Is it normal to not want to get better?

Yes. Familiarity, no matter how damaging, can be more comfortable than change, no matter how positive. Also, relationships are bound to change as you get better. Sometimes the threat of a relationship ending because of positive growth can make people fearful of continuing to make positive changes. But take heart! Getting better means that you will be in a better position to deal with any perceived negative or positive changes in your relationships (even the one with yourself). So, recognize the resistance to making positive changes and make them anyways. The one surefire way to make the world a better place is to be a better person in it.

After some time, we start to see our more unhealthy state as being normal and is something that we are used to. Any kind of change can be scary, especially when we're unsure of what comes next. It is completely normal to feel the way you do! But the important thing to do is to take a step forward anyways, no matter how small.

I would say that it's normal for many people not to want to change the things that are issues in their lives. I have noticed many people just want to find a quick fix to all of their problems, and they are not willing to do any long-term work on themselves to change their situation. In order to get better, I believe that anyone has to look at what is going wrong in their lives. I think many people are not willing to do this. Sometimes the idea of somebody having to look in the mirror and consider that maybe their actions are causing issues, they will just not do it. Maybe people want to get better, but I think it's normal for people to want to stick with their ways. But, like I said, if we stick to the things that keep us sick, we will NEVER get better.

There is no "normal." But the feeling of not wanting to get better comes from the comfort level one feels in a place that one is used to, simply from having spent so much time in that emotional place. For many of us, remaining how we are is much safer and more comfortable because it is familiar. Changing would mean leaving a comfort zone. The phrase "the devil you know" is a reference to the fact that it is easier to stick with an unpleasant circumstance that you already know than to change and take a chance on the unknown, even if it is likely to be better.

Sorry, but not it is not. Not wanting to get better means that you will turn worse, and It is not fair for yourself and your beloved ones. Not getting better means you are used to your current situiation and that is even worse cuz it tells that right now in your perspective you can not find a difference line between the good situiation and the bad one. I know seeking for help can be embarassing and hard and the beginning, and healing journey could be long, but it worth the Try and the effort. Think that you always deserve the better, you deserve healthy and succesful life, respectful and safe relationship, happy family, understanding friends. You deserve a high quality life. Fight for it.

Everything has cycles. We have times when we just want to relax and times where we are really active. These should be in a balance that is fine with you. I think permanent not-growing is impossible since life will always give you things to grow on, maybe you just dont realize. If that's the case think how you were with 5, 15 and 25 years. Did you change over the course of the years or not? If so, you became most likely a better version of yourself. Extreme lazyness can be an indicator that you didnt find your true goal in life. Maybe you just run around in circles because you haven't found your purpose. Life wants to show you that you need to change something, that is a function of boredom. On the other hand if you did find your purpose and enjoy doing it, I see no hard need to get better. If your emotions are joyful, happy and loving, why would you want to change anything? Try seeing that a lot of this "becoming better" also comes from society. I see growing as one of the biggest treasures we have in life. It is more or less my purpose and way. Especially by growing mentally you will improve your life easier than you thought. What used to be a problem is not one anymore just by changing your mindset. On a side note, there is no "normal". Everyone is individual, and you decide how to live your life ☼

Yes, it's normal to feel this way. Your feelings are perfectly valid. Sometimes, though, our feelings of "not wanting to get better" stem from fearing things "will never get better" no matter what we want. Sometimes it's easier to trick our minds into thinking we want all this negativity, so it feels like we're in control of the situation. Again, it's perfectly ok to feel this way. And you have every right to experience it for as long as you need to. Your emotions are the most natural part of life. They come and go like wind or rain. The most important thing to remember is that nothing is permanent. There are thousands of people waiting with open arms to catch you when you fall. If you're feeling down, if you feel like the bad things will never end, always remember help is a heartbeat away. All you have to do is ask.

It is normal, especially for an individual who has a mental illness. For example, having an eating disorder or an anxiety disorder like OCD, an individual may not want to get better as these disorders are familiar to them and make them feel safe and in control. All mental disorders can make an individual feel this way, because of the above or simply because you may be scared of what getting better means or involves. You may feel like you may not want to change the way things are going because of things happening at home or simply because of stigma in which is an extremely powerful thing. Sometimes talking to someone about how we are going and feeling doesn't necessarily mean getting better, it just means talking about what is happening to us.

I understand how it feels not wanting to get better because every second you spend in this 'place' makes it comfier and it just becomes your home if that makes any sense, but i want you to know that things can get better and feel better! You should be the change and allow yourself to at least try to be happy!! Doesn't it sound better being happy that forever staying in this darkl sad place? Next time you think about staying where you are at now, think about how much better it could be. Hope this helped at least somehow.

