REASSURANCE AS PARENTS DO LOVE HEAR HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM

You must be really upset that your father thinks you dislike him. Maybe you can try expressing your love toward your father through some daily behaviors, which might be more helpful than simply telling him you love him. Like bring him a cup of coffee, write him a letter on his birthday, cook for him, etc. Or you can have a drink with your father and start a deep heart-to-heart conversation with him, talk to him about your feelings. How do you feel about him? How did his thoughts affect your emotions? I believe that truth and genuine is the solution to most family relationship conflicts.

You need to have a heart-to-heart with your Dad to find out exactly why he feels this way. Did you have an outburst and said things to him that made him feel that you hated him. Was it something in the past that you thought wasn't a big deal, but he did. Maybe you have forgotten about it. Parents deep down always care for their children, no matter how they act towards them, or how their children act toward them. One day when you become a parent, you will know what I mean. Have a chat and ask him directly about what is on his mind.

Do not just tell him you don't hate him. Show it by your actions, by the way you treat him, and by making him feel that you valued him. As a daughter I myself sometimes failed to make him feel that i valued him. Actions speaks louder, that's a famous saying that means a lot. Sometimes it's better to express your care and love through actions because they will fully appreciate it since you made an effort in making them feel loved and valued. There are person who are vocal and choose to show it through words but some people want to see it, not just hear it.

I don't really know the complexities of the situation or the relationship between you and your father. A few pointers which might help- 1. Talk to him about why he thinks you hate him. 2. Spend time with him, schedule your time with him (if that works). You both can do something together, shared interests/hobbies or simply gossiping! 3. Communicate your expectations with him. How can he become a better father/ what would you like for him to do for you? 4. Visit a counsellor to identify strained areas of your relationship with your father. 5. And lastly, patience. Being patiently working on your relationship can go a long way. These are general pointers that are personally tried and tested. I hope they work well in your case too. Love & Good vibes :)

You do you. And in doing so you free him to choose whether or not he wants to do him. See it’s like a garden. You have in your life a garden that you’re tending. Your dreams, goals, hopes. That’s a lot of work, right? You have NO time for anyone else, right? Everyone else has their own garden. It’s equal. Now you can go into someone else’s garden and do the work for them...plant all the seeds of forgiveness and success and care for it like your life depends on it and hope they do the same for you. Only...chances of someone appreciating that and understanding, loving and respecting what you’re doing are not very high to be honest because if you’re going around acting like a doormat and a sucker then people are going to treat you like one. The principles behind why you’re doing what you’re doing are crooked and based on dependency. You could be growing those things in your own garden. While you’re over weeding someone else’s garden, yours is going to seed, being raided by mean teenagers and falling into neglect. This is your mental health. Your physical health. Your spiritual health going to seed. YOU DON’T WANT THAT RIGHT?! So if you’re tending your garden and succeeding and someone, including your father, looks over and sees how much you’re growing, how you’re succeeding, how you’ve found health, wealth and happiness by investing in yourself, they may be inspired to ask how you’re doing that and you can share what you know if they’re genuinely curious. Or, they will see your success and choose to turn their back on everyone and everything, choose to be consumed by pity and immaturity and pettiness, try and drag you down, at which point you have a choice on whether or not you want to let them drag you down. When you have your life working for you, don’t chase after people who are just growing weeds. They won’t appreciate it or change if you aren’t walking the walk because of the principle of the thing. Don't do anything or give anything to someone who wouldn’t or doesn’t or won’t do the same for you. Don’t be a doormat. Don’t be a slave. No matter how much someone whines and cries and has an adult temper tantrum, YOU DON’T OWE THEM BECAUSE THEY DON’T OWN YOU. You. Don’t. Owe. Them. Because. They. DON’T. OWN. YOU. Focus on you. Become the best you can be. Find a going concern that’s got a brand and add value to that. Eat more whole, plant based food. Appreciate and enjoy the simple things in life. That’s YOUR journey. That’s YOUR garden. Dependence is not your journey. Independently and interdependently creating the life of your dream to add value to others in a principled manner IS. Maybe you can see how difficult it could be to overcome limiting thoughts and beliefs passed on from your family or society or your boss or whoever told you lies to justify their own reasons for not having their breakthrough. That’s just more things to tend to in your garden. Weeds to pull. Seeds to plant. Maybe it sounds impossible. Well! It sounds better then pandering to some adult child, right?