Is it normal to not want to get better?

resistance to healing is a normal reaction for those who had spent considerable time in dark places. Sometimes in life more often than we would like, we go through pain that we arent prepared for we dwell in these dark places far longer than intended. Ironically drawing comfort from familiarity with heartbreaks n sufferings within the darkness. Solitude can bring peace n relief from aggressive fights, and further pressures of life. Hence inertia to this state of being is normal. Many depressed people have grown accustomed to the feelings and seeming tranquilities of this hopeless state. This however is dangerous and we need to manifest greater control in every area of our lives.We need to put on new lenses and see our mental illnesses as life-changing turning points where we grow and metamorphosize into someone better, stronger n more resilient.

There are many people who do not think about getting better and are content where they are. They are inert in their life because it is easy. While it is normal to stay the same, it may not be the best for you and your loved ones. One thing that drives people greatly is the desire for connection. Often finding a connection and maintaining it requires improvement, so in order to keep that fulfillment, change and growth should be celebrated and normalized. Improvement should be normalized because no one is perfect and even if you are the systems and society still is not and would benefit from learning and improving.

Yes. We all know, logically, that working on getting better, is actually better. My therapist said that it's completely normal to not want to get better because it's easier (and in a way, more comfortable) to just stay the same. Change (therapy, lifestyle change, diet, exercise, medication, etc) can be hard, overwhelming, and scary. It's okay to feel like you don't want to get better, but you know that getting better is better for you. It's okay to be nervous about change. It's okay to dislike the process. It's going to be hard at times, but it's going to be okay, and you're going to grow in the process. It's okay to have setbacks on your journey to getting better. If you are still unsure about wanting to change, make a list of pros and cons of getting better, talk to people you are close with, meditate. Ultimately, you are the only one who can choose if you want to get better or not.

Yes, especially if you are depressed. Your sense of self worth may be particularly low and you might even question if pushing to get better will amount to anything worthwhile. Because why should I, as a person without worth, be better? Why does it even matter? And is it worth all the pain of trying to better myself? It is totally normal to ask yourself these questions, but it is very important to not be convinced by your depressive thoughts. To see yourself as a person that CAN and SHOULD try to get better, in order to get as much as you can out of this very short time we have in the world. Trying to get better is always worth it!

Yes. People focus to not change themselves of not wanting to get better, with the fact that they feel they will transform worse. People focus more on the consequences than the actual positive outcome. To be honest, it's human nature that makes it feel not to change themselves. They have the fear of people not wanting them because of the change they inhabit and the fear of people leaving and loneliness grasping them. Especially in those people who have already suffered to feel of isolation and loneliness have a far of changing themselves, because they think its their better version of themselves already. So I think it's normal not wanting to get better, but we shouldn't stop trying too!

This is a completely normal feeling to have. Getting better means taking proactive actions and getting out of your comfort zone. And it is always challenging to force yourself out of a comfort zone, even if your comfort zone does not feel so "comfortable" after all. Getting better takes a lot of energy, and willpower. It is easier to do nothing and stay where you are. It is easier not taking steps towards getting better, being afraid and anxious that whatever you do may not work. Therefore, sometimes do not want to get better. Or, to be precise, we want to feel better, we just find it difficult to take any steps towards feeling better. But the first step is always the hardest one. And the most important one.

This is an interesting question and I can understand why you might feel that way. I had a friend who struggled mentally and felt low everyday. He would feel as though it was easier to not get better. But thats because it can be a lot of work to get through something. It can seem impossible at times to think things can get better, especially if you go through tough situations and have had bad experiences over and over. I do believe deep down, our mind and heart wants to get better, but its believing we can and having positive people around us for support.

It's completely normal to feel like you don't want to change the situation you're in, even if it's not a great one. It has happened to me before to feel emotionally attached to the sadness i feel, and i didn't know why.. but now looking at it, a person in a low time may wanna stick to the low because it's safe place as they may conceive happiness as temporary. but we should always remember that happiness, sadness, and all the feelings in the world are temporarily and won't last forever. So embrace what you're feeling whether it's good or bad because it will change one day and you'll move on.

Yes I think that at some point you get tired of trying and not seeing improvement and just seeing things get worse and at some point, you put your all into getting better and it doesn't go anywhere but I think you just have to remember that there are stages to everything that you don't have to put every dime you have into getting better you can focus on yourself and others but knowing that getting better takes time and maybe you don't see change but it's happening little by little and if you of even that 5% of the effort you could loose more than just yourselfé.

