Is it normal to not want to get better?

Of course! A lot of people are accepting of where they're at and don't see how they could make a change. Others know what they have to do but all they see is the amount of work that is needed to be made and it is overwhelming which discourages them from wanting to change.

It is kind of normal, sadly. This is caused by the fact that getting better is hard and a very long way forward. You might feel better being where you are, but after working for a good life, you'll be happy you did!

Some people are desperate to get better while sometimes people are more comfortable with how things are and dislike change or maybe they think it will be too hard or they are scared of change or just unsure. These feelings are normal and it is your choice. Its important to consider all options and decide which one is best for your health and wellbeing.

Some people feel that and I did too. I don't know why but I did. But when you do get better, it's so much.... better! I promise you, you'll be glad you did :)

As we are humans, we sometimes don't want to get better. This however is a concern as it points to the symptoms of depression. It can help to make that initial leap into counselling to get support for this issue.

In general, it is important to see, that most of psychological problems do not only have dysfuctional elements to them, but also functional elements. For example, being depressed might encourage people important to us, to care for us. Avoiding situations due to anxiety might keep us from stressful moments. Due to the fact that most forms of "not feeling well" have some rewarding or stabilizing elements to them, it is understandable to some degree, when people say that a part of them "does not want to get better". However, it is essential to note that the positive consequences of certain psychological issues are usually short term - and they come with negative long term consequences. In the example above, your boyfriend might treat you more carefully or care for you if you are depressed (Positive short-term consequence). However, the constant pressure on the relationship due to the depressed mood might lead to arguments or a break-up as well (long-term negative consequences). Before you are sure, if you really do not want to get better, it is important to carefully evaluate the short term and long term consequences of your current situation. Finally, you have to ask yourself the question: What kind of life do I want to live? Your answer might be, that you want to live on exactly as you are doing right now (i.e. not feeling well). This decision is personal. No one eles is to say if it is "normal" or not.

Yes absolutely. Getting better means the effort of change. That takes a lot of energy and strength. It can certainly feel more safe to stay in your illness. Staying stuck doesnt require effort. Getting better does. The effort of growth, change, and healing. Those are big scary things to consider when you are thinking about the unknown that recovery can bring.

Please elaborate. As in physically better from an illness, or trying not to be a better person each day?

I think the implied idea that mentally ill people are sick because they want to be sick is a lie. The only "mentally ill" people I know of who don't want to get better are people with narcissistic or antisocial personality disorders, and even they didn't choose to be that way. Also, there are currently no cures for most mental illnesses, only treatments. Maybe if more government resources went into research on curing diseases of the brain, there'd be less people who need disability. Anyway, if you genuinely feel not wanting to get better is a problem for you, talk to your therapist and doctor about it. You obviously have other issues that need to be addressed.

Sometimes people can feel “comfortable” with how they feel. I often describe feeling comfortable with being sad. You may not like change, and that’s okay. Not wanting to “get better”, can be very common, but it is not always the best thing. You should tell someone you trust about this feeling. What you are feeling is valid, and understandable. We all need to get better at some point, and change isn’t always a bad thing. Change can be amazing and wonderful, and it could change your life for the better, and for the good. I hope this helped you understand, and please, be kind to yourself.

Everything has cycles. We have times when we just want to relax and times where we are really active. These should be in a balance that is fine with you. I think permanent not-growing is impossible since life will always give you things to grow on, maybe you just dont realize. If that's the case think how you were with 5, 15 and 25 years. Did you change over the course of the years or not? If so, you became most likely a better version of yourself. Extreme lazyness can be an indicator that you didnt find your true goal in life. Maybe you just run around in circles because you haven't found your purpose. Life wants to show you that you need to change something, that is a function of boredom. On the other hand if you did find your purpose and enjoy doing it, I see no hard need to get better. If your emotions are joyful, happy and loving, why would you want to change anything? Try seeing that a lot of this "becoming better" also comes from society. I see growing as one of the biggest treasures we have in life. It is more or less my purpose and way. Especially by growing mentally you will improve your life easier than you thought. What used to be a problem is not one anymore just by changing your mindset. On a side note, there is no "normal". Everyone is individual, and you decide how to live your life ☼

It is absolutely normal to not want to get better. Sometimes our situation provides a sense of comfort and familiarity to us.

