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How do I know if I'm a bully?

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Profile: peacefulSky56
peacefulSky56
September 7th, 2016 12:30am
if you feel that you enjoy people's pain and see them suffering, the desire of repeating it over and over to weak people then you are a bully
Profile: Kat140615xx
Kat140615xx
September 18th, 2016 3:12pm
If your making someone feel worthless or pulling them down constant, or making fun of them for no reason. But if you are acting like this please stop it. there is so many deaths due to bullying, remember its not healthy.
Anonymous
September 25th, 2016 1:28am
In most cases bullies tend to continuously harass someone in person. Though, there are different situations in which a person could harass someone online. This is called cyber bullying. Do you tend to call someone something that is meant to hurt them day in day out?
Anonymous
October 5th, 2016 8:29pm
Well it depends, if you just say something as a joke to someone not often, then you aren't a bully. But if you're constantly nagging on the same person then that makes you a bully
Profile: MKDavis
MKDavis
October 5th, 2016 10:02pm
If you repeatedly disrespect another person for no good reason. Be friendly and caring, people will act the same to you
Profile: FuzzyBunny2
FuzzyBunny2
October 6th, 2016 7:52am
To my limited experience I'd say if you do harmful things to others, things that if happen to you, you will be sad
Profile: aussiesarah
aussiesarah
October 6th, 2016 12:59pm
If most of what you say to or about people is negative, then you are probably participating in some kind of bullying behavior. If people tend to avoid you or mention that what you are saying is mean or unfair then there is also a very high chance. A final tip is that if you have found yourself thinking "Am I a bully?" and not being able to immediatly dismiss it, that is a very sure sign in itself
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 4:53pm
If you make people feel hurt or threatened, you are probably a bully. So if you are doing any of these things, please stop. Treat others how you want to be treated.
Profile: Sunshineinapocket
Sunshineinapocket
October 9th, 2016 3:35pm
You are a bully if you hurt people . Wether verbally or physically . For example , insulting others ina very hurtful way is verbally bullying . If you hit others till they have bruises , that is physically bullying . If you think you are a bully , please stop bullying . Everyone deserves a right to be happy
Anonymous
October 19th, 2016 8:07pm
You know that you are a bully If people are scared or intimidated by u. People usually know when they r not treating others right
Anonymous
October 19th, 2016 11:08pm
Usually bullies taunt, pick on, harass peers frequently. If you think you're a bully, try watching your actions and think to yourself, "Would I want this to happen to me?"
Profile: DancingDaffodil
DancingDaffodil
October 23rd, 2016 9:01pm
If a group of people are hurting you emotionally, physically, and/or mentally. From personally experience, if you feel as if you're being isolated by the people around you.
Profile: courageousKermit25
courageousKermit25
October 26th, 2016 11:20am
you may be happier, when you threat on others. May be do not want to accept people that are different
Anonymous
October 27th, 2016 8:07am
Well you would be picking on people either physically or emotionally and or both and yeh it's really hard to identify sometimes
Anonymous
October 28th, 2016 3:38pm
If you noticed that someone doesn't like you at all and he's afraid of being somewhere with you, maybe it's because your acting like a bully. Remeber everyone has their problems, do not be one of them. You are not cool if you are making fun of someone else, just remeber, they have emotions, thoughts and a heart just like you.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2016 6:30pm
One can be considered a bully when they point out people's weak points in a degrading manner, when they are enjoying a person's distress when they do so.
Profile: AnimeGeek02
AnimeGeek02
November 10th, 2016 9:05pm
If you tease people over and over, you relay threatening messages, or you enjoy talking bad about ppl.
Profile: avanef
avanef
November 16th, 2016 10:04pm
If you are hurting someone and are unaware about it, look back on how you speak to people, how you've been acting lately and try to see if that has reflected on anyone you know, Best way to address and fix the situation is to apologize and talk it through.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2016 12:10am
if you treat people the way you wouldn't want to be treated. You are being mean to them, hurting them. You are mistreating them
Profile: AutumnLeigh
AutumnLeigh
January 19th, 2017 11:45pm
If you feel the only way to feel good about yourself is to mentally or physically hurt others, you may be a bully. Try to put yourselves in the shoes of people you may be hurting. How awful would it be if YOU were someone picked on for looking or acting 'different'. Trying to understand how others feel is a good start to learning to treat everyone equally.
Profile: wishfulHeart79
wishfulHeart79
February 3rd, 2017 8:34pm
You are a bully when you call someone a name, or talk bad about them. You are a bully if you make someone cry, or hurt them in anyway.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2017 12:38pm
Bullying behaviour can include: verbal abuse, such as name calling and gossiping non-verbal abuse, such as hand signs or text messages emotional abuse, such as threatening, intimidating or humiliating someone ignoring or isolating someone criticising or spreading rumours physical assaults, such as hitting and pushing making silent, hoax or abusive calls online or cyberbullying
Profile: LexTheListener
LexTheListener
February 8th, 2017 6:49pm
If the person whom you think you are bullying is bothered by the things you say or how you treat them physically, emotionally, etc., then you are almost definitely mistreating them. Talk to them and get to know this person better, and find out if you really are being a bully.
Profile: dizaztor
dizaztor
February 24th, 2017 1:49am
It can often be quite difficult to know whether you're bullying, purely because nobody likes to assign that sort of negative label to themselves. Think about what you are doing, if you are upsetting someone. Talk to him/her about it.
Profile: rainyAngeldani
rainyAngeldani
March 10th, 2017 2:54pm
Talk to yourself. I know it sounds crazy but repeat what you are saying to others to yourself. If it sounds harsh and would hurt your own feelings and you know that you have been doing that regularly to yourself then that should help.
Profile: Tommy27
Tommy27
April 8th, 2017 7:03pm
A bully doesn't always know that they are one, it's how the victim pursues the situation. If they become hurt or negatively affected psychologically, physically or from social media, even if you don't mean any harm, it would still be classed as bullying. To avoid any misunderstanding, try and make sure that they know that what you have said is a joke or ask them why they feel the way they feel. :)
Profile: HeyImGwen
HeyImGwen
April 14th, 2017 8:33pm
Bullies tend to feed off of others' pain or negative emotions. If people fear to be around you, or tend to get quieter or scared when you come into a room, you may be a bully.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2017 9:43am
if you are putting others down and belittling them for their appearances, behaviour or personal likes then you are most defiantly bullying. Physical and mental belittlement, such as mocking, pushing and judging count as bullying
Profile: VanessaGraceStory
VanessaGraceStory
June 15th, 2017 11:10pm
a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker. someone who uses superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2017 3:46am
Sit down in a quiet place and think to yourself if your actions towards others have hurt them.......