Yes, we do feel like that. We feel safe in whatever situation we are in and sometimes too afraid to try out something. We fear that what if instead of being a better version we end up worse. This fear is something which stops us from wanting to be better. Sometimes we will be too tired because of the effort we took so far. In such situations what I really would like to do is to reflect back. There will be atleast a small change (sometimes in the life of others) that happened because of our attempt to be a better person. There is never a pressure to be better. Being better is not to be considered as a competition item or something which we have to attain by a certain limit. It includes small day-to-day action which makes a small change. And we should take a break if we feel so overwhelmed. It's okay to stop trying sometimes taking a break doing what our heart tells us

Often, we get so used to our current mental state that the thought of healing scares us. We forget what it is like to be happy or healed, so becoming that is scary. That being said, it is normal to not want to get better. I used to be the same way. I was so used to being depressed and dependant on self-harm that healing scared me. People who are depressed also tend to think they do not deserve to get better. While it is normal to feel this way, I encourage you to seek help anyway. I promise the path to healing is worth it

Yes, that is normal, to some extent. You probably feel like that because you've been sad or hurt for so long that you're used to it by now, and may not believe that you CAN get better. However, if you're unwell, it's important to get treatment, almost especially if it's involving a mental illness. That being said, I would recommend seeking professional help from a psychologist or psychiatrist who can assist you with mental issues. Or, if you're not sure about counseling, then I would at least reach out to someone you trust and talk to them about how you feel.

It is human nature to resist change. It is normal to not want to change our state so in a sense, yes it is normal. It is human nature but it is definitely not healthy unless it the state we're in is something that is healthy emotionally and physically for us and has us content. Sometimes we're so used to pain that when we're suffering, even though it is bad, our mind wants to keep suffering simply because it is known. It is a state that we are very familiar with. This familiarity makes us not want to explore other options that are available to us. Adding that to a huge amount of work that is needed to help us get better, the mind chooses to suffer. This however can be changed. The process is hard but the path is simple. It is hard of course to put in the work to get ourselves up everyday and follow a routine/be disciplined enough to make our lives better, be it emotionally or physically but change happens as soon as we start. At first, it'll be hard but as we keep doing it over and over again, one day we'll find ourselves in a better place simply because we started.

Change can be hard and scary when you are used to things going a certain way, so yes. You feel safe even though you are not feeling as good as you should. Everyone are experiencing feelings differently and some might enjoy the thought of not getting better for many reasons and one of them are the changes. If you don’t want to get better yourself then it might be hard for others to know how to help you. Emotions can be hard to manage, but with the right attitude then almost everything is possible to get thourgh alone or not

It is common amongst those who do not have the resources to get better, but overall, it is not normal to not want to get better. Mental health and well-being is a priority for a healthy and happy life. Those who cannot see an issue with themselves may never seek treatment as they believe themselves to be normal at all times. Here is where self-reflection and personal accountability is important for proper functioning and improvement. When we can identify our own issues and faults, we have lowered our risk of health problems stemming from untreated mental health issues. Therefore, it is normal to want to get better.

It is. It's most likely because you feel like it takes too much effort, right? Not in a degrading sense, that is. If you are not feeling well, chances is that you might lack energy, lack motivation. This is completely normal to just want to give up on some days. I remember saying the exact same thing to my father. What helped me with this is do very little, insignificant things that would make me feel better slowly. They took almost no effort. My first 'goal' ever was to just brush my teeth. I even failed at that! but the best you can do is be easy on yourself, and progress very slowly, wihtout putting pressure on yourself!

I think that everyone wants to get better. The hard part is actually doing something to improve our situation. We may feel like we can't get better, and in that situation we must find a motivation, a reason why we should do our best to escape the tough situation we are in. Being stuck is difficult for sure, but we should fight to get better and there is hope. It feels like there is no way out and we can't escape the current situation/current problems, but we should do our best, start with little steps in the beginning and then keep going.

I think it's normal for us to choose comfort over growth, or comfort over healing. It's much easier and less risky if I watch a movie on the computer than if I were to go to the gym. It's easier (sometimes) to avoid talking to someone than to open yourself up to someone and risk being hurt. But I'd also like to think that there is balance in this: it's okay for us to take a break and rest, and it's also okay for us to take a chance at being uncomfortable. I think in the latter we grow as a person.

You might be feeling hopeless at the moment or not feeling as if you can see a positive future. You may also be feeling as if you don't know how to properly get better and may be feeling unsure of what to do or giving up. It's good for anyone to get better as it makes you feel a lot better but if you want to stay this way and not take care of your health it can be dangerous. If you feel as if you are under a lot of stress at the moment then it can be normal to not want to take care of your health as you are worrying about other things, but if you don't want to feel better in general then it might be because you just feeling hopeless right now.

I got asked this same question the other day and I think there are days that we just don't feel like ourselves. It's not that we do not want to get better but it's more of not having the drive for anything, like you know something's wrong and either you don't know what to do about it, or you don't have the energy to think about it. When the pandemic started, I also looked for things to do to make good use of time, however, after a couple of months, this drive wore out and I found myself doing a lot of negative self-talk. It does happens to anyone even the most kind-hearted but I'd say it takes another person to tap you and say, hey you are a doing good and you matter.