Sometimes people can feel “comfortable” with how they feel. I often describe feeling comfortable with being sad. You may not like change, and that’s okay. Not wanting to “get better”, can be very common, but it is not always the best thing. You should tell someone you trust about this feeling. What you are feeling is valid, and understandable. We all need to get better at some point, and change isn’t always a bad thing. Change can be amazing and wonderful, and it could change your life for the better, and for the good. I hope this helped you understand, and please, be kind to yourself.

yes! this is such a hard thing to grapple with, but in my experience and i'm sure the experience of many others struggling with their mental health, mental illness becomes a part of our identity. sometimes I struggle with feeling like I am nothing without my struggles with mental health, which can make it harder to recover. remember that you are wonderful and that whatever your struggles are, they do not define you. you are your own person, and we are not defined by our struggles, challenges, and hardships. good luck on your road to recovery! i'm rooting for you :)

It is absolutely normal to not want to get better! When I first became mentally unwell, I felt comforted by my illness - it gave me a sense of identity, as if it defined me and I would have nothing without it. I had this idea that I had to get worse before I could get better; until I reached rock bottom, I felt I could not be worthy of recovery. I've learnt a lot since then. I've learnt that there is no such thing as "sick enough" for mental illness, and that everyone deserves to feel better. I've learnt that mental illness actually detracts from my identity, and that life is so much better now that I'm able to laugh and spend time with my friends. But yes, as far as the question is concerned, it is completely normal to not want to get better and it's something that a lot of people experience at some point[s] along their journey.

Yes. There’s a certain kind of fear connected to “getting better”: it’s change that affects huge parts of who we are and what we’re used to, even if those are parts we simultaneously may wish to go away. On top of that, there is pressure from society that equates “getting better” with “firing into a box” or “agreeing with the norm”, which makes it hard to conceptualize what “better” means on individual basis. It is entirely okay to feel both that fear of change and uncertainty around it, and that sense of “if I get better, I won’t be me” brought on by outside expectations. The trick is to find what “better” means and why it matters *for you*, and take the necessary time to work towards it.

We are human beings. We are different from other animals as we have a brain to make use of. What makes us smart is our ability to think right? If someone wants to get better, what does it mean? Maybe that he is trying tom improve oneself, so that he can have more benefits with every work he does. If he stops developing, don't you think that he might being a human as well. Its a critical question and depends on the persons mindset how he thinks about it. It cant be said its effective but it might be that at certain times, we opt to change our self too much for others. If in that case, then what are you thinking and what is the question asking is probably right.

Let's not get into the discussion of what is normal and what is abnormal. Since this is neither a good criteria nor a motivator. lets focus instead on the fact that some of the people suffering may not want to get better. That may happen. This is exactly why we seek therapy or are suggested therapy. If you are one of those who is currently feeling not wanting to get better, its ok. Such phases come and go. Sometimes we go through trauma and depression for so long that we forget how it is to feel better and so we lose desire to get better. It is lucky if you have people around who keep you wanting to get better. If not approach people, or you are at 7cups which means you have taken a good decision.

It is perfectly understandable to not want to get better. In my own personal experience suffering with depression, I was afraid to go onto medication as I saw my mental illness as a part of me, that medication would somehow change me. However, this was not the case. Many times, individuals living with a mental illness may begin to see it as a part of themselves. Although this isn’t true, sometimes, it feels like it is. The best way to deal with this is to learn both how to manage and lead a healthy life, and to take action that you are comfortable with. The only exception to this may be if you are causing damage to either yourself or to others — or even considering it. In this case, getting better is the goal. I hope this helped!

I think so. I've dealt with depression on and off for nearly eight years, and I'd rather deal with the self-hatred I know then to get better and come crashing back down. Depression IS my normal, and I genuinely feel... comfortable like this. I'm at a point where I can live through the day and cope, and I can feel happiness when I'm distracted by things or people. Recovery is different for everyone, and not everyone wants to/can heal from things like this. You just have to find a point where you're at the very least content, if not happy.

Yes. It is so normal aha, and I feel you there. At the moment I am recovering but it was really hard to get help because I had convinced myself I didn’t deserve to get better. And that might be what your experiencing, it is known that when your in a bad place your mind convinced you that you are worthless and do not deserve to feel happy or get better. But you so do! You so deserve to experience that pure joy or happiness. Everyone deserves to be happy and enjoy life, especially you :) But yes, it is totally normal to not want to get better it’s all a part of the process of healing, for some people it’s like getting in the shower. Some people don’t want to get in the shower but at the same time as soon as they get in the shower they love it, and it’s really hard to get them out. But it’s totally normal and a lot of people experience it.

It is quite understandable to wish to remain the same, we are creatures of habits, and if our mind or body have become used to a certain way of life. We sometimes feel strange or fearful of leaving this "known location". This fear, and struggle is what has helped us throughout the ages since the stone age. Taking a step forward towards a new horizon, and seeking to improve requires a lot of courage. Yet once we "get better", we will also become accustomed to it, the hardest part is making that first step. After that, we can fight to constantly improve, and move towards a better place.