Yes, it's normal to feel this way. Your feelings are perfectly valid. Sometimes, though, our feelings of "not wanting to get better" stem from fearing things "will never get better" no matter what we want. Sometimes it's easier to trick our minds into thinking we want all this negativity, so it feels like we're in control of the situation. Again, it's perfectly ok to feel this way. And you have every right to experience it for as long as you need to. Your emotions are the most natural part of life. They come and go like wind or rain. The most important thing to remember is that nothing is permanent. There are thousands of people waiting with open arms to catch you when you fall. If you're feeling down, if you feel like the bad things will never end, always remember help is a heartbeat away. All you have to do is ask.

It is normal, especially for an individual who has a mental illness. For example, having an eating disorder or an anxiety disorder like OCD, an individual may not want to get better as these disorders are familiar to them and make them feel safe and in control. All mental disorders can make an individual feel this way, because of the above or simply because you may be scared of what getting better means or involves. You may feel like you may not want to change the way things are going because of things happening at home or simply because of stigma in which is an extremely powerful thing. Sometimes talking to someone about how we are going and feeling doesn't necessarily mean getting better, it just means talking about what is happening to us.

Yes! For one thing, "better" and "healthy" are totally subjective terms that are determined by the wider culture. We are constantly bombarded with messages saying we have to be "happy" all the time to be considered healthy, but that isn't necessarily true.

I understand how it feels not wanting to get better because every second you spend in this 'place' makes it comfier and it just becomes your home if that makes any sense, but i want you to know that things can get better and feel better! You should be the change and allow yourself to at least try to be happy!! Doesn't it sound better being happy that forever staying in this darkl sad place? Next time you think about staying where you are at now, think about how much better it could be. Hope this helped at least somehow.

I think it’s normal to think that way. For me, I got so used to feel awful that at one point I saw no reason to get better because I was used to not being okay. On top of which, even now, I sometimes feel like quiting and giving up on all the work I’ve done because I feel like I can live with my struggles because I’m so used to them.

I think it’s very normal. Sometimes the gentle voices in our mind are so exhausted that the bad voices take over and it can result in a state of giving up or doing the opposite of what we should.. However I believe as long as our heart beats the gentle voices whom are supporting us in our best interest will always come back to try to guide us. It could even work in this state of not wanting to get better to call out for our true selves, and say “hey! What are you doing to your self? Don’t give up, we are strong and we can do this! “

Not wanting to get better usually means you have been affected on a deeply emotional or psychological level to where you blame yourself and harbour feelings of shame or guilt and feel you don't deserve to be loved, appreciate, or helped. Talking to a therapist or a loved one about how you feel more will be a big step in moving forward and feeling loved.

You have felt this way for a long time so your brain thinks that this is how you like to feel because you feel it all the time its the bodies normal way of dealing with something

It is normal to not want to get better. Getting better is a big change and some people find change scary. If you're worried about not wanting to get better, don't be stressed over it. It is normal and it is an important hurdle to get over on your way to recovery.

Many individuals feel as if they do not want to/cannot get better when they are unwell. This is not unheard of and can be a common thing.

I think it's normal to feel like this, but eventually, you MUST find the motivation from within you to get back up! It's the only way forward. Hope this helps

Yes because sometimes people learn to love the pain. I’m going to paraphrase a quote I heard, “people have to walk through fire at a time I’m their life. Sometimes people come out stronger, sometimes people come out broken and flimsy, and sometimes people learn to love the fire and find comfort in it.”

Absolutely! It can be very comfortable to stay where we are. Wanting to get better means accepting change, which can be frightening and difficult - but it can also be so worth it!

Yes! I am feeling the same way right now, it has been so long since I have been normal I don't know what it's like! Normalcy scares me but by using this website you are taking a step towards managing your symptoms! You are taking the first stay! You are being successful! You are taking charge! You are being healthy! Thank you!

It can be normal! Sometimes, we are so used to having our problems/illnesses that we let them define us. At that point, the thought of getting better might seem undesirable because you are so attached to your problems.

Yes, it is. Some of us may be unconsciously frightened of happiness and love because it is so foreign if we have any kind of past repressed or unrepressed trauma. Getting better acknowledges all the feelings we must feel to get there and maybe some of us aren't ready to face those feelings right now, so being 'stuck' is a form of comfort.

Yes, where you are, especially if you've been there for a while, can feel comforting and normal for you. Avoiding change, like getting better, is hard. For example, living a life of chaos, trauma, and instability will make you crave those things. Because it's all you know. Living a healthy lifestyle will feel strange and even boring. When you feel these things, it's a part of the process. You're just taking another step on your journey to getting better. It is not usually very straightforward. There's denial, the first steps like therapy/research, realization, grieving what you lost, diagnosis, change, coping mechanisms, etc etc etc. So yes, it is very normal.

Probably not. I think that people should want to get better and learn more about what went wrong so it doesn’t happen again.