It can happen sometimes because you might get so comfortable in being the way you are that stepping out of your comfort zone seems to appear very challenging and something that requires a lot of effort. When you're not feeling okay, you also have little motivation to do anything. Hence you have no energy to get better either. Although it is normal for somebody to feel that way if they have been unwell for a very long time or even for some time for that matter, it is very important to gather up the courage and energy and try to move towards progress because unless you put in your own effort, the situation won't change.

It's probably more common than you think it is. Just almost nobody realizes or tells others because of fear of being judged. The cause of not wanting to get better is attention. When we first think about someone wanting attention, we think about that one girl in class that constantly lied and made drama. That's the extreme case and not what I am talking about. No, everybody needs attention in some way. By feeling miserable you do feel bad, but at the same time people start worrying or at least noticing you. So it's not a masochistic desire of wanting to feel bad, it's a call for help and love and attention. So the solution is clear, but not really easy. You need to get attention from someone, who will still love and care for you no matter how good or bad you might feel at the moment. Somebody is difficult to find, but possible. You don't need to do that now. Just let it sink in and think about what you've realised now. Try and accept it. It's okay. That'll take some time. And then we'll look for some solutions. But one step after the other.

Sometimes, we get used to the feeling of void and numbness that we become it. It might've been something you dreaded in the beginning, but its ends up being a part of you - which is alright and normal up to a point. But you shouldn't get used to it, The fact that you yourself recognize that there something so off with not wanting to get better is a start. You getting better would mean a lot for people who are around you (which you wont even realize). So you cannot give up. Pick yourself up. You can do this.

Yes, I definitely think not wanting to get better or being stuck in that mind-set is completely normal. In my own experience, it is based off of fear and discomfort. Getting better means you have to put in the work to heal and grow, and that is difficult. Going to therapy or following your treatment plan/goals is difficult. There is always rain before a rainbow. Your journey is not linear, it is up and down and it is a bumpy road but the starting the healing process is worth it

It's normal for your brain and body to problem-solve stress in ways that don't look like progress. Everyone's timeline for feeling strong and restored is different, but you can get there! It makes a difference when you find small, subtle steps that feel approachable on your incremental journey towards sustainable wellness. This can include all sorts of short-term and long-term internal and external resourcing. It could be quick ways to vent frustration or shake loose despair, wherever you are, or identifying who you feel comfortable reaching out to for communication in moments of crisis or just regular old exhaustion.

Yes! I have felt that way before, and for many reasons. I’ve felt that possibly I would be a bad person, or just not the same if I my mental illnesses went away. I’ve also thought that if they go away, life would be harder. They give me reasons to get out of things, and I felt really bad about feeling that way at the time. It’s completely normal, and with certain mental illnesses, it’s probably that at work! You shouldn’t feel bad about it, and it is completely normal, I’ve known other people who have had these thoughts too!

Absolutely. "Getting better" involves change (which many of us avoid), and more, can feel like becoming a different person. We feel like we know our past and present selves (though growing often involves learning more about who those people truly are). Our future self may feel like a stranger to us, with all the uncertainty that entails. "Getting better" is often about growing skills, more effectively managing patterns, reactions, and choices. Skill-focused growth can help us become more fully ourselves, less disrupted by unintended or involuntary interruption. It's normal to want to be who you are, and to want to be more fully who you are.

It is actually normal to not want to get better! First of all, your natural state has been one of unease and despair, and it's natural that you're comforted by this - it's what you've known for so long, and we stay in places we find familiar. Another reason you may wish to stay where you are might be the fear of relapsing after you're getting better; falling back into a dark hole once you're in the sun is definitely scary and frustrating, so wouldn't it be better to avoid the disappointment? Similarly, you may believe that you'll never be happy, no matter what you do, so why even attempt to get better? But through it all you have to remember that just like the rain always passes and the sun always comes out, so will your sadness pass and happiness emerge - if you allow it. At the same time you have to accept that nothing is permanent, and relapses are normal. Finally, you have to step outside of your comfort zone - because only after you leave this can you begin to grow :)

It's very normal. Your pain is what your brain is used to; As the human brain can be naturally resilient to change, it's natural that it would resist recovery because recovery would be a big change in your life. Not wanting to get better is an unhealthy thought process, of course, but it is normal and it doesn't make you a bad person and it doesn't invalidate your experiences. When I was struggling with self harm, I found that I'd miss it whenever I wasn't doing it. When the wounds healed up I felt annoyed that my arms were clear. It's a very hard mentality to break, but anything is achievable if you put your mind to it.

Yes, it is. When I first found out I had depression I didn’t want to get better. I think it was because I thought I didn’t deserve it. If you think you don’t then I want you to know that you do and no matter what happens you always deserve a second chance. It happens to a lot of people. I understand that you might be scared or maybe something happened and because of that you think you don’t deserve it but you do and always will. Don’t give up, the fight isn’t over yet! I believe in you and it’s okay if you take your time. You got this :)