My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?
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Anonymous
August 20th, 2016 1:16pm
Do not respond negatively towards them. Try to find the reason why they respond this way. If not talk to a trusted adult, and ask them to help you. If not, try to ignore them. Or ask them why they are doing this.
Anonymous
August 24th, 2016 10:54pm
Talk to your friend and tell them how you feel and stay positive if that doesn't work you don't need him as a friend
well I think you should try talking to your friend and perhaps ask them why they are doing so towards you. you could also try telling them how it makes you feel. good luck x
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 8:37pm
Talk to them. See what's up and if their okay. Maybe try acting more positive around this person.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2016 8:08am
Ask them why they feel this way towards you. Distance yourself a little bit and wait for her to come to you.
You can talk to them about how there negative vibe is towards you and just explain what you would like them to do to help make things. More positive
I would request to speak to her in private and find out what's bothering her. If she's willing to share then I'll listen. However it's important to understand that rarely does people do things because of you but rather because of themselves. Hence I'll walk away from her if the situation doesn't improve. I deserves better.
Anonymous
September 17th, 2016 1:59pm
Ignore them if they can't help you in your bad time then they don't deserve to be in your good time .
perhaps talk to your friend about it. maybe something is affecting them? and if their attitude bothers you, and they won't change how they act towards you, then perhaps put the friendship on hold, or hang out with your other friends for a little while. perhaps your friend just needs some space :)
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 2:38pm
Understand that he/she's not really that great a friend, if a friend at all. Find the people in your life who encourage them and hold on tighter to their friendship....
Take to your friend about why she or he is negative towards you. Maybe you'll discover that it's all in your head or that he or she did not realize they are treating you that way
You should tell your friend. tell your friend what you feel about the negativity, and that you actually dont like it.
Anonymous
October 1st, 2016 6:25pm
talk to them first that they are hurting you and that if they don't have anything positive to say either don't tell me or just stop being friends with me. If they continue just stop being friends with them and ignore them completely.
Well, if your friend is negitive towards you, then she isn't a true friend. Friends should life each other up, not tear each other down. If I was you, I'd ask her what is the reason she's acting that way, and if he behavior continues, it might be time to find some better friends...
If your friend is always mean to you, I would tell you that they aren't a great friend, if you care about yourself then I would tell you to consider leaving that friendship, if you're deeply invested, I would tell you to ask them why they're being so negative. Talk it out, if you're getting upset about it, put yourself and your happiness first, no matter what.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 12:51am
Maybe finding new friends would help. Often when the people around you become negative toward you it can negatively affect your reactions, thoughts, feelings, and overall outlook on life,
Anonymous
October 14th, 2016 9:47pm
Confront them about it. Sometimes we are too scared of what someone might think or how they will react. But truth is if theyre really your friend they will want you to be happy.
You could sit down with your friend on their own and talk to them about how you're feeling. Then you could see how they respond and take it from there.
Anonymous
October 20th, 2016 6:25pm
Some people are negative to others because of something happening to them. I had a friend who kept acting somewhat rude to others when he usually went out of his way to be kind, it turned out he lost a cousin in a car wreck. Try to talk it out with him, he may not realize he is being negative and may be working through something himself at the moment.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2016 5:58pm
Having a sit-down talk with the friend to discuss what bothers will help them realize what they might be doing. If the know, then it may be best to find a new friend that makes you feel good about yourself.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2016 11:11am
You should try and talk to them about your feelings. Maybe they didn't realise that they are so negative and if you tell them they will change. If this doesn't work then maybe you should show them an example of being more positive toward them and see if they change too.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2016 2:40pm
Two things you might be able to try out, one maybe ask him/her the reason of why they're always negative around you and maybe that'll help clearing things up, or sometimes people might be negative due to their nature or maybe they've been through something very rough so it may not exactly be only toward you always. Either ways, communication is probably the best way to find out and reach a mutual understanding maybe, the rest is up to you :)
If they are indeed your friend let them know how you feel about that neagtivity. Friends tend to be harsh towards other friends they care about but you can still express to them how it makes you feel.
Try getting a new friend, or maybe (if you really want to be in a friendship w/ them) try figuring out why they might be behaving towards you in a negative way.
Try talking to your friend. See why they're doing that, and express how it makes you feel. If it gets too bad, then maybe that friendship isn't healthy anymore for you, and it might be time to look more towards other friends rather than keep someone like that in your life and give them so much power over you.
Talk to him or her. Chances are that they are dealing with stresses in life that are affecting their mood and attitude towards other things in their life. Be a friend for them. If they prove that they are not worth it, then remove the friendship from your life.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2017 8:33am
People always have opinions. They will judge you no matter what. Even if you are friends with them or stranger. So negativity is always there. You can stop your friends at some point, But when they simply can not stop being negative towards you then be positive yourself. Try ignoring their negative thoughts, If you can not then give your positive thought.
If your friend is making you feel negative and acting negatively towards you, you may want to reconsider if this person is REALLY your friend. A friend is someone who will support you and make you feel happy, someone who you can turn to for help and advice and chill out with, not someone who will spread negative vibes and put you down!
Anonymous
February 16th, 2017 6:14pm
I try to ignore certain moments and see all that the person did good for me. But all has a limit. If they repeat it more times, I would try to stay distant and let them understand alone. And if they ask for explanations I would give it to them kindly.
Communication is always the best option. Tell them how you feel and if they continuously return to being negative then you ought to consider whether their friendship really means that much to you that you're willing to take that negativity on board.
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