Yes it's 100% normal to not want to get better. The reasons behind this could be because you're scared to get rid of your anxiety / depression/ whatever you're dealing with. While I have not gotten better yet I still feel that fear of feeling scared because I don't know what comes next as I have lived with my condition (anxiety) for so long I don't know what will come after it and even though I know that I will be happier without it it still scares me. Of course there are other reasons like will my friends still like me afterwards when they see the real me or will they hate me. And I know that the reasons are personal and I don't know what yours are but I think that these are fairly general and a lot of people will relate.

I don't know. I know that sometimes it feels like you never will get better, even if you wanted to. But I don't think wanting to get better is required. Maybe it is possible to keep going through the motions and get better, and maybe once you are a little better you will find the want to continue. When you are feeling so empty, maybe the right thing is not to ask. Not to ask if this is what you want, not to ask if you can do it. Just do it. Just keep going. You might find that you wanted to get better all along, and you were just too caught up in negative feelings to realize it.

It’s something that is rarely talked about, but what you are experiencing is in fact normal. I dare say that almost every person struggling with mental health issues has been thinking this way at one point or another, a lot of them even while they were in treatment and had already gotten better. Usually it’s a lack of motivation, or a fear of the unknown that will fade again after a while, it doesn’t mean that you truly won’t ever want to get better. Recovery is often a lengthy process and not always an easy one. But ultimately it is worth it to work to get better. Don’t beat yourself up about thinking the way you are, you’re not alone with these thoughts and they won’t be the end of your progress. I wish you all the best!

Absolutely. During periods of sadness, anxiety, or anger, it feels as if you CAN'T get better, so what's the point? It's incredibly common for individuals to feel as if there is no point in trying to recover from a habit or mental illness. However, it is strongly suggested by lots of people to put in the effort of recovery. For example, self-injury. Those who use self-injury as a coping mechanism may not want to give it up for a variety of reasons, but a main one is usually it's what has worked for them for a long time; something they could turn to and something that would listen to them when nothing would. To sum up that whole paragraph, yes. Should you at least put in some effort towards recovery? Possibly.

No, it's not normal. it is fine to take your time to feel how you feeling and to feel grief for sometimes it’s kind of like your emotional right you are free to feel so and nobody should tell you how you should be feeling in certain situations. But at one point it is very important to step up. That is the only right path for you and the people around you. You can’t be in the dark forever. It’s never healthy for anyone. Never forget humans are emotional being and they will be feeling all sorts of emotions but it’s never okay to be stuck on one. Sadness and heartbreaks always give us so many lessons it only helps us in becoming a better and best version of ourselves. So yea takes your time but don’t be stuck in one place.

I can't say what is normal and what isn't because quite frankly, there is no such thing as "normal". It is "common" for a lot of people who are used to things being a certain way to be afraid of change. This is because, even if the change is for the better, it is unfamiliar. And thus, scary and unwelcome. So yes you are technically correct, in a way. but It is not good, and you may need professional help to really ease you into the healing process. I truly hope you can make it through the wellness path, and emerge happy and healthy. Good luck!

Everyone has there own time span. Think through as to why you have certain feelings and identify the reasons. Be honest with yourself . You are not alone . I am here to help you and guide you. What makes you happy land feel better. Think on a positive note. Know that you are important and can do whatever you set your mind to. You will have good and bad days but keeping a positive mind will help. We learn from life’s experiences. Keep learning and strive to be the best you can.

I think it is very normal to not want to get better. Sometimes whatever we are going through or experiencing can become our comfort because we know it's not changing. But when it does change, and if we do get better, then we walk down a path of unknown and that can be very scary. It also may feel like the support we were getting while we were going through whatever we go through may go away because we are better. Again, this can be scary because we don't want relationship to end with people who have given us support

I definitely think it can feel like we don't want to get better, but that's a problematic way of thinking; mental illnesses like anxiety or depression tend to exhaust and drain people of their energy, and this makes it more difficult to find motivation to initiate things. It might not be that you don't "want" to get better, but that you're simply struggling with a mental illness that is telling you, "You don't need to. Just stay where you are." It's okay to be patient with yourself and your recovery process. Professional help is most effective when you're ready to accept it. But when you start feeling the inkling that you're ready, try not to let your mental illness convince you otherwise.

It is normal to not want to get better, sometimes, or most often, we feel isolated and that no one understands our situation, causing us to refuse efforts to get out of our unpleasant state of mind. This might also be caused by being used to and too comfortable with our current state that it somehow became our comfort zone and the thought of getting out becomes terrifying. whatever the reason is, seeking for help is a brave step an individual can take and that as long as there is external motivation, one will have the possibility of feeling good again

Not wanting to get better is very malicious symptom of depression as it drags person deeper and deeper into black hole without even wanting to get better where all hopes are eventually lost. It is normal for people with depression to not wanting to get better but it also means that depression will drag deeper and deeper. It is one of reason that it is so hard to treat depression as these feelings are integral part of depression. Not wanting to get better can mean that you won't seek help, refuse to get help and thus you won't get help to get better. This way will depression go only worse and worse.