My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?
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Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 5:46am
You should get new friends or talk it out with the friend that is negative towards you. Your new friends should be supportive.
Sometimes this can be a reflection of some underlying jealousy. Talk to your friend, the best thing to do is tell someone how you feel instead of holding it in and developing frustration. Find a polite way to say that you are bothered by their negativity and ask if there is anything YOU can do to make them be more positive.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2016 2:50pm
For me, the first step I took when I had a friend like that was to have a conversation. I thought maybe she didn't realize how she was making me feel, so I told her how her negativity was hurting me and asked her to try to be more positive. In my situation, this did not work and I got to the point where I realized that the friendship was not worth the negativity so I cut the ties. My suggestion is to first have a conversation (not a confrontation) with your friend about the negativity. If that does not work, then it is up to you to decide whether you value the friendship or your happiness more.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 3:19am
Question, if they really are a good friend. Would a good friend, want you to feel bad? Sometimes we need to distance ourself from negative things, surround yourself with good, it would make your own life easier
You might want to try to figure out what is going on with your friend. There might be something troubling her and she could be acting out. If she hadn't acted like this before, it might best to gently confront her and figure out why. Communication can solve a lot here.
Tell your friend how you feel. Be open and honest with them about how they treat you and what kind of feelings and emotions you have as a result of that. Tell them what you would like to see/hear from them instead as a friend.
Talk to them about it, communicate your feelings both appropriately and respectfully. Maybe you'll discover that it isn't you, but something that they feel they're facing alone.
Try to talk to your friend. The only way to learn the true reason is to ask. Maybe your friend holds some offence on you, you can't be sure if you won't try to find out
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 12:18am
My friend would sometimes tell me things that would hurt my feelings, or put me down or make me uncomfortable. One day I just told her that I didn't like the way she spoke to me, and asked her not to make so many negative jokes oro statements, because they were really bringing me down. She understood and she stopped.
you need to tell her how this makes you feel, and if she gets angry or upset, give her time to think about it, she'll come around
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 12:21pm
Proper communication is the key. Initiate a heart to heart talk, try to find out the reason why your friend is being negative, she/he may also be going through a rough time that you don't know of. If you think your friend won't be changing his/her negative behaviour, staying away or limiting your exposure to negative people will help you protect your mental and emoitional well being.
The first thing you do is to ask your friend what's the reason behind those negativity. Maybe she/he has a reason.
Anonymous
July 16th, 2016 7:21am
I would tell her that i felt hurt that she was always being negative and ask her to talk about it with me.
Maybe one of the best things to do is talk to her about it and tell her how you feel and that the negativity she is displaying is bringing you down.
Ask your friend to meet you somewhere quiet and where you two are alone. Sit her or him down and talk though everything that happaned. Make sure to include that you don't like the way you're being treated by her or him. Make sure you keep a normal voice in this situation. raising our voice will cause many more problems then it solves.
Talk to her if they don't listen find another friendship. Friends should always support you and you support them as well
Always be willing to talk to people if you feel there is a conflict. It may be that you're perceiving them wrong. If it's not, then there's a chance you can talk to them and clear up any negative feelings they may have against you.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 2:11am
Rather than focusing in the negative, focus on the positive. If they are being negative and it bothers you then block it with something positive. It doesn't even have to be related to what they are being negative about, just something positive can make it better.
First all of them help them see the postive side. Second don't make it worse by preaching them or lecture them. If they hurt you then you must speak up and not ignore that will get them more negative.
First of all, sorry to hear about that; it can be hard to deal with negativity regardless, but more so when it is coming from a friend. But as with what to do about it, the best course of action would probably be just to talk to them about it, tell them how you feel, and make sure they fully understand you and you also understand them and their feelings. They may not especially understand that they make you feel this way.
Friends shouldn't be negative towards you, maybe they have their way of joking which is clearly hurting you in which case you should sit down and talk to your friend about it. Explain how what they are saying or doing is making you feel, and tell them exactly word for word. If they don't understand or don't stop then there are many other people out there who could be potential friends and will treat you with the respect that you deserve.
Tell them how you feel about their actions. Tell them honestly. Sit down and have a chat with them, heart to heatedly. Being honest may build a stronger, inseparable bond between the both of you. Talk to some people who could gibe you advice and help you through it!
Talk to them. Tell them what they do or say that hurts you, why it makes you feel that way and why you feel it is negative and that they are negative towards you. They may not realize they are being that way. And if they are, ask why they are being that way. Communicate with them :)
Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 5:34pm
Stop talking to them , you don't need negative energy around you we already live in it so why hang with people like that. Hopefully that helped a bit.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 10:26am
Talk to them about it, they may not realise what they are doing, communication is vital in the up keeping of a friendship.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 1:13pm
Think of your friend's arguments. Evaluate objectively which of them are true for you. If they're truely negative and are not supported then think of why your friend might be doing it and contact them.
Accept their opinion and look at myself to see what I can change or do differently to deal with any issues I'm having, as well as acknowledge that my friend may have their own issues influencing them to feel the way they do.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2016 10:03pm
It happens that by experience of the world . People out grow friendship,friends and relationships over certain period
Of
Time they stop avoiding you. You can try to get
Them back but it doesn't work .If
They comeback and keep friendship for lifetime it is puregold that you have
Warmth of one good companionship. If
They don't return and never listen to avoid you .
It will ruin your mental health and self esteem(necessary for your own growth) you should be more caring about yourself ofcourse you can try to get back your friends you should'nt give up but people who are
Meant to be with you and care
About you never
Leave your side , just like your parents.
Address them about it! In a lot of cases, the friend doesn't always know what they are doing in those situations.
Be positive! Eventually your positive attitude will rub off on him/her.. Just don't let them get you down. If it's getting you down, try putting some healthy distance between her and yourself.
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