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Why does breaking up hurt so much?

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Why does breaking up hurt so much?
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Lalaxoxo
January 1st, 2016 5:54pm
Because we love them. We put so much effort into something that has gone forever. It hurts, it really does, because we feel like it's a waste of our time and that person won't be around like they was before.. It hurts bad. But it's a good experience in the end
BatWings89
January 1st, 2016 7:32pm
Change can be difficult and it's a total abolition of all the dreams of the future you had with that person. It is definitely over and we humans have a hard time letting go of things we had, especially if we're sentimental about them. We're often more nostalgic about what was, then what is. More over you're falling free, all is new, which can be stressful and exhiting and you loose a part of yourself, the part where you buildt yourself around them and have to rebuild now, which, again takes some courage but has many options too. Take care and take your time. It will get better.
HakunaMatata89
January 2nd, 2016 10:33am
It hurts because you are losing someone you care for, love and are intimate with. Many times you feel they are your other half. You have someone who use to be your friend, other half and rare, special companion, someone who seems irreplaceable. Then they become nothing, just blank. You're left with the empty hole, where they once resided. They leave and they take a part of you with them.
MrSpace
January 2nd, 2016 2:22pm
Break ups hurt that much because metaphorically: Love is like a drug, when you withdraw from it, you'll feel the side effects. After a break up, you're basically prying yourself apart from something that plays quite a major part in your daily life. Whether you're the one who breaks ups with your ex-partner or vice versa, there was a heartbreaking decision of leaving someone whom you've given your heart to. By giving your heart to that person, it would mean giving trust and sharing many personal and unique experiences. By letting that go, you can only imagine why it would be that painful. The fact that you transitioned to lovers to strangers in just a single can also be a very huge thing to take in.
jadelima1
January 3rd, 2016 8:23pm
Because we miss the person we love, we miss their smell, their hugs and their presence. It feels like a part of us has been taken out of our hearts. It really hurts.
chamomilewizard
January 6th, 2016 2:25am
It is someone you love, or thought you used to. The shock is difficult to process and get through. I am sure you will get through it eventually, though!
pandalistener06
January 6th, 2016 4:44am
Because you love that person so much and it is never easy to let go of of someone you are used to be with; there will always be a hole inside your heart for that person and there could be no way to "un-love" a person.
PerfectParadise37
January 6th, 2016 6:02am
You lost the love of your life the one who you thought you were going to have a future with, you feel like you lost everything.
IAmGladUCame
January 6th, 2016 5:56pm
Because, If you are the person who is breaking up with someone, you feel bad for the person, because in general, you still care about him/her. If someone breaks up with you, it's sad because in general you still want to be with that person,
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 6:02pm
We got used to be with our boyfriend or girlfriend and it is really difficult to imagine our world without them, because they were part of everything in our life.
TylerOrTash
January 7th, 2016 12:34am
When you are with someone, you are basically habituated with him/her being around. It's like whenever anything happens in your life, any small event, you share it with him/her before any one else. Now when you break up, this person leaves, thereby creating a huge void in your life. You still want to share those little things with some one, but alas, you have no one! And that really makes you feel lonely and is extremely painful. That is why, my friend, break ups hurt so bad!
TheForce19
January 7th, 2016 4:28am
Breaking up hurts quite a bit because of the expectation of being part of something that could lead to something bigger did not work for us. We mourn a relationship, but you can always get back up.
musicalDew34
January 7th, 2016 7:21pm
Because breaking up with someone breaks you completely and you couldn't be back same as before you used to be
caringIceCream67
January 8th, 2016 3:44am
Breakup as far as believe is cutting a strong bond... We used to spend all our time and life with them and suddenly breakup brings and an end to this. So it takes time to adjust for a life without him or her.
Geminisecret
January 8th, 2016 3:49am
i think is because your loosing a person who you love or you use to love, a part of you, i think its either because we all know that after a break up we are gonna miss him/her, all the things we use to do together, and all that
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 7:57am
it hurts because we get emotionally attached to that person sometimes physically as well. that person becomes our need and when we break we can't find them and we burst out. it becomes difficult to handle the situation and specially the memories which one has made with their partner.
Caitlin7cups
January 9th, 2016 12:27pm
Breaking up hurts so much because falling in love with someone is a deep emotion, so for the emotion and relationship to end, and not be able to show your love for someone is tough. But also, things, actions, and even words remind people about what them and their partner did.
GrowthMindset17
January 10th, 2016 3:30am
It is normal. It hurts because you really loved that person and it is hurting your heart not to be able to give them the love you can.
lostinmyworld
January 10th, 2016 3:47am
Because if you truly love someone, losing them is the hardest thing ever. But soon you will find someone else.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 11:13pm
Because you have to trust someone enough to be in a relationship with and by cutting off that relationship you are losing that trust and strong bond
Soarfree
January 16th, 2016 9:24am
Breaking is not and easy thing to do , and most people know that. Breaking up hurts so much because you are letting go of things that you have loved.
Bornfree
January 16th, 2016 7:03pm
Breaking up hurt so much because everything comes to an end within seconds & something insides gets breaking up slowly
Letshelpeveryone
January 19th, 2016 6:49am
Often it is the deepest pain witch empowers you to grow to your strongest self. You can get through this trust me!
ughhitshaley
January 20th, 2016 5:43am
they hurt because you are trying to move on from a person that you really love and care about and would do anything for.
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 11:13pm
because when you love someone and then you lose them it always hurts . but you should not think negative.
crownrosemary
January 24th, 2016 4:14am
It hurts because you grow to love that person or you confide in that person and it's been awhile since you've been alone to b your own individual
lexieejolleen
January 28th, 2016 9:13pm
Because you care so much for that person, you may be in denial about it, but its true. You actually have feelings for your partner.
Daniela95
February 3rd, 2016 1:44pm
Losing a relationship with someone we cared deeply about is always hard. Take you time to recover from this, try out some new hobbies and try working on your personal growth.
smilingMinions
March 21st, 2016 5:15pm
Because you are used to your loved ones, i totally agree that its hurts but if even you have a god or cat and it leaves you or die ,you feel so much so its a matter of your closeness, for me, you invest a lot of on your relationship ,you invest your sincerity your loyalty your good time your bad time your money your happiness your sad memories even sometimes you prefer more than your family so definitely it hurts.
OGMissy
May 26th, 2016 5:34pm
it just does sister the sooner you realize that the better