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How do I know if I'm a bully?

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Anonymous
September 29th, 2018 12:39am
This one is a hard one to answer as you'd think you would know that you were a bully or not however it's not always as crystal clear as you'd like to think. There are many signs that you are a bully, the more obvious ones are that someone starts avoiding crossing your path, people start avoiding eye contact when speaking for you, people start becoming more silent around you or you ignore someone with purpose. Some other signs which is not as obvious is that you blame everyone else for your problems and you surround yourself with people who never challanges your views.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2018 8:16pm
If you're hurting others through your words or actions, whether physically, emotionally, or verbally, etc., then this is considered bullying.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2018 10:25am
You know if you are intentionally hurting someone else as a way to feel better about yourself or in order to get a sense of acheivement, self worth or strength. If you feel as though you are doing so, don't blame yourself but try to understand your reasons for doing so, this will help you stop hurting both yourself and others. Talk to listeners and other experienced individuals here in 7 cups, who will guide you through this. Don't feel overly guilty as well. Try and reach out to the person you think you might be bullying, and speak to them about your behaviour towards them. This will help you both understand each other, get rid of ill feelings and relieve hurt. Hope you feel better!
Anonymous
August 17th, 2018 3:29am
If it does affect the person you are bullying, whether it is emotionally or physically, then you are technically bullying others. This does not matter whether you do in individually or with a group. There is a thin line between joking and bullying and it is important to know the cut-off. It is also possible to bully someone without being aware of it yourself, so it would be highly appreciated if you would think whether your actions will be fine if you are on the receiving end. There is also indirect bullying, that could take forms in rumors or gossips. Please do be careful.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2018 5:39am
Take a very long and hard look at the things that you do and say to the people around you if you wouldn’t want them things being done or said to you you might be a bully
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delightfulBraveheart44
August 2nd, 2018 5:24am
You tend to pick on people for unnecessary reasons. You feel as if making someone feel bad will help you be popular.
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3HereForYou3
July 28th, 2018 6:33pm
If you use your superior ability/influence to intimidate somebody else (eg. to force them to do something) that's bullying. Bullying is basically making someone feel small consistently.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 1:15am
You could know if you’re a bully,when you’re making someone feel bad and when you intentionally say specific things to hurt people’s feelings
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2018 6:12am
Having been a bully once, I would recommend broaching this concern with whomever you think you're bullying because you may not know when you are making them feel nervous or apprehensive or insecure about themselves.
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BrandonCares1074
May 5th, 2018 1:44am
If you are repeatedly harming our harassing someone, this means you are bullying that person. Bullying is the repetition of harassment.
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cheerfulOrange88
May 3rd, 2018 3:57pm
By asking the people that you are joking with if they consider this a bullying or no,if its bullying so you have to stop this so people like you
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Pumpkin74
April 6th, 2018 11:42am
The best way to discover if you are a bully is to put yourself in others shoes. Would you be your friend if you were them? Would you feel good if someone talked to you the way you do to others? Are their feelings hurt? Do they seem quiet around you? Many times we forget our jokes and the way we talk put others down but words and actions are powerful even if we don't mean to intentionally bully.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 6:52pm
There are lots of ways for you to be considered a bully. If you insult the other person, if you call them names, make fun or them, that's considered psychological bullying. Now, if you punch them, kick them, slap them... that's physical bullying
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 10:42pm
When you put others down, spread or make rumours, call people names, threaten people with violence, or use online platforms to make someone feel bad about themselves
Anonymous
June 9th, 2022 9:02pm
If you are a bully, it isn’t too late to apologise and change your ways to become a better person, however if you are not sure, here are some questions you can ask yourself: 1.) Have I ever repeatedly hurt someone physically? 2.) Do I say or do anything that could be triggering to them repeatedly? 3.) How would I feel if they treated me how I treat them? 4.) If I am engaging in banter, is everyone enjoying it, joining in and feels okay with it? 5.) Do I insult someone repeatedly? 6.) Do people feel safe around me? 7.) Would I say these things to people I care about regularly? 8.) Is it my fault? If you are questioning it though, it shows you can admit your flaws and want to be a good person, which is a good sign and shows you are caring.
