What do I do if my father thinks I hate him even after I told him I don't?

People often show their feelings in different ways. Some might put a lot of weight in words while others look more at actions. Your father may be the latter, and showing him that you don't hate him may be more convincing and affirming for him. I know for people in my family, we have a hard time expressing our feelings in words so we resort to actions to show our feelings. If someone is mad at another person, but they've forgiven them, they might approach the person with a hug or even a bowl of fruit, as funny as it sounds.

From this question, i think it is a clear case of pure misunderstanding and in the same you have to put some extra efforts of bestowing love on your father. To show him how much you care for him. As we know actions always speak better as well as louder than voice, so there is nothing kept to tell him again and again that you don't hate him instead of that start showing your love towards him. Surely, i think That is the only way to change your father's mind towards you, because in this world we value what we see

Actions speak louder than words. Don't just say it but show it. Love isn't told but felt. Help him see how much you care about him, how much you respect him. Make him feel loved and respected. Have a chat with him on a daily basis. Talk to him about anything and everything. Try getting a hobby together, cycling, running, solving crosswords. Do something together- just the two of you. Spend time together. Ask him his favorite movies, discuss those movies, watch new movies together. Tell him about your day. Ask him about his. All these little things will automatically tell him that he is loved and respected by his child.

maybe give him a little more time to accept your feelings. while you have told him you do care for him, to reinforce this belief, maybe you could find more direct ways to show him as well. little acts that help him see that you do mean what you say. overall, it is important to remember to give him time and space to accept your love. the progress might be slow with him, but a step ahead nonetheless. it is also important for you to remember that his reluctance does in no way reflect you. clarifying his misbelief was a great first step. and now you and I can work to discuss more ways in which you can help him believe that you actually care for him. would you maybe like to start by pondering why you feel he may think so?

A lot of the time people in our life don't necessarily change their minds because of words from one day to the next and it is important to show our intentions towards them on everyday actions. Maybe a good way to address this rift with your father would be to talk to him more often or normally so that he realizes that you truly don't hate him little by little. At the end of the day it all comes back to building the trust between you step by step, action by action, and day by day until finally he understands what he means to you.

I would recommend spending time with your father a little more to show him love and respect. If you don’t live close, make sure you give him a call once a week and maybe a text message during the week! If you show that parent respect that speaks louder than anything but also respect is earned. Also, always remember his birthday, Father’s Day, and any other day that is special to him. Remember, it may be your father also has some mental issues but it also could be his past that makes him feel this way. His parents may have never really showed him love and he has these feelings.

Dads can feel like this sometimes. Try to think about why he could feel this way. Put yourself in his shoes and think about what he could be seeing that you aren't. It could have nothing to do with you, it could be something at work or something else. If you haven't already, try to have an honest conversation with him, and instead of telling him you don't hate him, ask him why he thinks you do. There is always a reason for this sort of thing. Maybe you're doing something you're unaware of, maybe he is misunderstanding something, maybe it is something else. It's just good to understand what he's thinking.

From time to time, we can feel as if we are responsible for others and can change their beliefs and thoughts, In your case you have tried to explain to your father that you don't hate him. It might be good to bear in mind that the only thing we can control is ourselves and our own actions. In your case, you've been able to control the fact you explained to him that you don't hate him, but you can't control the fact that he may not believe you. The most you can do is in this situation is think about your own actions and what you are in control of in this situation. Perhaps have a think about what you could ask your father about his own thoughts and emotions and perhaps why he feels this way. I do hope you're able to come to terms and find something that works for the both of you.

We can't make people believe what they don't want to believe, but knowing the truth yourself is all that matters, you tell your dad you love him and if he doesn't believe you then it's okay, because YOU know you love him. My grandmother was the same way, she always told me that she didn't think I loved it appreciated her and I always tried to prove myself to her and make her believe me but then I realized that if she doesn't believe me it doesn't .after because I know that I love her, and I know that she loves me too.

People relate to, and understand others in different ways, if you've used words to communicate your feelings and that has not worked, try to communicate through actions. If your father has believed for a long time that you hate him, even if this is not the case, it may take time for him to come around, as that has been his reality for so long. Lastly and most importantly, I would say be kind to yourself. Your question shows you care about your relationship with your father and his feelings. You're doing your best! How people feel is not in our control. Good luck.

