Why does breaking up hurt so much?

You've shared yourself to someone who meant quite a bit to you- there will be guilt, pain, and even regret when it doesn't go as planned. However, it is a strong reminder that relationships are more than two people claiming to be with one another. It's about experiences, and true friendship that is worth discovering the right one for us :)

Break ups hurt because we're mourning, we miss the person we loved, we miss what we had and what we thought we'd have with them in the future. When you're with someone you spend so much time investing in them and the relationship, and to loose that hurts.

because when you break up, you have a feeling of "what if" that wont leave your mind, and you have "hope" in your heart, and "hope" is something that effects every emotion, so no matter what emotion you feel, the "hope" is right there. Its why when someone dies it doesnt always hurt as long, because you know they are dead, there is no hope they will come back you know, but with a break up, you have hope

it's hurt so much because its like shattering all your dreams with that person.. one thing is when you already build your world around him/her, making believe yourself that no one more worth than her/him the trust, the effort everything that involves you with that person thats why it really hurt specially if both ou you end up in unexpected time..

It's just the process of life really and it's no one's fault but these things just unfortunately happen!

Breaking up hurts so much because you have emotions. Without emotions you wouldn't even be human. Hurting makes you human. Remember that. And remember that when its dark enough, you can see the stars.

Because you are letting go of something you loved so much you done everything together and probley found your self whilst being with that person you shared so much together and so any different amotions it's hard to let go of something you helped buld and now you have to let it go

Whether you're breaking up mutually, you're breaking up with your partner, or they're breaking up with you, breakups almost always hurt. It's because you're mourning a close relationship that you had with someone. Even if you'd been drifting apart, knowing that relationship is over for good is painful. Feeling sad about breakups, even when the relationship that ended was toxic, is perfectly natural. However, if the sadness gets to the point where you want to harm yourself, or it doesn't go away after an appropriate amount of time, it's best to talk to a mental health professional.

Breaking up hurts in my opinion for a few different reasons. It may be because of the feeling of rejection, lonlieness. Etc. However I learned that even though initially we have those feelings as time goes on they dissipate and we may have experienced a blessing.

For me, it hurts because of the loss of potential. Yes, you miss the idiosyncrasies of the other person but you've day dreamed about your future. You've planned and most likely sacrificed together. Breaking up causes you to start your goals at step one again or change them completely. You also start to wonder what you did wrong. Why couldn't this person love me? In most cases, it was not you. The person just grew in a different direction than you did. A tree thinks it will grow straight up to the sky, closest to the sun, but wind and weather and the very dirt they are planted in may change their course. We are like that too. Breaking up causes you to reevaluate how you identify yourself and sometimes that is scary. I put so much of my identity into being someone's someone that I felt lost when I no longer was. During this time, it is important to ground yourself in love and figure out what makes you happy and chase it.

I think breaking up hurts so much because you're invested in someone. You become interested in what they love and hate and about their personal views. But sometimes we forgot how valuable our own factors are because we've invested so much in focusing on theirs that when they are no longer there, it hurts to slowly detach from that. It causes a lot of pain everywhere and especially in perception that it can affect everyday life easily. Maybe a broken heart cant be fixed but it can be healed.

I think breaking up hurts because it's natural human instinct to form bonds with each other. Back in the days of cavemen when most humans were part of small, hunter-gatherer groups, being able to stay together was essential to survival. The more people you had working together, the more resources you could get, and the better your chance of survival for yourself and your offspring. Things have changed now though, and with so many people on the planet it's now much easier to move from group to group. But that instinct to stay together is still there.

Because your heart become accustomed to familiarity, and now that that familiarity is gone it hurts. IT hurts because you invested time into someone, and now they are gone. It is often hard for many people to let go of someone they spent so much time and effort on. Specially if the feelings became deep.

It hurts because of the pain of separating someone who you thought wouldn't leave you and love you forever, would eventually will do those things to you. It's learning quite the hard way.

Being in love is like a drug. You get so attached to this person and so hopeful that it'll work out, and all the negativity is blocked out. when a break up happens, it's like your hopes have been crushed and you're ripped away from this person. It's like going through withdrawals, and it hurts every day until you get used to being on your own again.

Breaking up hurts because when you are with someone they are your everything; your best friend, family, partner, future, past and present. You become one person. When you break up you lose everything, it's the fear of the unknown, of having to change the future which your heart was set on, losing your best friend, family, their family. You feel alone and like you'll never find anyone ever again. Your whole world comes crashing down around you and you feel as if you've lost a huge part of you. You struggle to see the light and the end of the very dark tunnel you seem to be trapped in. However in time you realise that everything happens for a reason, you realise you are strong and that you can do this on your own. You look back on the sleepless nights, the tears and the heartbreak and you laugh, because you are free and you have never been happier. Time heals all wounds.

You invest so much into the person you care for, and you invest so much time as well. It hurts when you've given so much to have it taken away.

It's like ripping away something that has been a part of you for so long and watching that part of you disappear. It can hurt when being the one breaking up because no one wants to be that person, but no one wants to go on in a relationship and know that nothing will change for the good no matter how hard you try.

Sometimes the feeling of loss can apply to relationships. Memories made are there in your heart though, it never gets easier but trust me, you can patch yourself right up and keep pushing forward. You never know what new doors may have opened

When we are being ignorant or rejected we feel pain. After a breaking up we lose a person who loved and cared us. And we became ignorant and rejected by that person.

Break up hurts so much because we as a human being we mostly love the things that makes us happy and avoid things that makes us sad. So we are always ready to take happy things like falling in love, gifts, party, kiss etc and when falling in love gives us all the happiness, we never imagine about negative side of it like arguments, restriction etc. hence when break up is taking away all the joy that the relationship gave we feel completely broken, and we feel more emotional than ever. We also take more time to move on because that break up gives you fear about relationship in general so even if we think about falling love in again, the memories we had in the past relationship won't let us to. But we should remember that this pain is not permanent and it will take us high in our life

It hurts because you suddenly faced with the realization that someone that was once so important and dear to you has to not be part of your life anymore. It's a death of a relationship. It's a sudden change. It is very painful losing someone that was once very important to you.

It hurts because you have to let go of what you loved the most. The best thing to do to handle it would be to just let faith and the universe take its place you will be happy again. Try to move on and do whats best and healthy for you.

Because you are suffering a loss, like losing a loved one who has passed away. You will also, similarly, go through the stages of loss and grief.

they hurt so much because you are madly in love with that person

Breaking up can hurt a lot. Especially because of how close the two of you were and you enjoyed each others company. You probably wouldn't want him/her to date anybody else or see them with somebody else and it could hurt you a lot. Breaking up is like suddenly everything just stopped. You were doing well and then it ends. That's why it hurts. I'm so sorry you're going through a break-up.

because you put your trust and love in to one person that you spend a long time talking to/hanging out with and for it to just finish is a very painful thing, the pain does get easier however, it just needs time to heal

When you are with someone you bond with them. Most of the time the bond is broken due the other person. So you feel betrayed and the bond with the person you trusted is broken.

It's because you feel that you will never hold something just as good ever again.You feel like you will never find someone who fits you "perfectly".don't worry you will :D

Because you were loving that person and you spent a lot of time with her.... I guess thats why......