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Willofheart
January 7th, 2018 11:17am
When others begin to distance themselves from you, or you sense fear or resentment in them towards you, when you find yourself taking out your internalized insecurities and frustrations out on someone that seems like a weak and easy target, that's when.
Anonymous
January 19th, 2018 1:02am
To know if your a bully is if you're picking on kids that you think are weak and you think it can better your own situation emotionally, verbally or by internet and you continue to taunt them and tease them anyway even if you know it isn't right thing to do.
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goldenLion84
January 19th, 2018 2:44am
Bullying is a very general term, and can mean many things depending on the situation. A typical example of this would be to hurt someone either directly or indirectly. This can be through the use of social media, gossiping, direct contact, etc.
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SchrodingersCat00
January 24th, 2018 12:48pm
A bully usually dominates the individual(s) being bullied in one or more ways, so look for signs of that. Ask yourself if you are, for example, usually the one making the decisions, or if you tend to dominate the conversation. What about criticizing others, even in a joking manner? This can be a sign of bullying also. Sometimes we don't realize how often this bothers others.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 6:18am
If you intentionally put others down, you may want to take a step back and check in with yourself. Are you treating others the way you want to be treated? Why do you feel the need to put others down? Is something bothering you that's making you feel like this is the best action? Talking to someone is a great outlet to resolving those emotions.
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CroissantMaster
February 7th, 2018 7:54am
If you harass other people outside and inside school, whether it's physical or verbal assault and if you let other people down to make your self happy.
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Azymus
February 21st, 2018 8:54am
Well, bullies hurt people intentionally more than once. If you suspect you're a bully, I suggest you ask yourself wether you've been hurting someone on purpose. However, keep in mind that sometimes it's just you feeling upset, and it isn't necessarily meaning you're a bully. Just keep an eye out, and try to keep some of the bad feelings in and don't lash out on people just because of a bad day.
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SorrowfulSerendipity
March 2nd, 2018 2:10pm
Try and figure out why you are doing the things which you are. Are you behaving in a specific way because you want to make other people feel worse about themselves or because you have a malicious intent? If you think this may be the case don't worry, it's great that you have realised this and now you can move forward and improve yourself as a person as well as improving your relationships with the people around you. If you have been trying to hurt someone then take the initiative to apologise and reassure that person that you will not do this again. Alternatively if you are not actively trying to hurt other people and you think you simply end up doing so without intending to then it will also be beneficial to have a conversation with those people. Tell the people who you think you have hurt that it was not your intention to hurt them and that you are sorry if they ended up feeling hurt or offended by what you said or your behaviour. Don't worry you are taking a very good step in your self discovery and you can take this opportunity to improve yourself as a person, have an honest conversation with whoever you think you have hurt. They will greatly appreciate this as it will take some reflection and courage. Hope everything works out well
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Engineeringhappiness
March 9th, 2018 8:37am
have you hurt anyoe deliberately over and over again? if you have go apologize and dont do that again. then you wont be a bully
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originalLove71
March 3rd, 2018 12:50pm
Your words or actions hurt someone and you know it's hurting someone but still you aren't stopping and actually feeling good about it then you are a bully.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2018 9:45pm
think about all the stuff that you have done to ask that question, now think about what your intentions were when you did or said that, and think about how it made others feel.
Anonymous
February 28th, 2018 7:48pm
Are you making fun of others - harrassing them - insulting them - talking about them behind their backs? When thinking about a certain person here - maybe you could talk to them and find out what they think of you?
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WinterCallsHereo
February 28th, 2018 4:23am
If others are scared of you, or if you are often called to the office, you will feel disconnected, you will want someone to listen but you don't know where to start.
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summerlov
March 27th, 2018 8:22pm
There are several ways to know if you are being a bully. First off, if you are doing “small” gestures such as rolling your eyes at someone, ignoring someone on purpose, or doing anything to hurt the persons feeling even if it’s small movements is considered bullying. Although if you are constantly doing those small things you are a bully, yet if you are taking things to the next level such as gossip, picking on someone, or even taking it to the physical level than you are being a bully, though there is a difference between bullying and being a bully.
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Salty
March 1st, 2018 7:14pm
Put yourself in the shoes of someone you talk to. Then reverse the roles. Imagine you were in the their shoes, and they talked to you like you talk to them, and how would you react?