Not that the words always can help. You need to understand why he still feels that way. Reflect on your actions and see whether your actions speak the same as your words. Good to understand what made him feel in the first place. So did you speak to your father and try to drill down to see why he feels that way? It also could be something that bothers him so much and feels you hate him due to that reason. He himself will open up if you have an honest conversation with him. Finding the root cause is important in order to figure out sustainable solutions.

Meta-communication is the key to making your point. Try to demonstrate it everyday through your actions. Engage in small kind and caring acts. Help him out when you know he needs help but isn't asking for it. It shows that you care. He may not always be receptive of it so be cautious when you do that. It is possible that he may show some resistance in the beginning but with time, when he sees your persistence and effort, he will give in and reciprocate. Till then, warmth, understanding, empathy and patience are the way to go. Just hang in there and keep trying!

The most important thing is how you feel. That you know you love him. His personal feelings are all on him, and having nothing to do with you. Trust yourself and know that you're loved by so many people. Being there for somebody is a wonderful way to show how much you care.....so you can be there for him, reassure him, and show him that he is loved, but just make sure you're taking care of yourself in the process, as it can be quite mentally exhausting trying to care for someone else's emotions. As I stated before, the most important thing to remember is.....you know how you truly feel, and that matters so so much.

You may if possible try to have a conversation with him. Instead of why ask What makes him feel that way? Encourage him to open up and tell how he experiences the relationship between the two of you. Let him know you are not there to argue and try to honour that. Keep in mind that even if he says something that sounds wrong to you not to argue. Understand these are his experiences and experience is based mostly on emotions so that doesn't make your experience wrong even if he is different. Once he opens up and has said all he has to say, you will have a better idea of how he has been experiencing things. Acknowledge that you understand how he is feeling, and spend a little time trying to put yourself in his shoes where you might feel that way. Let him know that though you understand his feelings it is very important to you that he understands you do not hate him, and ask him if it's okay to share your experiences. Try not to argue while giving your version just tell him how you have seen and felt and feel now. Good luck!

According to pscychology today, What is good parenting. A large part of good parenting involves avoiding behaviors that can damage your child. It’s a psychological truism that “bad is stronger than good,” meaning that negative events have a much more significant impact on humans than good ones. For this, we can thank evolution. To increase the odds of survival, the hardiest of our forebears were much more reactive to bad things and committed them to memory faster and more completely than good or benign ones. It’s still true of us, all these millennia later. Talking to him and showing love through hugs and kisses may help.

First of all, try to think of why does your father thinks you hate him in the first place. Was there an argument with him and you haven't reconcile yet? Or was there some incident that could lead to him thinking you hate him? Next step is how do you approach him when you try to tell him that you don't hate him. Did you approach him in a way that make you look less serious? Normally, how do you have a serious conversation with him? After thinking of all the above situation, try to ask you father to have a face to face with him for serious talk. Then tell him sincerely what you feel about him. I'm sure your sincerity will reach his heart. Sincerely, supporting you for improving your relationship with your father.

It can take quite some time for us to overcome feelings of insecurity, but it is never impossible. I suggest spending more time with him, listening to him, and paying a bit more attention to him. Take it step by step and get to know each other better! For example, start by arranging meet-ups together with him based on your schedule, taking him out for lunch, discussing your days with each other, etc. Sometimes we need a bit more love and attention in all of our relationships, and that's okay! With care and patience, your relationship and understanding of each other will surely develop! Good luck!

Actions speak louder than words! Show him you love him instead of telling him. It's the little things that matter, too. Maybe offer to help him get to work or surprise him with breakfast one morning. Whatever you do, show that you care. Reflect too! What do you think might have led him to think the way he does? Is he an overthinker? Could you possibly have walked past him without saying hello one too many times? It's hard to solve a problem without acknowledging it at its full extent first. Either way, good luck! I hope your relationship with your father improves.

I would try and work out what it is that makes him think that way about me. See if you can help him to identify his worries or fears leading to this assumption: You told him already that you don't hate him, so what makes him still think that way? Maybe it's some event from the past that he'd need clarification about. It might be best though to have someone else be there who can support the conversation, either a mutual friend or family member or even a professional mediator in case that's something both you and your father would feel comfortable with.

Your situation seems pretty stressful. Personally, I have been in a similar situation with my own father. I know it seems difficult, especially when the accusations seem wrongly based and even confusing. While I do not personally know your situation, I know that for me it did get better after putting in different efforts. Why do you think that the situation got to this level? Also, if you had a friend in a similar situation to you, how would you advise them based on your own situation. I cannot give you personal advice, but I have hope that your situation can get better!

Maybe try speaking to him about why he may be thinking you hate him in the first place and it sounds like he has caused you somethings in the past and he thinks you hate him for it. I will also suggest that you do something for him so he knows you really do care about him and your not just saying it

well, i think the best you can do is show him that you care, small gestures and clear actions of love and appreciation go a long way :) for instance, checking on him when he may not be doing the best, nifty gifties here and there, any sort of small communication, or big things too, can help as well ! if you've told him once, you can always tell him again- and most importantly, just keep trying- it's good to let him know that you care, and your determination will go a long way. i wish you good luck !

First of all, I would try to find why my father would think that I hate him ? A conversation in needed to find that which would be the first step. If I am able to find out the reason I would give myself to understand the cause of the problem. Also the fact that my father is not believing me is another issue that needs to be addressed. Would like to know what is the reason for this disbelief. After finding out these answers specifically, I would set up a time as per convenience to have a conversation to split up entire matter and take one thing at a time to go over the entire issue, until a conclusion is reached.

It can be hard to express yourself to someone, but they do not believe you. You have to try not to blame yourself for your father thinking that you hate him. It really sounds like it is essential to you that your father stops thinking that you hate him. However, what other way do you think you can explore to make him stop thinking you hate him? Or which other way do you think you can show him that you do not hate him. Finally, why do you think your father thinks that you hate him even after you have told him that you do not?

I will try to make him happy by doing things he likes without making a big deal about it and try to keep him from worrying from my side. If sometimes we get to have a talk I will sympathy him and try yo convince him that I don't hate him. It is important to make him feel supportive from my side. If we don't get a talk then I'd try to help him out in different chores or do somethings in his place like getting water or dropping sister to school etc. Even if I can't say it in words I will try to say it with my actions that I don't hate him.

There are many ways to make someone feel love, but usually the way at which you show them has to be in a way that they’re comfortable with, their own “love” language. Everyone has a way at which they like to be treated, and sometimes words aren’t very impactful, so you actually have to show them through action. Example, if you know that taking care of him and watching over him is what makes him feel loved, then go right ahead and do that. Another example, if you know that he simply likes to be checked up on, even a simple text to check on him or remind him you’re there could suffice (:

I will ask him questions why he believes I hate him. Also, I will discuss with him about things he thinks I can improve. In relationship with our loved one's communication is always important. It is always good to improve relationship with people. When people are important for us, we have to work on ourselves and make sure that we don't destroy our relationship with people close to us. As a christian, I believe it is important to pray for people, and always seek God and speak life to our relationships in order to have strong relationship

Try and show him you care so that he understands you don’t hate him and tell him how you truly feel explain and express yourself to give him a better understanding and try and find out why he’s feels that you don’t like him so that the problem can be fixed and also so that he can stop feeling as if you don’t don’t care about him and when you tell him you don’t hate him he will believe you and not feel as though you do because he will be then had a better understanding from you having express

You've probably heard the cliche saying that "actions speak louder than words." Sometimes, when we do something that hurts another person and makes them think we hate them, the best way to make it better is by apologizing, and then behaving in ways that prove our apology is sincere. It's the same thing in the other direction. We might tell someone we love them, but if we continuously act in ways that are unloving (e.g. ignoring them, saying mean things to them), they it's unlikely that they'll believe we truly love them. In your case, your father thinks you hate him. What do you want him to think you feel towards him? If, instead of hate, you want him to think that you love him, show him love in your actions (e.g., making time for long conversations with him, dropping off some homemade cookies, inviting him over for dinner). If you want him to think that you're indifferent towards him, be polite and keep your boundaries firm. It might be helpful to explain to him why you've set your boundaries and why it's important to you that they be maintained, so that he can see where you're coming from. Our words only do so much. Actions can send a much stronger message.

The only thing you can do is try your best to make sure your actions match your words. Unfortunately, your father has to come to the conclusion you don't hate him on his own because for some reason your reassurance doesn't feel like enough proof. Always remember that it's more of an issue he's having with himself, not so much with you. He may feel guilty or worried about your relationship and is looking for you to tell him you still care, but because he's not working on the root of his insecurities, it doesn't ease any of his worries. It may feel like your responsibility to fix but at the end of the day, as long as you're being kind and loving (if that's what you want to do) then there's not much else to do besides providing that reassurance. Hopefully this will be over soon